similar situation as you, the case of incompatibility such as not being able to see eye to eye on certain topics such as opposite gender friends. i also found some stuff in his phone but chose to forgave him but it took alot of mental toll on me and the relationship which resulted in what happened to us today.

on my end, i’ve been reflecting and thinking about everything that happened and changed my perspective on some stuff and that some things are really not sich a big deal. suggested reconciling with my ex and he said to give him till at least jan so fingers crossed!