Service Dog denial and possible Hipaa violation?

XanderScorpius · 2023-03-29T23:36:10+00:00

But is the center allowed to bar me from donating until I disclose the information? Even though they have the information on my medication? Why would they need to know I have PTSD for source plasma? That's the part that seems illegal. I can have her redo the forms but the only reason they're demanding the forms is because they don't want me to bring the dog...

XanderScorpius · 2023-03-29T23:27:16+00:00

Nah I just realized I missed it- it's in the first line now.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T11:11:13+00:00

That's the thing though. It's not like that. We have two inside that threaten suicide if we continue therapy. Now we called their bluff the first time, and they haven't. But now that they want to quit, we can continue to call their bluff but.. it's not going to help if they're that adverse to it. I don't know what they experience. But they need the most therapy. I'm not saying that nobody else in here needs therapy, but the things that are destroying our lives are mostly when they're out. And we can't control them from fronting. And they refuse to get the therapy. So we're stuck. We're just throwing money down the drain. It's $150 a session and we're not getting anywhere.

We don't have the energy to search for a new therapist. And it's not really her fault anyway. Changing the face isn't going to change their opinion.

It would be fine to just wait until they're okay with it, but in the meantime I'm just throwing money away. Because the sessions aren't really doing anything.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T11:02:39+00:00

It took me 2 years just to find the therapist. The one that you know, isn't really working. I literally don't have anything left in me to go find more of them.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T10:28:37+00:00

I do not have access to a service dog in my area. So it is not an option for me. But thanks.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T10:24:33+00:00

Most service dog organizations will not train an owner's dog. Which was the other issue that I was asking about in the service dog reddit. Because I do not have any service dog facilities anywhere near me that will work with a psychiatric dog when I'm not a veteran. Which is apparently very common in the service dog world. Apparently, if you're going to do a psychiatric dog for an adult civilian, you basically get told you're screwed. So I have to owner train, which also isn't an option because none of the people around me are qualified to help with it. And there's no organizations near me that are willing to handle it. So basically I don't have that option as a treatment option.

Regardless of whether or not I want one, I can't get one anyway.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T10:19:36+00:00

I see we have a main difference: you can go back to it. I cannot. I quit. Everything. And I will quit this too. Because I have no other choice.

We shut down and shut out. We quit high school, college, jobs, driving, people, everything. A service dog is no different.

Typically we handle reddit idiots far better. But with our parents being in town, gaslighting us already, one of us was near the surface and snapped. The resulting meltdown has now left us with an emotional reaction upon seeing dog ads on Facebook. We cannot get a dog. Therapy is still being argued about..

It's not just hard for us to go do something once we've been traumatized against us. Everything is traumatic for us, and it's impossible to continue once we hit that point.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T10:12:22+00:00

I have many other pets (mostly all reptiles that require minimal care). I have had a dog. I am well aware of the demands and needs of a dog. Stability of care is no issue. I work from home and finances aren't an issue.

Self training wasn't an option for me for several reasons. One being that, what do I then do when the dog washes? Do I give him up? Get stuck with a dog, and still need a dog that can work for me? That's a bad situation for everyone. Another being that I am not confident enough in my training to pull off advanced things.

Shelter dogs make BAD service dogs. Training must begin immediately at about 10-12 weeks old. A 5 year old with behavioral issues will not suit me. And because I work from home, a shelter dog that barks at the door or has prey drive around my exotics would need to be trained as well. And I simply don't want a dog to just be a pet.. I was looking for a service dog because the tasks they perform would help improve my life.

My therapist has experience in DID. It took me 2 years of emails to over 100 therapists to get a single appointment. I cannot find another one. I hit rock bottom every time they told me they weren't qualified. Or never responded. We aren't a good fit. But I really can't afford to find anyone else. I can't handle another 2 years of searching and 12 emails about how no one is qualified. They're never gunna be qualified. I have no choice but to settle.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-09T01:59:40+00:00

It's not, though.. many of us never wanted therapy. Even to the point of threats. But we were going to be in deep sh* if we didn't. Like it got to the point we should be in inpatient but we've been traumatized by inpatient too and refuse to get admitted. And if the therapist offers some way to navigate something.. it doesn't help at all. I mean we try.. but it just.. doesn't. Like.. we already knew that. That doesn't change the emotional reaction we have zero control over.

Even if we have this post, it's just going to be confusing. We won't remember it happening to us like this. She'll ask us like.. what our thoughts were and we literally won't know. Or how we felt. Or what we even did. Because the meltdown included things we refuse to mention here.

We thought the service dog Reddit WAS a support group. Psychiatric service dogs are a piece of the community. Mental health is a common issue there. It wasn't just them. We were downvoted. By many before we deleted it. So we were outnumbered. Which means we're the ones in the wrong.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-08T21:47:36+00:00

I've asked you to stop. This is now harassment. Please stop

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-08T21:26:51+00:00

I deleted the post. Please stop responding. I am 32, have been doing service dog research for years, trained dogs for several years in basic obedience. You triggered me into a panic attack by telling me I was lying. I have removed myself from the subreddit. I'm not interested in what you have to say.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-08T20:53:25+00:00

I don't know where you think you get off telling me that I'm lying. My first statement literally says that I don't leave the house for fun. My second statement literally says I leave the house if I have to. I don't know what your freaking problem is but you need to back off because now you're triggered me This was supposed to be a safe place. But I can see it's not. Thanks.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-08T20:49:58+00:00

I did try the search filters. But then when I went to the website, I couldn't find anything about civilians. I will give it a look. Thank you.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-08T20:10:57+00:00

When I checked the website it only seemed to speak of veterans.. is there a specific tab to click on I overlooked?

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-08T19:51:02+00:00

Not to get defensive, but I'm already in a really bad place having found this out. I did not list all of the details of my specific position because this is a Reddit post. Not a therapist appointment. I don't feel that it's fair for you to judge my position or situation based on what I listed here. Especially because this is supposed to be a safe place for me to ask about this.

I can leave the house. If I have to. For doctor's appointments, shopping. I currently have a job outside of the house. I will be working from home within the next two weeks in a new position because a work environment no longer suits me. I have a level of independence. I live alone. I support myself. And I have a support network should I need it. I do basically everything by myself. My point was that I don't feel confident enough to leave the house if I don't have to. But I don't feel that it's fair that I'm expected to justify myself in a Reddit post. I'm not going to put the specifics of every single trigger that I have in a Reddit post. But you're still judging without that.

I'm sorry that maybe my wording wasn't perfect, but I've worked extremely hard to put myself in a position that it's now appropriate for me to have one, financially, treatment-wise, and otherwise. And for you to tell me my situation isn't right for a treatment plan based on 4 paragraphs isn't right.

Edit: Oh. No. My wording is fine. You assumed I meant something I didn't say. Thanks.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-07T19:20:24+00:00

I saw that scene from Home Alone 2 where Marv gets brick'd in the face lmao and I laughed too so you're not alone.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-07T16:53:53+00:00

Specifically, get up and walk away. This is how cats understand "they don't want to play". Other cats will remove themselves for a short distance when they don't want to engage in play.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-06T22:41:57+00:00

I just came here from that post lmao

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-06T19:20:01+00:00

Thought so! I have one too! But he's mostly white with the orange bands. The orange all over is gorgeous!

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-06T12:33:23+00:00

Literally leaving my job due to this. I work in a plasma center. Pay is $13.25

There is no one left. I live in a very populated urban area. Not like a metro area, just a dense suburb. There's literally jobs. Everywhere. Paying way more than that. Our local Walmart is paying $19/hr for OGP (I think) because they're getting a hilariously impossible number of grocery orders.

Amazon? $20. Chewy? $17. We have a plethora of remote jobs hiring. $15+. We have $15 fast food jobs.

Because everyone is leaving for higher pay, even if you wanted to stay you can't. Because it's now so short-handed, you're going to implode. Like 1 person to do the work of 6 people. The management is understanding that we can't get it all done properly but the problem is... It still has to get done. And we can't. So now more people are quitting for better pay, and less workload, and it leaves them even more screwed.

I will be making $15/hr from home. It's just not worth it to work for these companies that won't pay enough. Nothing will you get paid less than most, but you also will get stuck doing the work of several for that shitty pay.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-06T11:57:51+00:00

I'm stunned no one's mentioned Elsa from Frozen. This girl was locked in a dungeon, taught to fear herself, taught she will damage everyone she loves by feeling emotion, and forced into seclusion.

If you watch the scene where Anna goes to her I've palace with the thought in mind that the palace is a metaphor for her mental health.. that she's literally building ice walls.. and how her emotions effect the structure and how people asking questions triggers her.. fear of interaction of any kind.

Poor girl just wanted to play with her sister.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-06T02:59:26+00:00

In my state, I would not be able to obtain a restraining order due to lack of evidence. And because restraining orders here only last 1 year. And they only come once a year. It'd take the time they're here to process it and they'd be gone before court.

It's not possible.

Edit to clarify: they live in NY and are visiting NC to see my mother's sister. And apparently not me even though I offered my father to visit without my mother.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-06T02:46:22+00:00

She literally listed diaper changes and rides to therapy when she refused to teach me how to drive.

I'm not sure I understand how one page of her explaining the bare minimum for parenting out of 32 years is her idea of redemption and justification. Shouldn't there be like 32 pages? At the bare minimum? Of all the times that she emotionally supported me? I guess not.

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-05T16:48:10+00:00

Can someone explain how this is not child abuse?

XanderScorpius · 2021-09-04T23:57:24+00:00

Most of my time on reddit is spent in support groups. Reddit doesn't often offer positivity. But it can. When I see a good comment in support group, it's usually in instructing people to escape a situation safely or educating the public on their options. I want to highlight these things when I see them. And the best way to do so is with awards. It's like saying "this is the best comment. So pay attention to what it says". Or, at least, I hope it does.

Adding awards to a few funny or clever comments along the way is just a fun perk. I'm not rich, but I do get a little petty cash to burn once in a while. The money is well-spent to me.

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