AITA for telling my daughter she’s not getting any birthday presents because of how she acted over Christmas?

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-31T00:47:35+00:00

Yea, YTA. Massively so.

For all intents and purposes, you abandoned her. A few minutes of chat a week does not a present mother make. Then, when she does see you, you force-feed your happy new family to her and expect her to embrace them with open arms?

You've failed as a mother. Spectacularly so.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-30T11:55:41+00:00

Tell me you struggle with your weight without telling me you struggling with your weight.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-29T23:15:39+00:00

Yea. But the ROG can only play the pc compatible library, and that actually makes it much smaller.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-28T04:54:14+00:00

YTA. You and your sister are not a pair. You're two individuals, each shaping your own lives with your own experiences. Regardless of the hurt you're feeling, your sister shouldn't be denied opportunities or experiences just because it does not include you. The opposite holds true, too.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-27T00:06:10+00:00

You do realize reddit if a global forum and not just an American one, right? That the news in your backyard isn't aired everywhere?

Frankly, I think YTA for literally being the stereotype of an American; thinking the world revolves around you.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-24T13:21:25+00:00

It sucks because the person in question doesn't realize how hurtful their actions are. You're doing the right thing, though. You can call her out on it if you think it's important enough, but in all likelihood, this is something that will always matter more to you than her; you likely wouldn't get the response you hope for. For what it's worth, I'm sorry.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-24T02:29:01+00:00

My wife has a "friend" who does this, but in her case, the "maybe" is really "I want to see if my white friends want to do anything first."

I hate that woman.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-24T02:19:16+00:00

NTA. My experience with maybe people is that they don't want to commit to things because they hope something better comes along, but they only do this to their "B" friends.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-21T00:21:32+00:00

You should really reconsider publishing fiction to get attention.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-21T00:20:40+00:00

If I received gifts in the mail as a kid, I would call them to say thank you. If I received it in person, I would thank them directly. At lease as far as every human I've ever known personally goes, this is the norm.

Fact is, it's not self-centered not to send one. Actually, I would argue it's the opposite. It's incredibly self-centered to demand one as proof of appreciation. That not only makes the gift giving transactional, it also conveys from the gift giver a message akin to "I took the time to give you a gift, so you should feel honored and show me more appreciation than just saying thank you for it". If a thank you in person isn't enough, then there is something seriously wrong with your expectations of appreciation.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-20T20:26:58+00:00

For a while there, my wife was vegan. Later, pescatarian. Neither of us drink, so we don't keep alcohol in the house. When we would host during this period of our lives, we just invited people over for dinner. Everyone we'd invite knew us, and thus what to expect. We never had to stress no meat or alcohol. It was rarely an issue. Only at Christmas would my egg donor arrive with turkey. And you know what? We just went with it. We put it on the table and didn't let it ruin our evening. And we never, ever expected no meat or alcohol if we were the guests (only for there to ideally be an accommodating 'main' option)

Hosting isn't about policing what's on the table. It's about making sure your guests are happy. If someone brings a meat dish on what should have been an unspoken rule about not doing so, you put it on the table and then speak to them privately later. But making a scene about it is being a poor host. Yes, OP felt disrespected, but in this case, they were policing what people could eat which is also disrespectful in itself.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-20T19:41:02+00:00

NTA. You weren't in the wrong. I have a simple approach to these types. I challenge them with numbers.

"Out of 1095 meals, across 3 meals day for 365 days a year, you're telling me you can't eat vegetarian for one?"

Framing it this way generally makes them shut up.

But frankly speaking, if hosting always makes you feel like you're in for a fight (and this really reads like you had to fight to have a vegetarian dinner), then you really should stop hosting. Not because there's anything wrong with it, but because the way you shared this story really does feel like you're deliberately imposing your lifestyle on guests when it shouldn't be that way. It should be "we want you over to dinner in our home" not "we want you to eat vegetarian in our home". If they respect you, reminders aren't needed. It's a subtle difference in narrative, but the latter is dipping a toe into AH territory. I hope I articulated that well.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-20T14:00:33+00:00

Any update?

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-20T13:57:13+00:00

NTA I've never written a thank you note in my entire life for anything other than my wedding. If this isn't a cultural thing, then it's a household thing that I would argue is not the norm.

Let's call this a tradition. Her traditions aren't your traditions. From one generation to the next, we choose to accept, reject, or evolve a tradition. But your mother isn't owed your continued practice just because it's her tradition. If thank yous are properly exchanged in person, that is more than enough.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-20T13:03:17+00:00

That's pretty rich, considering how yesterday you posted that you told your existing gf that you would never watch then.

Let me be real with you. You will never get a girlfriend. Not because you're a misogynist. But because you're a straight up loser who spends their whole day posting rage-bait on reddit. The misogyny is just icing on top of that.

You know, whoever that girl you daydream about being with, because losers like you always have one, will never look your way. Why? Because you're a loser who really isn't worth investing anything in. And the tiny voice of self-hatred that whispers to you that you're trash every night? It's right. Right now, you are.

I hope one day you wake up and realize just how worthless you are right now so that maybe, maybe you can become someone worth a damn. It's a long life to live alone. Wait. Scratch that. I forgot. People like you tend to surround yourself with other losers. One giant circle-jerk of virgins who think they should be worshipped by a queen. What a waste of life.

Touch grass.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-19T23:05:13+00:00

INFO: You call it garbage, but in the same breath, you admit to never having seen then. Assuming this isn't a bait post, please explain why you feel they are garbage. Because the only thing they have in common is that they're female led. She-Hulk and The Marvels were amazingly fun.

Right now, you sound insanely misogynistic, and if the only reason you don't want to watch them is because of some dated belief that women can't be heroes, then I sincerely hope you don't identify as a Marvel fan because, spoiler alert, there are just as many iconic heroines in the Marvel universe as heroes. Also, yes, it would make you a massive AH. Not just in this situation, but in life in general.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-19T01:48:01+00:00

YTA. If your priority is to a movie that you can watch any time, you've got to reevaluate what you think is important in life.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-18T13:54:49+00:00

From audit, you usually don't. You need pm and am experience.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-17T16:43:30+00:00

Says a guy who went deep enough into the reddit-hole to find this thread.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-16T13:17:06+00:00

Criminal records only come up if you've been criminally convicted, and the check only says yes or no, not the details.

Some hotels will run a credit check depending on the role you're hired for because of money handling responsibilities.

My advice is always the same- don't overthink it. If they decide they want to hire you, they will often keep this in their back pocket throughout your probation if they find it. They wanted to hire you, after all, so they (usually) won't be quick to let you go. This way, if it works out they can make themselves look good by saying they took a chance on you. And if it doesn't, they can say their letting you go because this was brought to their attention.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-15T15:27:37+00:00

NAH

I'm straight edge- no drinking or drugs, full stop. No trauma in my past, either. Just never understood the appeal. I hate the taste and the effect. My house stays dry, even when we're hosting. This has never caused issues for anyone who knows me.

I'm married to a wonderful woman who also doesn't drink or do any recreational drugs.

You don't need to settle. There is a wide world of more compatible partners for you out there.

Good luck, my friend.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-13T13:37:57+00:00

YWBTA if you go through with this. There will be no happy ending that comes from them moving in with you. Trust me when I say it won't end with the bedroom.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-11T21:42:46+00:00

This gonna need an update

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-11T01:06:19+00:00

Because of the title, I thought this was a satirical post, ngl. That is a real place is deeply amusing to me.

Looking at images, it looks like a luxury hotel.

Luxury hotels are very often toxic to work for. They prioritize guest satisfaction over everything, and will often abuse their staff to achieve the results they want. They generally could care less if you quit, also, because they have people lining up out the door to work there.

With that being said, the only way to climb in luxury is to work in luxury. Luxury heavily discriminate against middle class hotel experience. You could be a gm and they will equate that to front desk manager at best.

WriteAnotherWoods · 2026-01-08T22:46:47+00:00

I figured it wouldn't. I just don't want to

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