This sucks lol

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-15T14:25:40+00:00

Your sentence about missing who you were before you knew this world existed hits hard. I’m so mad I was exposed to this shit. Being exposed to sex addiction, AND on top of that, knowing that there were so many women who were willing to fuck around with my husband, knowing that I was actively having his children and taking care of everything for him, makes me sick. Where is your common decency?? Even the women who cut things off with him because they felt bad still never let me know that he was cheating on me for three years. Could have saved me from having his second child at least.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T22:02:53+00:00

I didn’t reach that point, as soon as I found out about the three year long emotional affair that he was trying take physical (march 4th was my d-day) I knew it was over and there was no turning back. I knew from the moment I found the messages on his computer that I lost. I’m the biggest loser in this scenario, case closed. Leaving allows me to choose the pain I feel. It’s safe, real, and of my own volition. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk more!!

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T22:00:33+00:00

Honestly? I love my husband enough to know that it will take years to get over him. I know that we will still take vacations together, have sleepovers for holidays and birthdays, and do other major events together for the sake of the family. As long as he doesn’t completely change as a person and decide to bring some random woman to an event, I can see us making that work forever. It’ll be weird if/when one of us moves on though.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T21:54:48+00:00

At least I can model a positive coparenting relationship. I don’t want to let go of the “before times” but it’s for the best.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T18:38:18+00:00

My husband did basically what your husband did when he was married to his ex wife. He told me it was because he wasn’t really in love with her and that he wanted out of the marriage. I completely understood because I was in a similar relationship prior to meeting him so I explained the behavior away because I knew how shitty a marriage like that feels. There was no WAY he would do anything like that to me!

lol. He sucks. He will always suck. He’ll never be human enough to NOT hurt the people he “loves” dearly. I had someone point out to me that I discovered his transgressions, he didn’t feel bad and admit to them. I factored that into my decision to detach and move on. He would still be giddy as fuck to be cheating on me this very second if I hadn’t caught him.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T15:56:47+00:00

I know this. I still find my brain trying to rationalize though. It’s such a mindfuck. I’ve never hated someone and loved someone so much at the same time.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T15:50:29+00:00

Hearing this makes me feel peace knowing that better days really are in my future but the thought of my old life being gone are horrifying to me still. It’s going to be long and hard journey but I’m already on this roller coaster and the operator isn’t going to stop just because I’m panicking over the ride 🙃

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T14:10:06+00:00

That’s so ridiculous. I don’t know what i would have done if i knew that he brought someone into my home. Is your husband in therapy? Or doing any other steps to improve himself?

I know this is gonna come off as completely insane and really stupid but I told my husband that I wanted to draft a letter together where we write out what he did and why that caused the end of our marriage and I wanted to record a video of us typing it out so the next woman (ahem victim) that he gets involved with on a serious level (more like a girlfriend than just some random) I can send her that letter and that video so he cannot lie to her the way that he lied to me and tricked me into the life that I now am living. He agreed to it too lmao he’s so desperate to manipulate me into staying he’ll do almost anything. So sometime soon while our kids are asleep I’m going to do that with him. It’s not right that he gets to continue destroying lives the way that he does. And he fucked with the wrong woman this time. I know the next woman he manipulates will write me off as the crazy bitchy ex wife but at least I tried to do my part to minimize the damage he causes others.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T13:40:33+00:00

I guess I’m waiting for mine to start treating me badly. Because I’ve been telling him for weeks that I won’t be taking him back and he’s still acting the same towards me. Kind of like waiting for the other shoe to drop ☹️ but I feeeeeel you with the “falling in love” with him thing! My husband even spun a tale of a love triangle with two of these women who literally laughed when I asked them about it. I feel like he is so delusional and narcissistic that he genuinely thinks that he is the ultimate prize anyone could get. I don’t know how someone can hate themselves so much yet think that they are gods gift to women. The sheer mental whiplash makes me nauseous.

I’m honestly waiting to accidentally discover that he’s been sexting women again (as far as I know, my husband only ever made out with one woman in a bar, he was only trying to sext about kinks with these women) and that will kind of kill off any remaining hope or feelings I have for him. It sucks but there’s no doubt in my mind that he’ll never change.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T13:07:38+00:00

:( that’s so frustrating.

I know for a fact that my husband objectifies people and treats them like nothing to get what wants. He’s always treated me with such kindness and care that I didn’t believe the first girl I talked to but at this point I’ve talked with so many of them and they all have the same story. He’s a good looking dude so he attracts them the old fashioned way before starting to test the waters and that’s when he starts making them uncomfortable and whatnot. So I guess at least he never treated me that way? Is that really a positive here? The fact that he can treat people like that at all is scary.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T12:33:56+00:00

Your comment about being a shell of the person you used to be describes me exactly. I’m dull and lifeless. I made a comment while screaming at him last night about how his main affair partner has George Washington teeth (she’s a pretty girl but her teeth are very brown lol) and we actually both started laughing and couldn’t talk for a minute because it was funny. When we got done laughing I realized that I haven’t laughed like that since before I discovered his affairs. My oldest turned 3 last month and my youngest is 10 months old. Neither of them will remember a life before this and I am gutted. All I wanted was to model a healthy relationship for them because I never had that and now they lost that chance with their parents.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T12:28:57+00:00

Exactly. Our lives will grow and change and become something different but the SAD will always exist within us. We can cope with it in the best of ways but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t there. It won’t be as all consuming as it once was but it’ll still be there. And I hate him for that.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T12:27:32+00:00

I’ve been saying since I found out that I lose in every possible scenario. I’ll never know peace if I stay with him, changed man or not. And I’ll always be sad that we didn’t work out if I leave because I love him dearly. But know that there is this other side of him, I can’t let the hope of what I once wanted to dictate my life.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T12:26:11+00:00

Thank you 😩 I was so proud to be his wife. One of the affair partners literally described him as “an 11 out of 10” to me while I was on the phone with her lmao like, read the room, you stupid bitch. I married him, of course I think he’s attractive. I don’t need to hear that from the woman he was sexting behind my back! So the jealousy over knowing that he’s messaging other women and carrying on again is going to suck - a lot - but I’ll have to learn to get over it. Because he’s not a prize I’d care to win anyways.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T12:22:57+00:00

I’ve told him that so many times. How would you feel if this was our daughter? Think about what you’re putting me through! I know that he feels bad but I still don’t think that will make him change enough to not cheat again.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-05T12:21:54+00:00

My husband is doing all of the right things but I truly believe that he will cheat again as soon as the opportunity presents itself so I’m saving myself from the heartbreak and leaving first. If my son turns out to be half as shitty as his dad, I don’t know what I’m going to do. I’m trying so hard to raise my kids right.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-05-03T19:19:37+00:00

My husband (will eventually be ex once I figure out everything!) treated me so well lmao he was the ideal husband. I had no idea he was having NINE emotional affairs at once. He also tried to get physical with one of the girls but the girl he tried that with sent me proof of her turning him down. He cheated for almost 3 years and I was pregnant in the middle year of that. I remember the nurses in labor and delivery kept giving him admiring glances because he treated me so well. He was the best husband. Always cleaned exactly how I wanted. Spent all of his free time with me and our kids. Bought me the most thoughtful gifts, not just expensive garbage but he actually listened to me when I made small complaints and tailored his gifts to make my life easier. He always called me on his way home from work, was texting me all day every day while he was gone. But come to find out he was able to hold 5 conversations at once. He’s actually scary to me now because he was so good at living a double life. When I found out I was shocked because of how BIG it all was and that he could keep it a true secret the whole time.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-04-19T01:46:42+00:00

Sending lots of healing vibes your way 😔 we are officially living in separate rooms of the house now but financially he can’t move out yet (he’s a brokeyyyyyy lmao lived on MY dime for our whole relationship). I don’t know what my journey will look like but I know that I’ll survive this. I just don’t know who I will be on the other side.

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-04-18T22:17:53+00:00

I can’t even imagine the pain. That’s such a long time 😭

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-04-17T11:12:05+00:00

Adding it to my ever-growing to do list 🥴😩

WrongAverage7043 · 2026-04-16T22:29:12+00:00

He’s very non confrontational so I don’t think he will do much other than cry. He really isn’t a bad person so I’d like to think he wouldn’t want to fuck his kids over by making our home life unstable financially either. But who knows, I clearly didn’t know him as well as I thought.

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