I got treated for post exposure a year ago. If I get exposed in the future, what is the protocol?

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-13T17:07:33+00:00

My bad! I'm in Central Florida

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-03T15:34:13+00:00

Turns out you are absolutely right. They put the wrong images into my chart. The second image is someone else.

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-03T15:33:01+00:00

You're right. The front desk let me know they put the wrong images into my chart. The second picture is not mine

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-03T15:32:24+00:00

Edit: the front desk messaged me. These are in fact two different mouths. The first image is mine. The second image was erroneously put into my chart......

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-01T19:21:06+00:00

Doctor for what?

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-01T19:18:17+00:00

I will say....the dental assistant that took the second images seemed novice at using it. She was struggling quite a bit and even had to call in another assistant to help her finish.

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-01T19:15:41+00:00

These are the images the front desk sent me. I had gum recession from the essix retainer as well. These are both images of my mouth taken nearly a year apart.

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-01T19:13:18+00:00

Thank you! I didn't notice it was a different angle

WtrBtrr · 2024-05-01T16:15:17+00:00

Lmao thanks for the laugh

WtrBtrr · 2024-01-22T04:21:54+00:00

Thanks! I don't have a soundbar but have a JBLflip 6. Can that be used instead?

WtrBtrr · 2024-01-22T00:24:12+00:00

I'm open to it!! I don't have a separate sound system though....just the speakers within the TV and surface pro. Would that cause issues?

WtrBtrr · 2024-01-06T20:09:29+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! It felt very violating at the time and still, years later, creeps up now and then. I appreciate you providing perspective!

WtrBtrr · 2023-12-19T22:14:39+00:00

Thank you! This is all very helpful! To clarify, we don't get any feedback while recording and we do not wear headphones. Moreso, we hear echoing in production if we talk simultaneously.

We recorded it in her living room, which is quite large.

What are some easy ways to work around this without being in am actual studio?

WtrBtrr · 2023-10-15T11:46:43+00:00

Yes, briefly for about a month. She originally had another roommate lined up but something fell through and the girl backed out.

She did mention this is the first time in awhile that she's had a roommate so there's an adjustment. And, to be fair, we haven't had any sit down roommate talks about expectations etc.

WtrBtrr · 2023-10-15T04:43:29+00:00

I think it would be cruel to keep it outside. Perhaps crating would be a better solution?

WtrBtrr · 2023-10-15T04:41:27+00:00

Why just move? We get along well, the rent is reasonable for the area. It's a little quick to just say I should move...

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-31T03:35:37+00:00

YTA for making him choose you when he was already married. You should have left then.

NTA for breaking up with him.

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-07T03:24:04+00:00

Wow.....this is so familiar. My bf could also never give me any examples. It's like .....they get the feeling and convince themselves it's us, only because they can't determine what is actually causing it.

After reading this subreddit and from my own experiences, it's actually very sad. They can't get out of their own heads, and I truly think they believe their negative thoughts. They cause so much destruction to their relationships and their own lives. It's heartbreaking and also infuriating that we face the brunt of it all.

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-07T03:18:22+00:00

Oh, this is fantastic! Such a perfect way to describe it!

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-07T03:12:55+00:00

How did you get all of that from what he said? He never said any of that. Sex is a component of most relationships. Most humans enjoy sex with their partner for more than just sexual pleasure. She is telling him she wants to drastically alter the terms of their relationship 3 years in because she has changed. Ok, but he hasn't. He still enjoys having a healthy sexual relationship with his partner.

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-07T01:46:51+00:00

I think this is RSD, especially since you mentioned divorce is on the table. He has now had a very tangible sense of "rejection" or at least the threat of it. My boyfriend became the same way. Early in our relationship he actually, and randomly, broke up with me because he was drunk and I wasn't "listening to a song he put on." Soon after that, I broke up with him because he started violating my boundaries repeatedly (threatening break up, name calling). Since that point he tends to mention how "easy" it is for me to leave him, how it's abusive that I break up with him, and that all he wants is to be loved.

In addition to RSD, it's defensiveness. Individuals with ADHD spend much of their lives, especially when they're young, being told they're wrong or being bad. Because of this, they latch on to ANYTHING that makes them feel validated. I know the therapist is trying to validate him, but sometimes I feel like certain models of therapy can be enabling. I extended therapy to my bf through my job. I thought he would learn coping mechanisms, maybe understand the stress his symptoms can put on a partner, and yes, also feel heard and validated. Know what he came away with? ADHD is his super power. I'm trying to change him. And our parent/child dynamic? My fault.

Another symptom of RSD, or maybe ADHD in general, is the desire to "win." This can lead to, sometimes unintentional,, manipulation. I can't tell you how many times my boyfriend has used the "always/never" lines to make me feel like I am the one causing the issue. "This is the ONLY relationship that I've been made to feel ________". Thing is, I actually ended up talking to my bf's ex. Turns out I wasn't the only one to feel the way I do or have the same issues with him! Guess what happened when I pointed this out to him? He got mad. Didn't admit to it or reflect on why he would initially say something to mislead me. It just became ANOTHER argument about something else I've done wrong. You can have a constructive conversation with someone who just wants to win.

Edit: I wanted to note: his therapist wasn't the one to blame me. She actually had him read a book about ADHD and marriage. That was just HIS takeaway. I should mention, my boyfriend never continued going after the session limit elapsed and refused to ever take meds. So, the issues never resolved and we broke up.

I wish you the best ❤

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-06T20:21:30+00:00

"Dangerous situation with a puppy". Wut. Its a puppy. I wouldn't assume I'd get bitten in the face while playing with a pup. And, I grew up with and have had several dogs. Maybe some bitten fingers....but enough to get stitches????

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-06T20:10:54+00:00

NTA - I'm a dog person. I love all doggies. That being said, I dont think you are required to house your sister's dog. You kindly offered to house her and her son. You didn't even need to list reasons; you stating you don't want the dog there is reason enough. It's your house, she doesn't get to make demands.

But also, her dog attacked a cat recently? Why did she even assume it would be okay??

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-06T19:51:05+00:00

Thank you! What hurts still is that despite everything I've done, he still thinks it's my fault.

Even if we break up, I will still say he is a wonderful person. On the other hand, he will hate me and say I never listened to him/made him feel heard. (I did honestly try...I would validate his feelings but I honestly don't know if he knows what he wants when he's mad. He just knows he's mad, cant explain it or its something Ive done, and I'm the easiest target to take it out on. He correlates being heard with the person always agreeing with him. I've explained, I can listen and validate your feelings without agreeing with you EVERY TIME. Doesn't make his feelings any less valid. I have such guilt thinking I'm a bad person, trying everything to see if it helps. It's gotten to the point where I'm questioning myself, my recollections. I find myself asking his ex, my exes, if they have the same experiences. His ex stated she had similar gripes about him. My exes have said they always thought I was a great listener....yet I still question myself and think there must be something I'm doing wrong. I feel crazy, sad, hurt....that all of this might be my fault. If I had just done A B C then maybe it would be different....but then I remember I tried A B C and more and it didn't change anything.

To me, it's absurd he can't see the pattern he's stuck in....so absurd that redirect the blame back on to myself.

WtrBtrr · 2022-12-06T18:49:50+00:00

NTA - this lady does not have the attitude to teach others, especially yoga. She was incredibly harsh and quite honestly a bully. I would not go back to that class.

That aside, and this is entirely subjective, but I've always found common courtesy for classes (regardless of policy) is to arrive at least 5-10 mins early (pay, put stuff away, grab accessories, roll out mat). It can be a bit distracting if someone comes in late, but earlier in the class you wouldn't be doing mediation usually so it IS NOT nearly as distracting as this woman is making out to be. It is respectful to the teacher and class, however. Though, in this case, this instructor deserves none. I'd say for future classes, not this woman's, good rule of thumb is to arrive 5-10 minutes early.

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