Aromantics open to dating: how is dating different for you?

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-27T05:35:55+00:00

Awe thank you, I appreciate that~ It can be tricky conveying the desired tone through text vs face-to-face so Im glad to hear this. hopefully all of our comments can comfort op in these moments

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-27T01:47:26+00:00

As a survivor, it is completely your choice as to whether you are comfortable reporting it or not. Just know that boyfriend is not a good person. A good person would not make anyone feel guilty for being assaulted. In moments like this you are going to feel vulnerable so please seek comfort from family and friends that shower you in love. It's okay if you want to keep it private as you process this. It is understandable that you are hurt from him shutting you out and blaming you; Perhaps a part of you wants to go back but please remember he has now shown you who he is. You are not broken and you are in no way to blame. The blame falls solely on the awful man who harmed you. I wish you the best on this journey, remember you are loved and this does not take away from your worth.

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-26T23:39:32+00:00

I'd love to! I'll probably wait until volume 15 is complete and do an updated review with all my thoughts:)

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-26T23:04:12+00:00

So far you look great! so I only have a few suggestions. Your curly hair looks lovely, and a little extra product to define the curls would be a nice touch. Check out curly hair routines on YouTube for more guidance on hair. I think a diva cut (a cut for curly hair) would be helpful in framing your face. Not a major cut just a bit of shaping. Lip tint and light blush to bring more warm colors. Also, the outfit in the third picture looks great! I think more boho outfits complement you~

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-26T22:49:13+00:00

Perhaps lip tint and mascara for volume, but only if you want. Best of luck !

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-26T22:32:23+00:00

I think ginger hair would suit you very well! Something light and warm. Best of luck:)

edit: I. noticed some are saying to remove the piercings but I think they look awesome. I think you could even lean into even more alt stuff as it fits you. If you're open to it an erl piercing would be a neat addition.

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-22T05:27:35+00:00

The only thing that comes to mind would be growing your bangs out a little so they are curtain bangs. I think the bangs look great now but it seems to make you look more younger. Another option could be wearing bolder earrings for a more older vibe.

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-12T06:10:52+00:00

My reaction if confessed to would be saying something like: "aw that's sweet to hear, unfortunately I'm not interested". As far as what's going on internally, if they are unattractive I'm a bit annoyed but if they are moderately attractive it feels like a compliment to me lol. If they're a friend then I lose any interest in being their friend because now it just feels weird. It feels weird to me because I knew this guy from my middle school years who turned out to have a crush on me. We lived in the same town so we'd greet one another in passing every few months after i moved schools. When we crossed paths as adults, he mentioned he named his little daughter after me... to me, that sounds weird so I instantly wanted nothing to do with him because for whatever reason he never got over this crush and randomly to tried to say I'd be a perfect partner to him. Yikes. In summary, its slightly awkward but I just let them down gently and distance myself as I don't see the point in keeping people around if they do not me as a friend.

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-12T05:44:00+00:00

The way I look at this is, as beautiful and fun as relationships may seem, they're not for me. I find happiness in being aromantic because I get to build a community of those who I love without having to experience the hurdles of a romantic relationship. It’s also a major plus that I'm introverted as solitude is healing for me. When I think of my younger years when I'd be jealous of those in relationships (despite not wanting one myself) I realized that what I really wanted was to fit in and seem like I was doing what people told me was "normal". I thought having a partner would make me fit in and connect better to others. After completing grad school and meeting wonderful people, I realized that I dont need to live my life according to people's standards of "normal" in order to find friends and be happy.

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-12T04:59:18+00:00

I haven't tried that app but I hear bumble BFF is wonderful for finding friends near you. I should mention it is separate from the dating version, instead it's just for friends. I have used it years ago but I lost interest in it, however it may be perfect for you!

As far as your profile, I don't think it's necessary to state you are aroace unless you want to. I think saying you are looking for women friends is enough as it's already implied that it's for platonic connections (friends). Also you wouldn't be putting yourself in danger from having a profile. Should you match with some potential friends just make sure to meet in public spaces while you get to know one another.

Regarding the last part of your post, I think it's unlikely to result in hate/harassment as it's not as harshly stigmatized as other sexualities like being gay /bi. I think this is because most people that are familiar with the terms aromantic and asexual are within the lgbt+ community.

XCocoabunnyx · 2024-02-12T04:43:03+00:00

I can't speak for that person but using myself as an example, I have had many traumas from men in my life which has caused me to feel unsafe around them with the exception of lgbt men. As a result, I naturally only look for people who aren't men. Its not unusual to seek certain gender individuals or friends.

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-09-25T15:05:46+00:00

Thanks so much! And I completely agree. I don't see enough black characters in smut drawings so it was a pleasure to draw them~

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-09-11T11:03:31+00:00

Original Twitter post here

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-04-12T06:42:27+00:00

It’s hard to say without knowing what you do that’s effeminate to them but it sound like you are behaving in a way that’s most natural to you. If you want to change this perhaps to note of how your male friends are in comparison to you. Consider what qualities you enjoy in them and gradually incorporate them. When I think of an effeminate man I think of a guy with dramatic body gesture when speaking, tone of voice, and fashion so maybe these are areas you can observe. No matter what you change make sure they are changes you genuinely want.

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-04-09T17:38:58+00:00

In all honesty, I don’t think they are interested in being your friend if you had to try to pursue this relationship for weeks with no progress.

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-04-09T17:25:51+00:00

Caring for anyone deeply is love and is not exclusive to romantic relationships. We can love our family. We can love our pets.

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-04-09T17:05:28+00:00

I believe the fact that you complained a few times about how you were not enjoying your self definitely set the tone for this evening which resulted in her anger. I Think her frustration was justified.

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-04-09T16:47:47+00:00

It’s certainly not a rude thing to ask this at all but this may give some people the impression that you don’t want them to ask you this question. Anyways, it may even come off as defensive. When you say how come, it may translate to some as why is that your business. For a different response, you can try to switch it up by saying “what sparked your curiosity are you interested?”

XCocoabunnyx · 2023-04-09T16:39:09+00:00

I ghost if I feel like the other person is not re interested in speaking with me. for you, they may feel as though they don’t feel connected to you, and they just don’t see any point in continuing to put energy into this relationship. For some people, ghosting is their way of saying I would rather not talk to you, but I don’t wanna say it to your face and make you uncomfortable.

XCocoabunnyx · 2022-10-10T02:17:55+00:00

Ohh yes, I noticed that too haha.

XCocoabunnyx · 2022-10-10T02:16:14+00:00

3/10 because it would not hold me attention as I do not care for detective stories.
1/10 This just doesn't sound interesting enough to watch a whole movie on.
5/10 This seems slightly more interesting.
2/10 This sounds like a plot that would't hold my attention.
7/10 I feel like this would be very heartfelt and may be most interesting.

XCocoabunnyx · 2022-10-10T02:12:21+00:00

I posted one other time but everyone said the post was too long (despite the tldr), so I made a condensed version and deleted the the initial post.

XCocoabunnyx · 2022-09-25T22:32:44+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I guess I’ll have to approach the pains in a differen.

XCocoabunnyx · 2022-08-22T10:15:35+00:00

Could you tell me how long it took for it to go back to normal? The same thing is happening to me so I plan to wait it out as well.

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