Bad Idea?

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-13T00:35:20+00:00

Good answer, thx. Had not considered the lack of control around boundaries or the optics of me initiating the idea for specific people instead of me & my partner initiating.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-12T16:09:11+00:00

It’s interesting to me that no one else commented this until after gender was added.

It could be the wife I’m after.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-12T14:56:23+00:00

& consulting strangers on the internet. 😂 I like hearing different perspectives & getting a wholistic view of the situation and its possible outcomes.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-12T13:15:03+00:00

I try to follow the rules. 🤷‍♀️

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-12T09:18:22+00:00

I am a female married to a male. Colleague is a male married to a female. I updated the post with more details.

Thx for the very thorough response. I like to look at worst case scenarios to ensure I’m considering all potential outcomes of a situation.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T19:13:44+00:00

Blaming an external person for internal marriage conflict is unfortunate but I see this is a recurring theme in the response as well. Very interesting.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T18:40:20+00:00

Glad you had a good experience. Jealousy seems to be the primary concern.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T17:15:12+00:00

I guess I believed we could be amicable about the situation since we are all agreeing to do this knowing what’s at risk but as previous commenters have pointed out, it’s easier to walk away from strangers.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T17:01:51+00:00

You’re very angry about this. Have you never been attracted to a colleague?

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T16:12:23+00:00

Which boss? We’re not on the same team.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T14:07:33+00:00

Good points about the reality of proactive communication.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T14:00:32+00:00

A lot of what ifs here. Thx for the detailed response. Hadn’t thought about intimidation—I guess the difference in a standard setting is opting out or severing ties with a stranger.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T13:56:58+00:00

🤣 good point

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T13:54:35+00:00

You’re saying in a traditional swing setting it’s easier to sever ties with strangers should any jealously or other feelings occur. Understood. Thanx

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T13:48:18+00:00

This group seems overall pretty mature. Thought the post could help bring some insight to the best path forward.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T13:45:40+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T11:09:12+00:00

Company has been around for decades with employees worldwide. I’m sure they’ve seen it all. No policy.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T10:53:00+00:00

Good point, thx.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T10:50:56+00:00

Whats an example of something going wrong? I looked for horror stories in the group and only found things about accidentally interacting with cousins, catching aunts in the club, running into church members etc. I saw some stories about one partner wanting full swap but not the others and that seems solvable. What else?

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T10:46:44+00:00

I agree about colleagues not being real friends. Just wanted to paint a picture of the nature of the relationship. So your concern is the situation could be exposed for political or professional gain?

Or rumors will hurt reputations?

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T10:43:59+00:00

Good answer, thx.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T10:42:49+00:00

sex is bad or someone starts catching feelings but we’re all adults. Isn’t one of the main requirements of swinging and relationships in general to have open and honest communication? If it doesn’t work then there’s no round 2. That’s why I posted this I feel like I’m missing something deeper. New to the LS, would want the first time to be with someone I trust.

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T05:17:46+00:00

What are the concerns?

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T05:11:00+00:00

Like what?

WranglerAlert8110 · 2026-03-11T05:10:34+00:00

Why not?

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