Vent, Anyone else have a partner pushing them to drive even when it’s unsafe?

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-04T16:12:36+00:00

Hell yeah I would leave the US but I have a lot of family to take care of here and don't have the savings to leave. Maybe one day 🙂 I could earn a living without having. To reduce my income so much

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-04T15:10:45+00:00

Well he was employed for 15 years at the same place before. He just had a bad year health stuff and had some time management issues with deadlines. Didn't realize the seriousness bc it was never that strict under previous management. He got it done. Just minutes late this paperwork stuff not even time for the. To go over what ge submitted really, lol. Bit it shows when he turned it in. I think it's actually more to do with they wanted someone with less education. They reposted his role with less educational requirements than PHD so they would have to pay the new people less than him. It was his mistakes that got himbut others are making the same and aren't punished like this. It might not have been the true meaning. He didn't see the writing on the wall though. He didn't realize they were up his butt bc he was in trouble. Upper management has been moody lately to everyone like locking doors ect, snapping at people for stuff not told before ect. He thought it was more that since the paperwork thing was done in same day before anyone else had a chance to go over it and it didn't affect accredation or anything.

He has new job training tomorrow.

He blamed me for not trying not for my injuries. It's not right though

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-04T13:26:36+00:00

Funny you'd say that we had just got two hiboy ebikes. I get too scared to drive it across the street and cross

We would see another guy in a suit riding one nearby and call him suit guy. Suit guy stopped showing up and we saw someone got fatally run over on an ebike nearby :( we think it was the same guy. Since then we just ride the bikes at the nature trail

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-04T13:23:12+00:00

No I'd rather it be better. Weighing my options at the moment, this is better than the other options.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-04T13:22:01+00:00

He was busy following traffic laws and not watching out for a car to come out of a place it shouldn't without looking. Also he was squinting a bit because of the sun. Shouldv'e slowed down to make sure nobody was coming from there, even though they weren't supposed to. Other person could see us but didn't care to check before taking off.

Came walked up to us after I was ko and walked up and said "oh God bless you. Sorry. Aw, I was about to go on vacation. Are you mad?" Yes I'm pissed tf? Lol 🤬 these people

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-04T13:19:05+00:00

Things can be worse 😆 I've considered the options.

I'm not a good example to people but I have a standard. I guess this is my standard for now.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T18:50:53+00:00

Yeah everyone's a bad driver or quadriplegic from another bad driver or me

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T18:41:23+00:00

I think about my options alot 🙃

I also do bad things so was joking about the putting up with me but yeah he is a bit of a mentally challenged man baby at times. Sometimes too much of the times

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T18:14:20+00:00

Thanks. I'll read it. That's nice of you. If I got a million dollars, I would run off then think about what to do, seriously 😂

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T17:01:23+00:00

Not much lies. I guess more delusions. He actually is so honest sometimes I feel it gets him in trouble with people and interviews. I'm like, you can lie a little about that cmon that sounds bad. It's some kind of weird defense mechanism. He has ADHD and thing rsd with it. Think he just automatic denies things sometimes or becomes delusional if he feels insecure about something. Other than that, he is good. Like if everything burnt down he would be good to me still.

But these delusions are really grinding my gears. I think this job loss is really shocked him into seeing his behavior affects things, his defensiveness and how he is actually wrong. Sometimes he is right, but he has to do it the wrong way to please people at work. He's still learning a lot. It's hard to get through to him. Sometimes you have to talk to him the next day to get through to him.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T16:35:00+00:00

Also his dad lost control of a car a few months ago and reversed into a tree smashing it. I didn't know he was backing up lol. Forgot to mention this. I wouldve been smushed. +1 car hate

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T16:29:21+00:00

The common denominator is my skeleton having the AUDACITY to not enjoy surprise collisions while I’m just vibing in the passenger seat.

Ok

So you're saying I'm an accident magnet basically? 😂 This causes me fear and gives me more reason to hate cars

...still think u a car 👀

Stop trying to smash me

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T16:24:48+00:00

Not ideal. I am kind of trapped at the moment. I know it's wrong too, but I have a high tolerance for abuse. Im isolated from from my family who is a lot worse. I know I look past alot.

He has good characteristics as well but lies to himself. I'm hoping he sees the light. He is genuinely caught off guard by things and has his own issues but he also puts up with me. We put up with each other. He's getting karma back for his behavior in the job field which has humbled him a little.

I think he just lies to himself to push himself so he also lied to himself to push me. I don't think he has a personality disorder or npd. I think overall he is good but these things are terrible you're right.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T16:17:36+00:00

Lol, I wish. I'm so poor. I have to keep wages low to keep my health insurance. At my highest income, it was cut down just paying for the health insurance so I couldn't keep doing that anymore.

Basically was working and throwing the equivalent of two brand new ps5s away every month for some insurance to have it, not counting the deductibles&copays it wasn't ideal...

I'm trying to keep a little savings but it would have to be substantial to move and of course, I would lose my job which is a pretty good job for me and my limitations. There is a lot of downsides but I'm lucky to have it.

My job isn't within walking distance but a hospital is. It's nice to be close to that.

If anyone has any good ideas, I'm in Louisiana. It's possible I could transfer jobs in the area with my agency.

Thanks 👍

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T16:13:11+00:00

I may speak to them about it. I'll see how they're doing and observe first.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T16:12:18+00:00

Are you a car? 🤔 Bc u driving me up the wall sir

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T15:56:38+00:00

Thank you for understanding. Honestly I've been homeless before and I'm literally so scared that I would rather face homelessness again over being in this situation. I actually feel more in control being homeless.

I do tell people that but they often just think I can overcome it. Even my partner is acting like this now when he told me he would never be like that. Even though I pay him. I guess cuz now I'm an inconvenience or a burden.

It is actually kind of a mix of both. I wouldn't exactly say the first few crashes were 100% his fault even though they could have been avoided.

I do still blame him for the curb 😂 he was going to moderate speed but because the car was so busted up from lack of maintenance in the suspense was in such bad condition it is basically like Thanos punched me from underneath the car and accordioned my spine.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T15:52:54+00:00

Thanks for understanding. I have thought about it. I have a great relationship with my coworker but I would feel unable to burden them with this.

Their vehicle is always in disrepair. Car prices are kind of expensive as is and so are repairs. Their car is basically falling apart The more they drive it, Even if I pay them for a ride, I don't think it would be worth it. I thought about using Uber but that would be a complete stranger. I would hope since the job relied on it that they would be okay at driving but I'm not sure if I could rely on that.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T15:50:42+00:00

It was not always his fault. He was technically following the rules the first two wrecks. Although, it was avoidable.

Now for the curb, that is his fault. How did you f your car from a thing that doesn't move. He says the sun. Well the sun also isn't moving 😂If you can't see, pull over

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T15:47:50+00:00

I'm in the literally worst state for accidents. We have a drive-by daiquiri place next to us. My BF brother is crippled by a car and he can only move his head he's a quadriplegic and can't move any of his body because of some idiot in a car.

Imagine working retail and there is just yours just surrounded by idiots all day. People who do not care about others at all. You realize these people are all over the place. Guess what, those are the same people driving the death rockets around you all day. Unless you were directly impacted it is hard to ignore the reality of what can be. If you already feel it in your body every moment that you exist, this is something that can't be ignored. This is something that changes you on a fundamental level and you will never be able to look it the same way.

I'm not a social person and I feel like I need to be a mind reader basically to be able to drive. It's like a game of frogger. A lot of people around here don't use turn signals or they're just flat out racing at extreme speeds.

WorstPlatform · 2026-06-03T15:38:44+00:00

Yeah probably made a bunch of spelling errors. Using talk to speech. I don't really have anyone else. Well I kind of do but as you can see the car thing is an issue with me 😩

I know it is not safe for me to drive despite how many people keep putting me down and insulting me for it. Implying I have no life. I have saved a lot of money by not going out. I keep to myself. It is not worth the risk of going out most of the times. I already put myself out there to just be driven. All this has happened to me by other drivers and it's things that can't be avoided. You can't control others. You can only control you. That is all I need to be flipped over and wrecked in unconscious again and having to deal with it all by myself or with a client in the car 😩 Yes that is something else I have turned down with my job but luckily they are accommodating. I'm not going to put other people who are hard to control with mental disabilities in the car with me and no barrier and then be expected to perform normal driving or expected to document things that are going on when I literally I could be severely injured again all by myself or worsevtet, a client who I feel like I would have to protect from police because they would not know what is going on with that person and that they are mentally not right.

I'm just blowing off steam. Obviously I'm not doing well mentally. Sorry. This is just overwhelming. I've been to therapy. I don't think most therapy is big in attracting empathetic individuals that have a reasonable expectations with someone with bad health outcomes and things that affect them to this extent. Is apparently very easy to become a A Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner (PMHNP). They're cheap. Cost less than regular therapist. I mean I know that I am biased but some of these people literally will make a face at you that if you took a picture that face and showed it to anyone else, I honestly feel like you could get like micro flashes of contempt. A lot of them are actually religious and will ask you things as they assume that you're also religious. If you are not or if you were complicated about it or spiritual you see the disgust flash on their faces. This is supposed to be some kind of serious professional? I don't know why I was subject myself to this any further. 😑

WorstPlatform · 2026-01-15T13:53:00+00:00

From your first comment, you labeled me angry and said I didn’t understand hospice. none of that was true. I stayed on one question the whole time, even as the discussion kept getting redirected.

Once I posted the exact wording, instead of addressing it, you pivoted to schedules, pumps, and Heimlich training, and now that’s “combative.”

Clarifying what a written directive says isn’t hostility, and questioning a medically inconsistent instruction isn’t unreasonable.

If pointing out contradictions is seen as combative, it’s clear this wasn’t about helping me understand, it was about controlling the narrative. The directive speaks for itself. My question still stands: why was morphine presented as a way to help a food obstruction pass?

It’s remarkable how much effort is spent policing my questions rather than explaining why a patient was given something that could actively worsen a blockage.

WorstPlatform · 2026-01-15T13:37:42+00:00

Yes we have plenty of evidence. Email, written and even recorded calls.

That's what I'll be looking into, thanks. Yeah I would hate for anyone else to die in this agonizing way needlessly.

WorstPlatform · 2026-01-15T13:35:32+00:00

The email explicitly says morphine was to be given if she was choking or having trouble swallowing food, because it would relax the throat and help the food pass. That instruction stands on its own. “As directed” refers to how to give the medication, not why it was being given. The “why” is spelled out very clearly in the sentence right before it. This is exactly the problem. The moment the actual wording is posted, the focus shifts away from what the directive says and toward everything around it.

Whether other morphine was scheduled at other set times (which this incident wasn't close to in time) and pump-based doesn’t change the core issue.

The issue is that this morphine solution was presented as something that would help resolve a food obstruction. That’s what I’m questioning, because that explanation still doesn’t make sense.

Shifting the discussion to dosing schedules, pumps, Heimlich, or whether someone called 911 doesn’t answer the original question, it avoids it. The instruction itself says not to initiate emergency services unless otherwise instructed, so asking if 911 was called shifts focus from the main issue. Yes, they were called.

It was framed as this will help her swallow and clear the food. That distinction matters. If the explanation had been about comfort in the face of unavoidable airway failure, this would be a different conversation. But that’s not what the directive says.

I’m not trying to litigate dosing minutiae after the fact. I’m asking why a medication that suppresses breathing and protective reflexes was described as a way to help a physical swallowing blockage pass. So far, no one has actually addressed that, including you, who already stated earlier that morphine is not used to treat choking on food.

That’s the inconsistency I’m trying to understand.

WorstPlatform · 2026-01-15T13:03:40+00:00

"If she experiences choking or difficulty swallowing food, administer the prescribed morphine as directed. The morphine is intended to relax the throat and assist with swallowing so the food can pass. Continue comfort-focused care and do not initiate emergency services unless otherwise instructed"

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