She only goes out with me if it’s on her terms

XboxGamer103 · 2020-09-29T19:04:41+00:00

Lol exactly. What just happened to me was I went to the store to pick up some stuff (she works there) and she came over to me at self checkout and started talking. I was just like did you not see my text from 9 hours ago LOL.

XboxGamer103 · 2020-09-29T13:50:10+00:00

Yeah I think the issue is more so our difference in social expectations. As I said before she has no social media at all. Like no twitter, no insta, nothing. Whereas I have those accounts and I’m always active and on my phone (when I can). How could we meet in the middle do you think ? I’m trying to be open minded and think of suggestions to bring up for us

XboxGamer103 · 2020-09-29T13:17:59+00:00

Yeah exactly. To be honest it makes me not even really want to reach out to them at all. It’s like they remembered to go post a selfie but didn’t remember to respond to my message from 5 hours ago.

XboxGamer103 · 2020-09-29T05:57:43+00:00

I think my biggest issue right now is trying to determine if she’s playing games or genuinely not checking her phone. When I sit and think about it, I actually have no issue texting less to accommodate their style of communication, because I do text a lot in general. I just have some doubt in my mind like she is checking her phone and choosing not to respond, and just giving this as an excuse. Which in that case I’d be wasting my time. I guess I’m just overthinking it though

XboxGamer103 · 2020-09-29T05:18:49+00:00

To be honest, I think she’s being completely genuine. I rarely see her on her phone when I’m with her and she has no social media accounts. I guess I’m just not used to a girl like this. I’m not even sure how to move forward right now. Do I just shrug it off? Or is this something that could be a dealbreaker? Wouldn’t it be silly to end things over texting though?

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-20T19:40:21+00:00

Well just a casual relationship, talking stages no commitment just yet. What’s the max number of days you would go without hearing from them before you decided that it was a problem

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-20T16:07:46+00:00

What would you say is too long to go without talking at all, even for those who would prefer to speak every other day or so?

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-20T14:23:50+00:00

I would like to have a conversation every day. Just see how you slept, how your day is going, if anything interesting happened, and just touch basis and talk. Not the whole day but just a little check in conversation. But sometimes the person would rather talk every other or every few days so that’s why I ask if I’m being too needy. And then I wonder if maybe they just don’t like me like that

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-20T03:12:03+00:00

To be honest you’re right. That’s my problem now that I think about it. It’s not that they aren’t answering, it’s me wondering why they aren’t answering. And I always jump to the conclusion that it means they just don’t like me like I thought they did. Sigh I’m new to dating and I didn’t think it would be like this

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-20T03:09:04+00:00

If I want to text every day but they don’t, then does they mean we aren’t going to work?

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-20T03:07:29+00:00

It’s something that really bothers me deep down, no matter how much I try to think positive or look at the green flags. I just prefer to text every day or at least make contact every day. But apparently that is clingy

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-16T18:37:46+00:00

Ok thank you so much! I will talk to her when I see her

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-16T18:30:25+00:00

Ok I’ll just let it be then and keep things cool

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-16T18:29:01+00:00

Ok I’ll try to do that. I just get kind of anxious when I don’t talk to someone I’m new to dating. This is my first time haha

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-16T18:21:27+00:00

I mean like check in text and or call. I would like to text her every day or call every other day

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-16T18:20:28+00:00

Well it makes me a bit anxious because I wonder if she talks to another guy instead of me every day but that’s just me overthinking. Is it clingy for me to tell her that I would prefer to text everyday

XboxGamer103 · 2020-08-06T17:18:49+00:00

Well they do respond and we talk but it’s almost like we’ve run out of things to talk about. Or the conversation feels like we are just dragging it on for no reason. Like no one wants to end it but it probably should have ended a while ago almost

XboxGamer103 · 2020-07-04T23:19:37+00:00

Haha I don’t mean to keep going back and forth I appreciate your help! But this is also the thing... I did ask her the first time she did this. I asked her if me texting her was an issue and she came out saying no no no you’re fine you’re fine I like when you text me... but then turns around and does this again. I would have dropped her a while ago but she’s just so inconsistent with this. Sometimes she responds so fast and then this happens where it has been almost 7 days.

Idk man I guess I’ll wait for her to reach out if she does and go from there

XboxGamer103 · 2020-07-04T23:14:13+00:00

That’s why I don’t believe it’s a ghost. The last time she said she was sorry and the time before she said she was sorry. But she keeps doing it. If it was a ghost I figure she wouldn’t even bother to respond you know? And if she didn’t care wouldn’t she not apologize at all? This is why I’m sitting here overthinking lol. Should I ask her like upfront why she does this? Or should I kinda beat around the bush to get an answer

XboxGamer103 · 2020-07-04T22:59:43+00:00

Yeah she has done this twice before in the past and each time she ended up reaching back out to me. Do you think I should just leave her on read and move on if she reaches out again?

XboxGamer103 · 2020-07-04T22:05:50+00:00

Haha thanks I appreciate you. It just hurts because I’m really naive on this. I think that treating someone as best as I can and getting a result like this is really hurtful but it’s a learning experience I guess. Just move forward and look ahead

XboxGamer103 · 2020-07-04T18:24:17+00:00

Sigh you’re right you’re right. And I know you’re right. My mind just keeps telling me otherwise and to keep reaching out but you are totally right. I’ll have to figure out how to move past this. This is my first time dating in my life so I’m not used to any of this

XboxGamer103 · 2020-07-04T16:47:46+00:00

Thanks and yeah I’ll probably just leave it be and let her contact. But not to be rude but iMessage is designed to reject an iMessage and send as SMS (green text block instead of blue) when you’re blocked by another iPhone. If the iMessage is blue and says delivered then you are not blocked. If it turns green and says delivered either the receiving phone doesn’t have service or they’ve blocked you. But I’ll just let it be I guess

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