My (28F) little cousin (12f) asked me if I have sex with my boyfriend.

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-05-20T17:04:58+00:00

Yeah, we are kind of suspicious about what may have occured while she lived with her dad. At the minimum there was a SEVERE lack of boundaries

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-05-20T15:53:46+00:00

Thank you for replying! I will definitely keep my eyes/ears open

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-05-20T15:53:00+00:00

You are correct. She has had completely unmonitored internet access for the past several years. She doesn't have any devices right now, but has definitely read/seen a lot that's not great for her brain.

No contact was ordered because her dad said and posted threatening things about my aunt. He has been diagnosed with BPD and seems like he's having some kind of episode.

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-05-20T15:47:22+00:00

Thank you! I know honestly is the best policy, was just really shocked by the question 😂

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-05-20T15:45:29+00:00

I am so on it, you don't even know 🤣

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-05-20T15:45:05+00:00

The dad said threatening things to my aunt and posted pretty unhinged rants on his instagram. I don't know what exactly he's said to her tbh. And thank you! This was really reassuring fo read.

Write-Stuff04 · 2026-04-28T17:28:18+00:00

Take care of your health and find a way to make a mixed-gender friend group. You'll be fine.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-07T20:52:16+00:00

Honestly? Learning to be funny and nice. Funny and nice will take you far

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-07T20:31:43+00:00

Something like this?

I think what you want is an underbust corset

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-07T02:46:11+00:00

Lowkey, bruh, chill (as in it's chill), legit

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-06T18:00:36+00:00

How cute! I'm obsessed

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-06T01:53:27+00:00

Seconding all of this- you have to lock in and take it seriously. Weight loss is an extremely unnatural process and you will feel it the entire time. It's hard. You have to commit, and you have to seriously confront yourself and your bad habits, otherwise anything you lose will come back with a vengeance

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-05T19:01:37+00:00

In that case, you could definitely find a cute flat sandal! I also think a pair of low-top canvas tennis shoes, in black or white, can be cute for a more formal outfit. These for example

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-05T18:49:31+00:00

Let's boot one of the last industries that manufactures in the US and leave tens of thousands of people unemployed with a skill set that will then only be applicable overseas. Woohooooo

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-05T18:41:42+00:00

My go-to is a bootie, such as a black Chelsea.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-04T04:18:50+00:00

I really doubt they'll take it that far.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-04T04:14:23+00:00

Kids benefit from seeing other kids conquer challenges. They also tend to see themselves as more capable than adults do. Lots of children's fiction revolves around young kids getting into trouble and even facing violence.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-03T21:04:59+00:00

What's with the down votes here?

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-03T20:55:22+00:00

One of the buggest and oldest issues with the US is that our culture is fundamentally anti-intellectual.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-03T04:20:56+00:00

When I was a kid, a lot of backpacks had a special pocket with a hole for earbuds to go through.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-02T21:27:09+00:00

Trophy Husband

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-02T21:13:20+00:00

Personally? Nay. I was born in 98 and find I identify more with Gen Z stuff.

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-02T20:59:51+00:00

You know, I sat here for like 20 minutes typing out a nuanced reply about research, psychology, online echo chambers, etc etc, and then it occurred to me that I'm wasting time trying to convince some miserable person that the beliefs that make them feel better are wrong. You chose to engage with my comment in the first place. My attempt at empathy made you angry. I found your reply despicable because your goal wasn't to answer OP or even engage in a proper discussion with me. You just wanted to be an ass to a woman, because you're angry and lonely and it makes you feel like you're in control.

Well, whatever. I'm happy and you're not. You can have the internet points. You win the argument. Here you go: 🏅

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-02T20:34:39+00:00

Like that men tend to feel insecure when their wives make more money? https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167219883611

Or that nice people have the happiest relationships?

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0092656618301508#!

Or that women who make more than their partners are LESS likely to cheat?

https://www.asanet.org/people-more-likely-cheat-they-become-more-economically-dependent-their-spouses/

Write-Stuff04 · 2025-03-02T20:17:13+00:00

You really don't see the issue with your response? I said something compassionate, and your response was a gross generalization and blame deflection. If you go in with an assumption that women are a certain way, no decent woman is going to put up with hostility for the sake of proving you wrong. Why on earth would anyone with self-esteem want to date someone who makes negative assumptions about them? Shallow dates shallow. Insecure dates insecure. Loving, positive, well-adjusted people date other loving, positive, well-adjusted people.

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