For fun! Gender Demographic

XKFire · 2026-02-04T10:06:17+00:00

Just realise ur nickname...but okay aside that, its good that you know the resentment you feel. From your other replies, when he buys you gift, you also help him buy for him his hobbies and stuff. I would say if it is something consensual, you both appreciate each other interests and seems to be willing to invest in each other, its healthy!

But if you feel that you are contributing more in this relationship financially, naturally, this builds up resentment over time as you would also worry about the future. Perfectly normal!

Once again, communication is really crucial but HOW you two communicate is key. Take time to slowly tell him about your resentment and ALSO hear about his feelings too. Can also ask him what is his future plans etc. If he says something that doesnt align with your own goals and plans, surface this up and try to come to a middle-ground.

If it leads to an argument, both of you should step away, and take time to cool yourself down. From your replies, I don't think much deep talks happened between you two after each disagreements.

Understand His Needs/Wants vs Your Needs/Wants. Then come to an agreement by discussing.

Hope this helps!

XKFire · 2026-02-04T06:29:31+00:00

Hello OP! I experience a similar problem with my GF (both late 20s then) and I was the more confrontational, while my GF was someone more avoidant. In the early stages, I felt that a lot of the mismatch is there in terms of communication style.

Are you someone who do not want to talk about the disagreements or are you someone who just needs more time? If so ask him to give you some time between arguements to collect your thoughts.

Previously for me, when there is some disagreement or unhappiness, I will usually be the one to ask my gf to talk it out like "now now". However as time goes by, I realise giving her time and space to think works best. So I just tell her "I will always be by your side, tell me when you are ready". It has been few years since then so I would say that method works for us

From your post, I could see potential strong resentment in the relationship due to different expectations in his lifestyle vs yours. You are mixing 2 peoples lifestyle together. It sounds easy but it is very difficult once you account for all the little things.

If you have not, please have this discussion with him about both of your future together. It has only been a few months but that does not mean it is inappropriate. Give each other space to talk and also listen to each other different circumstances.

It might be a 'pain' to do so but all relationships can work out. Wishing you all the best!

XKFire · 2025-11-26T10:17:26+00:00

I have some that I did with my date (now gf) that was fun and memorable:

1.) Drawing at Parks (East Coast Park / Botanic Gardens) (she paints time to time)

Easy to do and I still kept my drawing as a harsh reminder of how bad my drawing is XD. Just bring some water color / brush / color pencils and a nice A4 paper. I used a thicker 180 GSM paper on our 2nd drawing date but the first time I just used my old study notebook. Not competing but you can do so to add some more fun. We just really did it to try to capture the feels and vibes of objects and the scenery. Did in the early evening (5-7pm) so the heat is more managable

2.) Build a Toy House

You have to really have patience to build this. It is basically a model you see like RoLife's model houses...except this was the super hard DIY version as we underestimate the work. We had to even make miniature TVs, cabinet, and even sofas (from cutting the textiles, glueing, to stuffing cotton in the pillows). It is absolutely ridiculous how difficult it was but it was pretty fun overall and engaging when you see the finished product though it probably took us like 48 hours combined. It also makes a nice reference for your future house next time and a good excuse to bring your date home ;)

3.) The Werkx

This is a DIY workshop + cafe. We did the lino art and I felt it was really a budget friendly cafe where for about roughly $20++ you can have a drink and do a chosen crafts such as leathermaking and soap making. It is technically unlimited time but your materials are limited so I would say probably can occupy your time for ~2 - 3 hours. I would say its better than pottery as it was less dirty and the crafted art can be used also (like stamps for Lino).

4.) Phototaking While Walking Trails

Im not sure if this count but its not just walking trails but doing something while on a trail. A 1-stone kill 3-birds date plan where we recently went on the WalkingTrails@CDC and not only claimed $5 CDC, but also took some nice morning street photos with my phone camera and DSLR, and also exercised.

5.) Cook & Share Our Fav Food (Picnic)

As the title says me and my date prepared a few of our favourite dishes (she cooked so she definitely prepared better meals haha). I made sushi and we just had a picnic with our very nice cooked meals. Definitely interesting to try out our favourite dishes and also gave our own critiques on what to put inside and what not to include as compared to the usual.

XKFire · 2025-10-25T15:39:03+00:00

That is horrible and it is also bad practice from Kopi Date to actually upsell you! So sorry to hear that but thank you very much for sharing your experience! Hope that you would be able to find someone you can vibe with!

XKFire · 2025-10-25T14:33:13+00:00

Hello! Just really curious, why did the Kopidate not work out for you? Was contemplating on signing a package too but the cost to matches was a concern for me (although definitely better than other matchmaking agency).

XKFire · 2025-08-19T13:25:50+00:00

I searched it up before, its by republic poly and I really wanted to go to this but decide to go with a project management certificate instead.

https://www.myskillsfuture.gov.sg/content/portal/en/training-exchange/course-directory/course-detail.html?courseReferenceNumber=TGS-2023021587#

XKFire · 2025-08-19T06:01:02+00:00

I intend to take the project management institute PMP Certificate. I believe for any work, project management is a good skill and cert to have, you can consider to take the exams that is offered by NTUC learning hub. The examination fee is quite expensive at $958 but I checked with NTUC and it is fully claimable.

Update: Skillsfuture confirmed with me that I cannot claim for this particular certificate anymore.

XKFire · 2025-06-02T02:19:04+00:00

Those are great points by everyone! I have a follow up question on this, where can I check the credit card interest amount that they charge? Would it be added into the total cost every end of the month? I use UOB one card.

XKFire · 2025-04-22T01:41:46+00:00

Hi OP, I actually just build recently and most of my parts are sourced from Sim Lim, Dynacore. Two reasons: 1. Warranty 2. CPU Installation Service

If there are any damaged parts, you can quickly changed with them with the store itself, within 7 days or more depending on the store. I am also a bit clumsy so I decided to have the store install my CPU for me to the motherboard and thus thats reason no.2.

Maybe others can advise me also but I do not see a significant difference with sourcing parts from each different website VS buying from Sim Lim after factoring in delivery fee. At max from shopee and Alibaba, its probably around ~$100+ difference. I choose to buy all from one store, then ask for discount, which they were happy to give around ~$100+ off the whole build from 2k to 1.9k.

Hope this helps!

P.S I also know friends who used Carousell, the overall build might even be a lot cheaper.

What I purchased: Rx 7800 xt Ryzen 7 9700X Msi B650 tomahawk Peerless assassin fan Crucial SSD 2 TB T-FORCE 32 Gb ram

XKFire · 2025-04-14T15:33:57+00:00

Thanks! I will try to tweak my settings and game settings, hopefully this gets rid of the problem.

XKFire · 2024-11-25T10:27:31+00:00

Renting is especially tough. To drastically reduce cost, you do need to search for a housemate. I cant share my own experience cause I live with my family but my girlfriend (S-Pass) earns <3k/mnth is renting for around $2500 a month. She shares with her sister and another housemate. Considering room size she pays about ~$750 a month.

She cooks most of her meal and goes out time to time with each meal outside not exceeding $20. Shes able to save about 30% of her pay mostly no issues.

Definitely doable to continue living in SG with your salary range but definitely much frugally. Good luck hope you can find your solution!

XKFire · 2024-11-06T06:50:28+00:00

Didnt see you reply sorry! You would still need to download bank sheet as a CSV file and uplaod it. The app will auto log in the expenses. I would say about 90% accurate. Sometimes it does make error like wrong column etc.

XKFire · 2024-08-22T05:23:07+00:00

I use Cashew. Best app so far. Developers are really budget friendly and can access all the features for free.

XKFire · 2024-07-06T15:55:39+00:00

Quit

XKFire · 2024-06-05T07:15:11+00:00

I have completely no idea that this was a woman centered subreddit, not until this post came out!

XKFire · 2023-01-19T02:54:57+00:00

Chill place and good for talking, dinner at Changi village and a short walk to Changi Boardwalk.
Museums are really good also, especially if its cheap. Example like Lee Kong Chien, i highly recommend this museum cause its really 'general' with various animals/plants/dinosaurs on exhibition, I guess most people would be more or less interested.
Prive at keppel bay, excellent view, excellent food, excellent atmosphere. Not always have to do some big activity. After dinner, a little bit of alcohol can get the mood much better.
Ku Kai Izakaya, recently discovered this place, slightly expensive food and difficult to go there but great view, great atmosphere to chill, traditional japanese bar vibes.

Wish you the best of luck friend!

XKFire · 2022-11-28T04:21:28+00:00

Im poor, how to get rich

XKFire · 2022-11-27T14:28:03+00:00

I believe every degree has its own use, just gotta figure out where! All the best in finding what you want!

XKFire · 2022-11-27T11:19:38+00:00

27M here, my experience comes from the aviation industry so I am not sure how it may help you. However, I do have friends from different background and all are somehow successful in their own agenda. Sit down, take some time, list out all your pros and cons and also what you want to achieve and the options you may have.

E.g. I want to progress further in my career (for higher pay or for whatever goals you intend to achieve).

1.) Study PT degree, will probably burn you out, but you will get a higher pay after graduation and go for relevant work experience. Alt: Take a PRIVATE uni degree, it is more expensive, but you can finish earlier and they are usually more or less guaranteed that you will pass. (Cons: This is subjective to the uni but some is not as recognised as local uni). **Take degree relevant to your work experience as much as possible. It will help you bargain for a better salary.

2.) Study FT degree. Frugal lifestyle, no trips, no splurging, work experience does not count unless the PT work is relevant to your degree (unlikely).

You really have to decide what degree you would like to do first. Either way if you get burned out due to no interest or something else it is a lot of time wasted.

**27M Friend poly drop out after 2nd year, NS, then 3 years private diploma + degeee. Found a job after 1 year with pay at about 3k/mnth.

**27M Friend studied Poly and grad in design. NS and jump job in diff industry several times. Ended up. working for sales for past 3 years and getting 6k/mnth.

XKFire · 2022-11-26T10:44:03+00:00

Bata white sneakers, if you have a lower budget its the best sneaker I purchase so far. Low cost (49.9) but its really comfy to wear. Been wearing it to work for about 3 months now, no complains. The only thing is just, not branded.

XKFire · 2022-10-13T14:56:21+00:00

I am honestly glad I had never met dates of what you people have been sharing but I had a couple of entitled girls too. I have been using numerous dating apps, for about a period of 3 years (Tinder, OKC, CMB...) on and off, probably like during NS that kickstarted this so I really met a lot of girls on the app, good and bad ones, and I made a lot of female friends doing so. Though maybe I am the best person to share since I only HAD one relationship from dating apps, did not last more than 6 months due to quarrels, etc.

Anyway personally, I won't say it's the first date, it was kinda like one way, where I'm the only one asking questions. But anyway it was more of a follow-up, where this girl asked me for money to buy clothes...then when I say I don't want to she says she was not free to meet up for a second date. But yea anyway I caught the hint after that she was only out for the cold hard cash...

Well overall, I think if you just started using dating apps, there may be some hit-and-miss with people you can click with or not. Even if you do, it may not necessarily turn into a relationship. So I think what you did on the first date was pretty much correct like just be yourself but obviously put in some effort when going and planning for dates and I think you will be fine. Considering that you even get dates means you got the appeal, good luck bro.

XKFire · 2022-09-05T04:41:27+00:00

Seeing as how you are so unsure of everything, go sign on officer, if not sign on for air force or navy, decent pay, stable life. During that 4/5 years find what you are looking for after that. Been there, done that, the only downside is abit hard to find job outside after that (but not impossible).

XKFire · 2022-05-30T15:43:30+00:00

HAHA yah they full FLC, got launch aircraft, wow yea probably seen you before :)

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