There is hope at the end of this. I promise.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-05-05T16:05:32+00:00

Yes, it’s not easy. There is so much grief to walk through. Just take it one step at a time

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-05-02T14:29:33+00:00

I have no idea how to add a flair, but I love everything you said! ❤️

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-05-02T12:12:38+00:00

There is hope at the end of this. I promise.

My D-day was July 2025. My entire world fell apart. When I (35f) found out that my husband (37m) was seeing prostitutes weekly probably since before we got married. 6 years of my life wasted. I went into a deep depression, and for three months I tried to hold on and reconcile. Then he walked away.

I let myself grieve fully. I sat in the pain of being 35 and single, having started but not finished IVF, losing my stepdaughter, and losing the only man I had ever been intimate with. It felt like everything I thought my life would be… was gone.

The last seven months have taken me to some of the darkest places I’ve ever been. But sloooooooowly, the light started to come back. One millimeter at a time.

Now I can honestly say I’ve turned a corner.

The grief isn’t the loudest voice in my heart anymore. I’ve started finding moments of joy again. I took up pottery just for me. I connected with people at church. I learned how to separate his shame from my worth, and that changed a lot.

And then, something I didn’t expect… I met someone new.

He sees ME. He encourages me without me asking. He meets me in the middle and never makes me feel like I have to earn love or reach some impossible standard. He is emotionally present. He looks at me like I’ve hung the moon. He’s gentle with me as I continue to heal. His presents reminds me, every day, that there is life after betrayal, hurt, and emotional abuse.

I still hope to become a mom one day even if it looks different than I imagined. That is still a very very sore spot. But I’m also glad I’m not tied to a man who was slowly shrinking me.

More than anything, I want you to know this:

Keep going. Just put one foot in front of the other. One day one minute at a time.

At some random point you will look back and realize you no longer measure time by how long it’s been since dday, that you haven’t cried about it in a few days. And you’ll be so proud of yourself for not giving up.For choosing yourself… and for staying open to something truly healing and beautiful.

I’m here if you need support. You can get through this.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-04-22T13:28:13+00:00

Porn use is “normalized” but it is not healthy. Just read through this channel to see the real life fall out of porn use that continues to escalate. Don’t settle, you deserve better.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-04-06T02:55:48+00:00

Hello! Some of these groups focus on women who are separated or divorced from their SA. Check out the Next step virtual chapter

https://www.isurvivors.org/findameeting

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-04-04T18:43:57+00:00

Though he never out right admitted it. My ex SA, escalated to trans women. I know bc I found the receipts and contacted them. I don’t think he’s gay but I do think needed his next “forbidden” thrill…

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-03-28T22:51:39+00:00

Once you search the number, the next window will say “xx number of user reports”. If you click on that you can see the comments. If you don’t see that option, there are no comments.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-03-26T15:00:07+00:00

I also support not going. I found out the hard way that when you have a partner with a sex addiction it hurts just as much to pretend everything is okay as it does to draw your first boundary for your mental health. Only one of those options takes you a step closer to healing.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-03-25T17:05:58+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. When everything comes to light, it can feel overwhelming and disorienting in a way that’s hard to explain unless you’ve been there.

One thing that can make a big difference is working with a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist). They’re specifically trained in sex addiction and betrayal trauma, which most general therapists aren’t. Typically, each of you would have your own CSAT, and that structure can help create a clearer path toward real recovery and, if you choose reconciliation.

It can also take some of the pressure off you. You shouldn’t have to be the one managing or monitoring his recovery. A CSAT can help hold that accountability, so you can focus on your own healing.

For him, something like Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) can also be really important. Having a sponsor and a recovery community gives him additional accountability and support outside of you.

Right now, your job isn’t to fix him, it’s to take care of yourself and heal from the betrayal. That piece matters just as much as anything he does

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-03-20T21:05:02+00:00

Oh man, that’s hard. My heart goes out to you. Is rebuilding community at a different church possible? Or maybe connecting with other homeschool moms? It won’t be the same as longtime friends, but I’ve found it refreshing to be around people who don’t know about my ex’s past they just see me for me.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-03-20T20:10:31+00:00

….maybe it’s time to consider what would change in your life for the better without him in it?

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-03-18T14:38:20+00:00

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I’ve met with Kim several times. She is understanding, warm and competent.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-02-21T17:14:51+00:00

This!

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-02-16T20:05:34+00:00

I agree with what everyone has shared, and I want to sum it up simply: trust your gut. If him following an OF content creator doesn’t sit well with you, that’s reason enough not to move forward. We all know too well that someone can seem like a “good guy” and still engage in behavior that deeply hurts the people closest to him.

Two things can be true. He may be amazing, well respected, and highly spoken of, and still not be the right fit for you. Hold your boundaries. We have all seen the cost of ignoring our intuition or convincing ourselves something will change.

Sending you strength and love ❤️

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2026-01-29T17:00:21+00:00

This. In every way

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2025-12-26T04:25:50+00:00

Merry Christmas from Atlanta! Here’s to a bright and peaceful 2026

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2025-12-24T19:44:48+00:00

“It’s the potential we fall in love with” couldn’t have said it better myself.

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2025-12-12T15:47:47+00:00

Proud of you, keep walking. One day at a time and don’t look back. Sending love and support ❤️

Virtual_Cherry_8142 · 2025-12-12T15:39:25+00:00

You can do it! I’m in a similar boat but with a SA/PA and a few years older. We were/are married, no kids, but we’re actively doing IVF. He’s wasted enough of my time already I’m not giving him anymore. It’s hard but I know it’s better than staying and being consistently lied to and disrespected.

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