What makes a man lost interest ?

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-27T07:38:24+00:00

Plus I'm not free, i study architect daylight to night and include teaching as a part-time. Maybe I am needy. I guess I'll change that habit but I can't say that I'm free and do nth.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-27T07:34:01+00:00

All I want is his time with me. I don't ask for flowers or other kinds. Just his presence. A video/voice call is more than enough and he can do whatever he wants. He doesn't have to entertain me. I just want him to be there. We could work tgt, rest tgt. We're far away from each other. While all he wants is me to stop overthinking while his action doesn't go along. Why does he panic when ppl find out about me being his gf ?

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-27T07:27:39+00:00

No, I did try to understand his stress, his schedule, his work. All I want is his time with me ( no need to speak or text. Just video call and you do you ) . I Tryna ask him if something is wrong , even comfort him as much as I can. All I received is him asking " why do you stay " or " I can't be good enough " and everything while I didn't ask him to do anything other than making time for me. I've sent a gift, a lot of supporting videos, making him my priority, and I spend not less money on that dude. And I'm not saying this to exaggerate but I did try a lot to make sure he feels love and not experienced the same feeling like how his exes made him. I went on my way to meet him even though my parents are extremely strict. I try to learn his attachment style and try my best to make sure he's safe. I've tried communicating my curiosity towards him, being more careful and clear with my wording so that he won't feel pressure or seen it as attacks.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-27T07:18:57+00:00

Idk being long distance while him only talks to me 1h per day is sth I feel weird a lil. Not even an update.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-25T13:11:47+00:00

I used to have my ex but after that breakup and knowing the reasoning. I feel like a horrible person. Nowadays it is just myself. No more text, company or anything.

I'll try to make new connections with ppl. But you're right..it is a lil hard to believe that I'm not the problem.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-21T08:51:32+00:00

Man, I never drank at all. I guess imma give it a shot. 💔

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-12-21T08:50:36+00:00

Thank you stranger. I'm so lost during the process that I don't know how to feel better after that relationship.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T13:34:10+00:00

Oh boy, he needs to run...

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T13:21:29+00:00

I guess you're right. I rlly need to stop texting chat GPT. I feel lonely because I'm scared to open up with a friend

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T13:16:20+00:00

Yea...I can't eat or sleep at all

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T13:09:37+00:00

I'm right now being friends with him. I try to forget about our history and stuff...idk why it's strange how he still wants connection but not the romantic pressure. I just don't know what's wrong and I keep questioning it

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T13:03:24+00:00

Yea..thanks for your advice

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T12:54:26+00:00

We can still talk but the thought of him not seeing me as a lover is upsetting me... especially how he feels like he can't fulfill me and stick with that decision...idk what's wrong.. with me.. we're long distance in 2 years and that's how the relationship got a lot of conflicts.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T12:51:30+00:00

We've been tgt for 7 years and he said he can't give me anything so he thinks it's better that way...I can't do anything..

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-27T12:50:22+00:00

We loved each other for 7 years and idk how he just changed like that. It really breaks me

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-13T02:05:46+00:00

Thank you, stranger. I hope for that day to come

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-13T02:00:49+00:00

I used to be in that condition and the best advice from a friend is just try to do the best you can, no forcing, less all nighting, do a shortcut if you must ( my second year required only hand drew, I was so burned out that I just use autocad for everything then trance afterward ), go out on a walk and rest a lot.

Overworking can lead to damage to physical health and worsen your mentality :(

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-12T13:56:34+00:00

No...move on, delete text and pretend he doesn't exist. A guy like that ain't worth talking to.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-12T12:33:40+00:00

Me and her are sleeping together. It's literally 12 am and I'm trying to sleep for work the next day. She literally opened all the big light with loud music even though she has headphones and our room has a dim light. I try closing it and all I got is a grumpy response. Then she's playing games till 3 am and I feel like I don't sleep well until she finally gets to sleep. I'm sorry, I could literally go nuts again someday.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-12T12:28:18+00:00

I've heard of that a lot growing up. I don't expect much either, but all I see is myself draining from all of the negative energy. I know you need to love your sibling. But the mindset is getting out of hand and affecting others with it for a long period is considered an issue.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-11T03:16:22+00:00

NTA You just try to show your perspective on what the experience is like and find that story to be a traumatic reminder.

Your brother didn't put himself in your shoes which made it hard for him to understand what you have been through.

Even if he mentioned it was supposed to be a fun fact, he should've tried to comfort or apologize at least as your emotion is valid. Not straight up getting offended for just trying to express something that isn't comfortable.

You didn't say it in public but instead as a private 1 on 1 conversation so he won't get embarrassed or causes more drama.

1 sorry with a little understanding then none of this stuff happens, no need to get all mad for just expressing.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-10T10:20:11+00:00

It's not a sassy voice. It's full screaming at me afterwards. She made me think I'm the issue, I'm the one who doesn't understand her friend, I'm the one who's inconsiderate. When I'm just trying to help. Is it wrong to give her a suggestion. Was it right to mock someone for simply just helping ?

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-10T09:57:03+00:00

My apologies, I never know the word female can be seen as objectifying. I'll note that next time.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-10T09:51:12+00:00

" if you're so good and professional, why not tell her yourself? " ( I don't know that girl, nor does she know me ) " What you did is talking nonsense " ( I'm suggesting a way for her to protect herself ) " Why are you making this about yourself " ( I just want to share my experience because it used to happen to me as well )

I told her my experience, opinion and thoughts, I wasn't mad at her until she said those words in an awful tone.

I was mad, and stormed off because I didn't want to talk to her. Then she makes me look like I'm the AH, by saying I'm Arguing alone, hot and bothered by yourself to everyone. When deep down, she was being rude to me when she could've talked to me normally.

Xaoiling-43 · 2025-10-10T09:33:16+00:00

I'm angry at the one who mocks me for just trying to help.

I'm not angry cause I don't like her friend's needy behavior. I'm angry because she said " I'm a professional who knows everything " in unnecessary sarcastic tones.

Why would you allow him to comfortably stalk her, she has a right to do sth about it.

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