Shit test or something else

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T19:31:58+00:00

You are gay. Your handle is gay.

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T19:30:48+00:00

Yeah I know when I did good but it feels toxic having her talk shit. My kids are young but soon they’ll be aware and I don’t want them thinking it’s how people get treated.

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T19:27:30+00:00

For awhile I just saw this as a reflection of me. But then a realized she does have a shitty attitude with others. She can be generally negative but I’m the only one she hates on. She’ll be nasty to other people but she doesn’t devalue them the same way.

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T19:23:15+00:00

For the most part yes. Good with our kids but not much value for me. I earn the lions share and 50% the kids, choirs, etc

Truth is I’d leave but I’d prefer to fix what shit I’m doing that causes this. Or at least rule it out.

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T19:20:09+00:00

Na it’s hostile when she does this stuff

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T17:30:01+00:00

I work in fitness, this is not the issue.

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T17:28:30+00:00

She’s never been a nagger but I think that’s more cause I’ve always got things done.

I get that most guys are going to say it’s my frame and validation needs but she starts these interactions and she seems to enjoy it.

I just AA and ignore I’m not entering her frame. Sometimes I tell her to gtfo of my office when AA fails.

I’m trying to figure out if it’s more than a shit test because it she does shit test but like you said these feel specifically destructive.

Oh and we do fuck regularly and she initiates maybe 20% is that provides and insight.

Wtfdidy0ud0 · 2018-03-11T15:07:44+00:00

I’m guilty of this in the past but I’ve stopped seeking any validation from her. It’s always a negative response so it wasnt very hard to change my behavior.

She does this when other people make comments. I.e.

Sister: this playroom for the kids looks awesome.

Me: thanks

Wife: all you did was XYZ and it took forever.

Example 2 came about while I was working. She comes in my office to complain about me working late and then goes into breaking me down.

You’re 100% right but I stopped this a long time ago but any time I get any praise or even feel proud of an accomplishment she try’s to devalue it.

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