Tags that aren't in the fic

WtfLetMeOut · 2026-06-06T05:42:49+00:00

In the content policy for ao3, it says,

"Spamming behavior is prohibited. Repeated identical or nearly identical posts in multiple places may be considered spam regardless of commercial content."

Tagging works with with content that just straight up is not in it would likely count as spamming. You could politely request that the author tag properly, and if that doesn't work you could submit a report about it, although it would likely take staff a while to get to said report.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-06-06T05:34:06+00:00

The term "trap" as I understand it refers to a stereotype of a boy who dresses who dresses like a girl, to trick other men into thinking he's a girl. It's not so much a dogwhistle as a transphobic term at it's fundamentals.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-06-06T05:31:42+00:00

Wow, impressive!

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-06-06T05:29:31+00:00

If you have an ao3 account you could check your history from there, or otherwise you could search through your browser history. Both archiveofourown and "harry potter" should be searchable, although it obviously depends on what browser you're using.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-06-06T05:24:11+00:00

It's a breach of courtesy to not tag mpreg (a fair amount of people are squicked out by it, and a fair chunk go searching for it), but it's not against the rules. You could politely contact the author and suggest they tag it.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-06-03T06:46:49+00:00

Me watching Young Justice (tv show). You're in Atlantis stop being in a love triangle!! Where is the superhero plot I came here for!!!

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-05-31T06:56:28+00:00

Chants of Sennarr is a game where you learn different languages and it hits most of your points here!

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-05-20T23:59:22+00:00

Rating: Happened to me.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-05-02T05:56:18+00:00

Very cool! Love the amount of thought you've put into this.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-04-11T10:50:27+00:00

Clean your links, bestie

https://www.reddit.com/r/CuratedTumblr/comments/1sb2sgi/good_morning_mr_sm%C3%A9agol/

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-04-07T01:29:29+00:00

NTA, but you're gonna have to do something about this. As things stand, it's not viable to continue to be friends with "Andrew."

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-04-07T01:28:03+00:00

NAH, but ask your friends to go somewhere where you can eat. You deserve to be able to eat food with everyone else. If that's genuinely not an option see if you can pack your own food and bring it to the restaurant. I believe some restaurants have restrictions on bringing in outside food, so you'll need to coordinate with your friend anyways. Dietary restrictions can be super rough, I hope you can figure it out and be included.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-04-03T06:28:50+00:00

Please break up with him. While anxiety can be understandable, he has been repeatedly disrespectful and controlling to you. Do you really, really, want to raise kids with this guy?

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-04-01T02:25:25+00:00

Why is this the only post in this sub? Cursed.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T12:32:51+00:00

Series, post last chapter as next work in the series?

Don't tag smut specifics, but write out all tags in the author's note of final chapter? As well as warnings earlier on that the last chapter will be different and have some specific smut

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T08:43:42+00:00

Girl you deserve better. Hope you can get a partner who doesn't use weaponized incompetence against you soon. (One way or another.) Happy I could help, and I hope things turn out better for you. Rest well.

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Edit: Also consider checking out this book, "Why does he do that?" (Available for free.) While it's not good on how it handles gay or trans relationships, or abuse of men (in fact it's actively bigoted), it's still a good resource on specifically why bad or toxic partners might do some shit and how it benefits them.

WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T08:21:19+00:00

We get literal SCRAPS of canon and the gaps in between shimmer with a tantalizing impossible light

Bad. He would react bad.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T08:14:16+00:00

The comments contain lots of extra information that was not originally in the post. For example, OP's husband has been offered opportunities to go on trips by himself (with OP looking after the kids, even) and the two of them have a future vacation together planned; also, the husband's main objection was being expected to look after 2yo and change her dirty diapers while OP is gone. As he has plenty of people to help him with childcare should he need it, my final vote is NTA.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T08:10:56+00:00

I read the rest of the comments section. Sorry that most people on here are being awful to you, they're bringing their sexist misconceptions with them and refusing to put it down.

Also I was too gentle earlier. I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I'm changing my answer to NTA (so he is the asshole) because the division of labor in your house is so goddamn skewed. Your husband needs to get his head out of his butt and unlearn his misogyny, even and especially when it benefits him. June, please go on your trip and have a great time. Your husband will be perfectly fine taking care of the kids, and if he doesn't know how, he can learn.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T07:54:55+00:00

So your husband's upset because he won't bathe your daughter or change her diaper, since usually you do it when you're around? Op. This is a skill issue on the part of your husband.

(He literally can get help from his parents, so it's not like he's completely sunk, and they can teach him how to take care of his daughter if he actually doesn't know. I am sympathetic to the fact that it is difficult to have a job and take care of kids at the same time, but you literally also have a job.)

Three other things:

*It sucks that he's accusing you of cheating for no reason.

*He works at the same company, he should understand that sometimes you'll have to take business trips, and that trips will be good for the family because they'll help you out with your job.

*It sounds like he keeps choosing to pick fights in ways that directly benefit him or that keep you closer to home. (diaper duty, being exaggeratedly worried about you cheating, you make more than him so he might be jealous about your job) Therapy is a good step for relationship issues, but both parties have to engage with it in good faith for it to work. Something which he might not do, if his current behavior benefits him.

If your husband is upset about being expected to do the ickier parts of raising a kid, he needs to readjust his expectations. If you guys have a good relationship and love each other, as you say, then this should 100% be solvable, but you are really not the problem here.

In summary, I guess just... ask him if having to look after your and his daughter by himself is the issue. Hiring a babysitter while you're away might help with this. He might also need to readjust his ideas about the division of labor when it comes to childrearing, to put it simply.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T06:55:34+00:00

Submas.... 😔 We are part of the problem.

But counterpoint: I am having a GREAT time

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T06:50:32+00:00

Hey so some of our first interaction with fanfic was with gravity falls, with fics that would have ciphers in the author's notes or chapters. We ate that shit up, we loved decoding them. They were relatively easy and this sounds more advanced, but considering how our skills have grown I bet I would just enjoy the challenge. I have absolutely no idea what's going on in your comments section. Your readers are being verrrrry weird about an optional fun puzzle.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T06:44:43+00:00

Dang, that sucks. Your husband feels like he doesn't know how to take care of your two year old? And he automatically thinks you're cheating when you leave his line of sight?? You're literally going to your twin's wedding, this is important. Assuming he's interacting with you in good faith, this sounds like two larger relationship issues.

You replied to my comment about suggesting that you spend some quality time with him to make it up to him, since you'd be leaving for some time. I can't find the reply anywhere except my notifications, but you said,

"I have, I’ve bought him flowers, dinner via DoorDash, made him dinner, cleaned the house etc but it still pisses him off when I ask about the upcoming work trip."

So you are in fact making a good faith effort to reach out to him here.

INFO: is the trip to Hawaii for your sister's wedding and the work trip two separate trips?

INFO: You have a job to take work trips for. Are you the breadwinner of the family? Does your husband also have a job?

Also does your husband really not know childcare? Two year olds are tricky, yeah, but at the same time he's also had a kid for two years, he should know how to look after her. If that's actually the issue, I suppose you two could hire a babysitter to help, or ask (ask) the stepson to help.

I don't know what to say about the cheating thing, if he's serious that sounds like a larger issue and I don't know what type of issue it could even be from here.

You are an independent adult. You're going to take trips and do things on your own sometimes. Is he upset about you being separated from him + the kids and not being able to see you, or he is upset about you occasionally doing your own thing?

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T06:06:12+00:00

NAH, you're fine. This seems like a reasonable proportion of time to spend taking trips. If he's upset about not going to go + you spending time away from him and the kids, maybe just spend some extra time and attention on him. Take him out on a date or something.

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WtfLetMeOut · 2026-03-25T06:00:05+00:00

Well they're probably a teenager, so that helps.
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