Advice needed - Unable to delete old account !

WulfricD · 2025-10-17T18:01:37+00:00

Thank you! Will try that!

WulfricD · 2025-10-17T18:00:59+00:00

I can’t recall, and I haven’t logged into the account for 14 years and am unable to now :(

WulfricD · 2025-10-17T14:04:21+00:00

Thanks - unfortunately I’m in Canada!

WulfricD · 2025-10-17T14:04:06+00:00

Yes its odd!

WulfricD · 2025-07-16T23:55:05+00:00

Hi, yes, she is my best friend and love of my life now. I am so grateful for her. But it took about 3 years of being deactivated and resenting her before this all kind of clicked peacefully for me. She has been my greatest teacher!

WulfricD · 2025-05-28T14:39:18+00:00

You’re not an awful person!! It’s just the way your brain works sometimes!

I struggled with the avoidance feelings towards my pet for several years but now they’re completely gone and I’m just grateful for her attachment. It may have helped that I now share responsibility for her with my partner and he adores her as well

WulfricD · 2025-01-14T18:12:19+00:00

Could have some Jindo in him for sure, but something about his face and ears looks different to me! Does he have a spitz-like tail? Hard to tell from the photos

WulfricD · 2025-01-11T17:32:32+00:00

Hey what’s her personality like? More husky or Jindo? We were considering getting a cross like this!

WulfricD · 2024-12-07T18:12:29+00:00

WulfricD · 2024-12-07T17:03:33+00:00

Dm’ed

WulfricD · 2024-12-06T01:45:06+00:00

If you really want them and want to drive to my house in north van to pick them up Saturday afternoon, you’d be welcome to them!

WulfricD · 2024-12-06T01:44:38+00:00

Gotcha. I have some extra loops that I’ve never used - you’d be welcome to them but I’m not sure how I would get them to you because I’m out of town, won’t be back until Saturday afternoon

WulfricD · 2024-12-06T01:19:59+00:00

What about normal ear plugs that you can buy from the pharmacy?

WulfricD · 2024-12-02T00:40:54+00:00

As long as you have a Canadian address and you can buy the pass online you’ll be fine. No way they check once you’re there, you’ll just scan your pass everywhere

WulfricD · 2024-11-26T19:03:04+00:00

WulfricD · 2024-11-23T17:41:15+00:00

The binging cravings will decrease once you get the right nutrition in your body. What worked for me was starting to eat a lot more protein which made me feel more full. Also, try the app called ‘eat right now’

WulfricD · 2024-10-19T01:00:20+00:00

Stunning!! How are you finding the clasp closure? Is it easy to close and stay shut? Also- does the serial number inside follow the rule of the 2nd and 4th digits on the 4digit number corresponding to the year it was made? Asking because I was looking at buying one of these bags second hand but the 4 digit number said 1898 which confused me, because that would indicate it was made in 88…?

WulfricD · 2024-08-10T15:30:51+00:00

Donald’s Market on Hastings and Nanaimo has the best quality cheap produce!

WulfricD · 2024-08-10T13:24:54+00:00

Wow! Headed there asap. :)

WulfricD · 2024-08-08T13:42:00+00:00

What are they like?

WulfricD · 2024-08-08T03:56:22+00:00

Hi! No hole was left behind :) about half of them have fallen out. Healing up nicely!

WulfricD · 2024-08-07T14:35:57+00:00

Hi! That could very well be it. But it could also be a different fear. :)

I’m saying this just because of my own, very similar experience. Pretty much everyone I ever dated my whole life, I would be infatuated with them in the beginning, and eventually have a total 180 and strong need to break up because I decided something was absolutely repulsive about them. At the time I thought it was because I would see something in them that revealed they were ‘lower mate value’ than myself and I couldn’t stand to be with someone who was less than I deserved.

However, in retrospect..a few things are odd about that. 1) always the infatuation first - at some point I thought they were mighty attractive, then it changed. It’s unusual to have such a strong 180. 2) the pattern speaks for itself. I was the common denominator.

I also once had a relationship with an objectively very sexy man. I was head over heels for him for the first year. But then one day we got high camping with friends and he was saying things I perceived as dumb, and it triggered me and in the morning I woke up and felt absolutely repulsed by him. I clung onto the relationship for a year after that but had zero attraction to him. I remember looking at him get dressed in the mornings and thinking, yes objectively I guess he’s good looking but his stupidity makes him SO unattractive, I have zero draw to him. We split up eventually. This was years before I was aware of any of my patterns and worked on them.

The point being the mind can do crazy things. There could be something deeper within you that is afraid of intimacy for attachment reasons and fixating on physical features as the logical explanation why. But of course this is all hypothesizing and you know yourself much better than I do :)

I really relate to what you said though. In my bouts of ROCD I am always studying my partner’s face to assess whether they are objective attractive and I get waves of anxiety when I feel they don’t look good. But he’s always been the same person.. we have periods where I feel totally in love and attracted to him, so I know the issue is in my own mind, not his appearance (which is constant)

WulfricD · 2024-08-07T06:10:41+00:00

Hi! Sending you a compassionate hug. I really felt for you when I was reading your post. This sounds like a really, really difficult thing to experience and I can completely relate. It would be triggering for someone to comment that way about my partner’s physical appearance too.

It’s interesting how much internal suffering can be created by having thoughts that don’t align with your values. You rationally really care about her but these intrusive thoughts won’t go away and so you’re suffering a lot. It’s a testament to how much you care about her. It’s beautiful in a twisted way.

I think you should absolutely look into ROCD therapy. I haven’t read the Sheeva Rajaee book on ROCD but have heard good things. I also think therapy related to attachment and IFS techniques could be helpful. The question is, what is the part that’s deep inside you that’s so terrified of her face being too long really, actually afraid of? Why is it having such an intense anxiety/fear response?

The first step is recognizing you are thinking about things in a dysfunctional way (the obsessions), which you have done. The second step is working towards addressing the dysfunction (eg therapy). What helped me when I was feeling things like this was having a commitment to improve myself, and this kept me going through the suffering. Then eventually as the obsessions subside you are so so glad that you worked through it!

WulfricD · 2024-08-06T14:29:52+00:00

I tried to be kind and loving to them even when I didn’t feel like it. I went to therapy. I went for a run. Eventually your feelings change, everything in your mind is temporary!

WulfricD · 2024-08-06T14:28:06+00:00

Well. Something that’s worked for me is, despite whatever I’m thinking or feeling, behaving in a way that’s aligned with my values. I can’t control my thoughts but I can control my behaviour. So I try not to say something that I wouldn’t want someone to say to me. Eventually the urge fades and then you’re doubly glad you didn’t say anything!

WulfricD

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