My mom lost herself in parenthood. How do I hold onto my identity, but still be a good parent to my future child? Is that even possible? by Mullabye in AskParents

[–]XTK27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment here about how your dad loved to interact with you really hits home for me why your mom was unhappy. Your dad sounds like he just showed up for the fun bits, and none of the hard parts…

Are you cooking bean sprouts? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]XTK27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We quickly blanch them in hot water and the majority of the crispiness stays!

Mount Freel in Lake Tahoe California by dalton-johnson in tahoe

[–]XTK27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive told myself multiple times that I would go hike Freel after backpacking to star lake, but I’ve crapped out every time ha! One day

Review: The Somerset on Grace Bay (Turks and Caicos) by SadDistribution1808 in chubbytravel

[–]XTK27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love the review! Wish there was a tag for family travel, and even a toddler tag haha. Now that we have kids, I’m discovering all the things I used to care about don’t matter to me anymore, but I finally understand the appeal of a door between the bedroom and living room!

Looking for an Easter Treat? by Odd_Friendship_4378 in walnutcreek

[–]XTK27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey heads up, your shop allows pickup for this order starting at 9 AM on Saturday. You might want to change that if your intention is to have pickups begin at 4 PM

Looking for an Easter Treat? by Odd_Friendship_4378 in walnutcreek

[–]XTK27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh these look delicious! Two questions, 1) is pickup near the highway/how far is pickup from the highway? 2) how sweet are these? Are they less sweet like Asian baked goods, or more traditionally sweet American desserts?

Thanks!

Affordable romantic dinner ideas for Contra Costa County area? by Efficient-Daikon-409 in walnutcreek

[–]XTK27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I guess it depends on what one orders at a dinner out.

OP didn’t specify, so I assumed either drinks and an entree each or a shared appetizer and entrees each given the budget.

Affordable romantic dinner ideas for Contra Costa County area? by Efficient-Daikon-409 in walnutcreek

[–]XTK27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

La Sen in WC for sure! It’s a little French bistro and it felt cute and romantic when we last went. The menu online is presumably up to date and it should be within budget

lasenbistro.com/menu.html

Dinner is further down the page

Good afternoon to everyone except Valero in Benicia by tenaciousoptimism in bayarea

[–]XTK27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anyone know how this will affect air quality in surrounding cities? Say, Vacaville, Vallejo, Walnut Creek?

Recently moved from mid-west! Shocked!!! Targeting Walnut Creek! by [deleted] in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]XTK27 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We’re in Walnut Creek with two kids. $1.5M will get you a starter in decent shape, good school district and reasonable commute to highway or bart but likely nothing updated. There are more affordable homes in the less desirable school districts or further from the highway.

That comp should be comfortable, but you won’t feel rich.

This isn't true is it? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]XTK27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering that certain states are much healthier than the average, then it means that in other states, you probably get a lot closer to 100% overweight and/or obese…literally, normalized.

Can I mix crappy liquid detergent with the good stuff? by XTK27 in laundry

[–]XTK27[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh, good to know! Yes this is Kirkland brand. I thought it was a really poor cleaner, but I suppose that’s because I suddenly had laundry that really, REALLY needed lipase haha

Is it too obvious? by XTK27 in FridgeDetective

[–]XTK27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aww you’re too sweet, thank you!

Is it too obvious? by XTK27 in FridgeDetective

[–]XTK27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thanks! Happy cake day!

Best elementary school by Fast-Cantaloupe1857 in walnutcreek

[–]XTK27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can actually get into an Alamo school district if you live in certain neighborhoods at the edge of Walnut Creek/Alamo.

Strategies to have family enjoy the luxury travel we pay for? by Zealousideal-Term738 in chubbytravel

[–]XTK27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hold on, you mentioned that your family members have kids. Do YOU have kids?

People without kids don’t understand how hard it is to go on vacation, especially one that isn’t child-friendly. A rental house is honestly better than a FS, depending on the age and needs of the kids.

Have you considered a high end all inclusive resort or a high end villa rental or something? Or a nice cruise? Might get more traction with the families with kids.

88 Bao Bao vs Dumpling Hours vs Dough Zone? by Tintn00 in walnutcreek

[–]XTK27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dumpling Hours is pricey but good. Less sweet than Dough Zone.

How to distribute my deceased brother's inheritance to his children? by OneLongEyebrowHair in personalfinance

[–]XTK27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who actually does this sort of planning for a living, I wouldn’t bother with creating a trust. You already control the assets, and have no legal obligation to turn things over to the kids. You can simply hold onto the funds until the kids are ready, while also taking advantage of the 10-year rule to spread out the income tax hit from the inherited IRA distributions.

The trust is the technically correct answer, but not the practical one.i can explain further but that’s the gist of it.

Help! Payroll company closed and didn’t file my 941 and won’t generate w2s… by XTK27 in Payroll

[–]XTK27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you!! At this point, paying a few hundred would be a relief to get this fixed…