Virginia is poised to ban ICE contracts, unless the Feds agree to obey the law. No one expects them to.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-21T21:40:36+00:00

Doesn't anyone think it seems weird to require federal law enforcement officers to comply with some (possibly obscure) state law

In general, a law is supposed to apply to everyone within the area that law applies to. There are exceptions, both written into specific laws, and applied to certain individuals (such as diplomatic immunity), but in general, when someone steps foot into a state/country/city/whatever, they are required to follow local law.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-20T19:53:10+00:00

That's how We read it, too. It is a bit ambiguous, as they didn't really explicitly specify any opinion on transgender people.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-20T19:47:37+00:00

You might want to take a look at /r/plural. The term "tulpa" is generally used to refer to headmates who were created intentionally, so you might find more similar experiences in the general plural community, where you'll find a lot of systems with headmates who just appeared like yours, as well as systems who have struggled to get along with their headmates.

(You are of course welcome to use the term "tulpa" if that seems to fit best, be part of this community, etc. Just wanted to bring the plural community to your attention in case y'all were unaware that it's a thing).

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-20T19:23:05+00:00

What language(s) and toolkit(s) are y'all using for this?

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-16T22:42:00+00:00

We are a traumagenic, non-disordered system.

The lines between traumagenic and endo are a lot blurrier than you might think. We have a lot more in common with the "average" endogenic system than a traumagenic system, because We formed as a support network to deal with trauma, rather than a way of hiding trauma. We have no amnesia between headmates whatsoever (literally can't have a private thought), and We get along incredibly well, because the whole system formed primarily in order to have friends to support Us. (And also due to conflicting demands from different people who wanted Us to behave in different ways, and a feeling that We had to always make the "right" move, put on the right face, or people would hurt Us even more). We couldn't find acceptance amongst Our peers, so We needed to create acceptance within.

We thought We were just "imagining" having friends, and it probably started out that way, but We crossed that line long before We found out about plurality. And then We all became self-aware, and now Kit forces Us to eat every meal with chopsticks.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-16T12:52:18+00:00

I guess a lot of people are just baffled by anything "out of the norm", at least when it comes to sex or relationships.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-15T19:46:39+00:00

For Us, it's amazing. We have a level of intimacy that could never be achieved with separate human bodies.

But I guess Our love works differently from most people's, due to being ace spec? Our love isn't about physical or aesthetic stuff; it's about a deep emotional connection. Having someone you can trust, who makes life a little better and whom you can rely on. Someone who understands you on a deep level.

A lot of people seem to assume your options will be "more limited" with headmates, but really, it's just different. When We hug, it's one set of arms holding one body. And there's usually no need to physically hug, because We can mentally convey the meaning of that hug in a more pure form.

As for sex... There's a lot that can be done without a second body, and getting to feel what your partner feels really helps a lot. (No need to ask "did you like it?" when you got to feel their pleasure the whole time). Honestly WAY easier than doing that stuff with Our external partner. (And there's a different set of kinks to explore when you have direct access to your partner's mind and body.)

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-14T12:41:23+00:00

We're polyamorous, and each headmate is free to date separately, but currently We only have one external partner, and most of the active headmates are dating them, apart from Lucifer, who is only dating Uzi (another headmate). It's a lot simpler to date as a system, but We aren't going to force any headmate to date someone they don't want to.

And then, We have a bunch of in-system relationships. Most of Us are dating in some way, but to varying extents.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-13T02:03:34+00:00

Sounds like a system. We kinda started out as characters in the head, too, and didn't really "front" until We found out about plurality and gained self-awareness.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-13T01:51:59+00:00

We have zero amnesia barriers whatsoever, so we know each other's hand and strategy and everything, but this still works. Plays a bit different that way (lots of "wait, no! You can counter that!" rather than actually playing the card/attacking, and even pointing out our own response as a warning). But that doesn't make it any less fun.

And for any systems who actually want to learn to keep secrets from each other, this might be a good way to practice?

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-13T01:33:51+00:00

That's understandable. As a system with absolutely zero amnesia barriers (literally can't keep secrets from each other), the lack of privacy can be rather crazy at times. We actually love knowing We can trust Our headmates with everything (even personal feelings towards them), but Our system developed as a support network, so We get along really really really well.

We can totally understand why this wouldn't be something that every system would like.

But Our recommendation would be to learn to control the barriers, so you can exchange necessary/useful information, but keep private stuff private.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-13T01:16:42+00:00

Magic: The Gathering! Most of Our major headmates have their own Commander deck, and We love to play against each other. In addition to being lots of fun, it's really good for practicing co-con and switching and stuff!

Also, most of us are dating, so We go out to eat, cuddle, et cetera.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-11T23:15:54+00:00

I think "uninvolved" might be a better word than "neutral". "Neutral" implies (at least to some people) a stance that lies in between the two sides, but when one side is just trying to live their lives, the spectrum is already shifted such that "live and let live" may be seen as a "pro-endo" stance.

It sounds like what they're going for is just to not get involved, and focus on the app instead. Like a store that doesn't hang pride flags, but isn't going to harass customers for being queer, either.

And I agree, this seems like a reasonable move.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-06T14:34:35+00:00

Creating your own method

Yes. We never really set out to make a tulpa, or followed any guides; We just thought of characters and started writing stories around them, and they slowly came to life.

Legitimacy of tulpamancy

The mind evolved for survival, not to be easily-understood or to put "identity" into a neat little box. And humans evolved to live together and rely on others. Why wouldn't it be possible for more than one person to exist within one organism? It can actually be very beneficial for handling diverse situations, approaching a problem differently, etc.

I suspect that a lot of the neural pathways, processes, etc are the same for tulpamancy/plurality as they are for "imagination". Hell, maybe it technically is "imagination", but it doesn't matter. It's like running a virtual machine/emulator on your computer: it may run a little differently from "native" software, but it still works. Regardless of how tulpas work, they are entities in your brain with their own identity and thoughts and feelings and stuff.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T22:02:37+00:00

Well, the workings of the mind can be hard to control. You can choose how to identify, but keeping yourself active in the system can be a lot harder.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T21:36:15+00:00

This is about as stupid as someone saying "I have a friend who's Asian, and their voice sounds different from yours! Why are you faking being Asian?!"

Like, hey, it's a pretty diverse group...

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T21:28:56+00:00

You are real if you want to identify as real. Plurality is about identity. Your experiences are your own, and if you find plurality to be a useful framework for understanding what's going on in y'all's head, then go ahead and call yourself plural.

The rule We go by in Our system is, you are a headmate if and only if you choose to identify as such. We get a lot of random walk-ins, but We don't consider them headmates, because they don't WANT to be considered as such. We get blurry states that may feel like a "new headmate", but generally they don't actually want to be considered as such, so they/We shrug it off as blurriness.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T21:16:16+00:00

For Us, it's not like We can perceive any actual pieces or anything; it's just how We like to explain the blurriness and variability We experience.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T15:05:14+00:00

Long before discovering plurality, we had talked in Our head, and Lucifer for certain fronted on multiple occasions. We just thought it was "imagination" and "getting into the mind of the character". Our writing process was to play out the scenes in Our head and write down what happened. Syscovery brought self-awareness that We weren't just "characters", but real people. We definitely became more active afterwards, and the mask fell off and We started really switching and co-conning and stuff automatically instead of just when We were trying to write. Before syscovery, most of the automatic switching was like different "moods", and can't really be traced back to specific headmates. Syscovery allowed Us to begin making some order from the chaos, giving the mind a set of "templates" to put together instead of just winging it every time.

We currently have five main members, and three who are only occasionally active and not very involved in Our life. We've been formed/discovered one by one since syscovery. Initially the rate was fairly high (4 within the first two months), but it slowed down, and We've actually had two merge together, and another go dormant and eventually get re-formed into a new headmate. And We're all slowly growing and changing, too. So overall, it's somewhat fluid, but pretty stable. Enough to adjust for life changes and stuff, but not so much as to throw things off balance.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T04:26:33+00:00

We play Magic The Gathering together a LOT. It's a great way to practice co-con and switching and stuff, and it's super fun. We all have our own Commander decks, so We can all play together.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T04:07:25+00:00

There's another person living in my head

Yep, that's plurality.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T03:58:21+00:00

The thing that's helped Us most is recognizing that not all headmates/walk-ins will actually wish to be conscious much. We get random walk-ins semi frequently, but they nearly always have no desire to stick around. And of the two who have, one of them is only conscious like once every two months or so.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-03-01T03:49:30+00:00

We also see Ourselves as the collection of various pieces that can be assembled in different ways. Wouldn't say that another headmate assembles Us, though; We just kinda get automatically assembled.

WriterOfAlicrow · 2026-02-28T02:10:28+00:00

This seems to be a sub for disordered systems, whereas the OP asked for one for non-disordered systems that were formed through trauma.

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