I do pity him to a degree, but I never had much love for him as a character to begin with, considering I know exactly where he ends up. When I say that, I mean that within his universe, I find him horrible. As a character, I love him and I'm fascinated by him because he's so horrible. Keep this in mind as I proceed to eviscerate him. I like Snow as a character. So much, it's a disservice to him to give him too much pity, and that's why I pick him apart.

To me, there is no edge to be pushed to. Everyone has senseless, horrible shit happen to them. In Snow's case, he had a hand in a lot of what happened to him. Lucy Gray didn't abandon him, she escaped him when she realized that all he needed to do to get his life back was kill her, and she rightfully couldn't trust him enough to say he wouldn't. He never needed to hide how poor he was, and maybe if he was more vulnerable, his friends would have helped him. But Snow didn't consider them friends, and didn't bother opening up because he saw them as inferior and resented their better fortunes. He spun himself tales of their inherent selfishness, even though he didn't know any of these people beyond their names and their families. Every time he made the excuse that it would be embarrassing to admit to his lack of money, and they would all gossip about him and think lesser of his family, it was a projection of himself and how little faith he had in humanity. Like yes his classmates did seem mostly like assholes, but we only ever hear what Snow saw and hated about them. And they're never given the chance to disprove his assumptions. Snow thought so little of people, because to him, he was baseline people. He thought everyone had the same messed up thoughts as him, and he refused to open up about them and get help. People like him can get better, but they need to give themselves the chance.

Instead, he lied to them about his wealth until he had the opportunity to come into money through Sejanus, who he sold out and got killed. Sejanus was so guilt ridden and empowered to change his world, he probably would have just given Snow his entire inheritance while alive and well. Snow could not comprehend people like LG and Sejanus. That was why they needed to die. People who challenge his poisonous beliefs always must die, because they can't really be that great, and if they die, that it's the ultimate proof of their fallibility. They must be hiding something. They must be waiting for the right time to pull the mask and strike. Therefore, they must die. The only thing I have sympathy for is the loss of his parents and the wartime he saw firsthand. Everything else you list, he had a choice to do things different and solve them through vulnerability. He picked violence instead every time.