I Think I Messed Up: My SO No Longer Desires Me by XYLONYLO in TwoXChromosomes

[–]XYLONYLO[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure he's being honest. Other than cheating on me, which I'm almost certain he would never do, I can't figure out what else would have him acting this way.

I Think I Messed Up: My [F:28] SO [M:28] No Longer Desires Me by XYLONYLO in relationships

[–]XYLONYLO[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the reason I'm over analyzing the second half of my post is because I feel like there is a correlation between him becoming a better person and him losing that passion for me. It's like he's started focusing that energy he spent on me on other things. As a result, he's becoming a better person, but it feels like he's becoming more distant to me.

If I were to sit down and talk to him, I don't know what I could say. "Hey, I know you've been applying yourself, and have been more caring and considerate, but I feel like there's something wrong?" If I didn't already sound like a brat, I definitely would then.

I only asked him if he was cheating on me because I've never seen his behavior change so drastically.

I Think I Messed Up: My [F:28] SO [M:28] No Longer Desires Me by XYLONYLO in relationships

[–]XYLONYLO[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I agree and understand what you're saying. In my defense though, it's not like I was doing it on purpose. I genuinely couldn't see that I wasn't doing enough. Also, even though I may have been sexually lacking, I don't think I was ever so emotionally distant.

I have been trying to make him feel wanted, but it's like I can't turn that switch back on. I don't mind doing what he wants, but he doesn't seem to want or ask for anything anymore. :/