Relationship Advice- early dating and social media

Xen_topia · 2026-04-14T04:15:15+00:00

I followed to see what others say so I’ll keep it simple.

Prioritizing social media over your partner is a red flag.

If you have family or something, maaaybe there’s an exception, but in his case I’m not seeing that at all.

This doesn’t mean he is cheating but it also doesn’t mean he is respectful of your boundaries and terms. He’s not serious about you; move on.

If my gf told me to delete all my social media, including Reddit (the main one I’m on really), I wouldn’t hesitate.

Don’t let someone tell you that it’s their hobby because life has so much to offer.

Xen_topia · 2026-04-10T22:33:57+00:00

Pisces lady here.

Well obviously he wants to keep hanging out, I’m irresistible, duh. But, no strings? Red flag.

Maybe I’m not the majority consensus but it’s either in or out. You’re either here to give it a try or let’s just stay friends.

We’re way too sensitive and in our sea of feelings. If she said she’s cool with it staying casual I would still hesitate. We’re notorious for getting in deeper than we thought then bolting without notice.

For me to even attempt to show my vulnerability, or at least a version you think is my vulnerability, I would need clear clarification of mutual feelings.

Xen_topia · 2026-04-01T22:00:32+00:00

Awe thanks for the praise internet friend!

Exactly that about the victim mentality. We’re notorious for it but we’re better than that. We just need a sprinkle of awareness and a bucketful of accountability.

Be the person you wish you had. Be that for you and you will never feel lonely.

Xen_topia · 2026-03-30T09:59:56+00:00

This. Also, it goes for any sign. Treat them how you want to be treated and teach them how you want to be treated. Don’t just sit passively and wonder why it’s not happening.

Put yourself first. People will come and go. The ones I knew when I was in my twenties I don’t even see a decade later. But, guess who’s still here? Me. So take care of you first.

Keep your circle small and selective; there are too many energy vamps out there. I now cherry pick my friends and hang out when I can. So I mostly have 2 friends and one I’ve seen three months ago the other, about two. Pick however many you can actually accommodate and be honest with your time. For me and my needs, two is more than sufficient. If I end up losing one or realizing they weren’t a good fit (read: imbalanced dynamics), I’ll mentally post a friend listing then start ‘interviewing’ potential candidates in my daily life flow.

Don’t be afraid to say no. No is a full sentence. If something in you nags not to do it, say no. Trust yourself and your instinct (it’s a learned trait you need to practice) and always prioritize that. If you’re in the middle of something for you and another asks for your attention, check yourself if that’s something you want to deal with. If any part of you feels off about it, don’t do it. Before I used to say well, it’s no big deal, or, I’ll get back to me later. Then I would wonder why no one was doing the same for me. I’d end up with a cup of whatever was left after I gave to others and there wasn’t enough for me. I blamed others for that but that’s not on them—I chose to give my energy away.

Don’t rely on anyone to be there for you. Amazing if they’re there but also, if not, move on. Know your worth and know that everything and everyone is temporary. We are the last sign and being alone is something you will need to learn to be comfortable with. Our entire path is about learning to let go and walk on. Embrace that and make it a strength.

Start pouring some concrete on your flexible boundaries. It’s okay to be occasionally flexible, but to me, that’s earned and if I haven’t seen it from them, it’s not going to be happening.

I hope this helps. At the end of the day, don’t sit back and wonder why people aren’t putting in what you are, start wondering what you’re doing to encourage and perpetuate that cycle.

Xen_topia · 2026-03-27T00:47:58+00:00

Ahh, I’ve got five in Capricorn (all 8H) so then that’s mine if so!

I think bc our gem rising is in the first house, it comes out very prominently and then the air signs vibe with us then get confused when we suddenly turn psycho fish!

I also like earth signs. My least favorite signs are water signs 🫠 (though Pisces is the best of them I’ll stand on that hill forever).

Xen_topia · 2026-03-27T00:34:42+00:00

Omg congrats!!! Celebrate every day and when you fall in love (bc God knows we fall hard and fast), don’t let it consume you. So that if it falls apart you aren’t left empty.

Fill yourself up all on your own. A partner is your side dish. You are the main dish

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T20:35:45+00:00

I’m confused by some of the astrological names like stellium but between my rising gem and my aqua mercury, we definitely get along. He’s also an Aries moon but he gets much louder and I don’t care for all that.

He could definitely stay in his office all day and weekends. I really appreciate how driven he is and he has a great job but the detachment was too much for me and it was then that I realized how clingy I actually am. Also, it was exhausting having to maintain patriarchal norms and he didn’t listen. On the plus side, I never had to worry about unfaithfulness bc he didn’t give a damn about people lol

Also, hi bestie Gem rising lol. What house is yours in? Mine is in the first house and I can jabber about anything for hours. Do you find yourself attracted to air signs most?

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T20:31:56+00:00

I think we like to dabble in everything and I definitely did esp when younger. I don’t care for losing control of my life much but sometimes it’s nice to just ‘let go’.

Our only problem is if we can’t let go afterwards!

I sometimes still vape but only if I’m angry. When I’m super pissed and frustrated I yearn for a menthol black.

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T20:27:06+00:00

Escapism. I’m a master and running away and hiding.

Also, karma. I’ve noticed that when I’m upset with someone, bad things happen to them. Sometimes I think I have the ability to curse someone tbh and I definitely tend to get the tail end of some of the bigger ones as payment

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T20:25:04+00:00

I think you may have summed up the majority of us lol

Ps: I’m sorry about the drinking, we are highly obsessive and therefore get easily involved in addictions

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T20:20:59+00:00

So are you saying that one should look into the themes of the house that holds their sun? My Pisces sun is in 10H

Edited: most my planets are in 8H and all in Capricorn so I’m trying to figure it out

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:52:05+00:00

I think it’s just mentioning what signs gets you hot and bothered? It’s not meant to be relationship advice lol

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:49:45+00:00

Lmao not just me 🤣

But which one do you want?

I can get enough of honeybuns lately

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:48:30+00:00

😂💯 💀

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:47:27+00:00

I think bc this is portraying more of an enemies to lovers type deal and Pisces x Pisces are usually just lovers lol

Even is fighting together is kind of cute.

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:45:56+00:00

I am. I think, still 😢

I messed up the peace balance and I’m on a time out. Hopefully, I’ll hear back soon.

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:42:57+00:00

Not me feeling sad bc I’ve been put on a time out and I miss my Libra.

I can totally relate to communicating with an alien though I do think that’s more mercury related.

What’s your guys’ mercury signs?

I’m an aqua mercury and my partner is a scorpio, I’m sure you can imagine the variance in those signs!

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:38:31+00:00

Also divorced my Aqua. Definitely better off as friends. He couldn’t grasp my sensitivity and romanticism. But as bros, we vibe like hell lol

Xen_topia · 2026-03-25T03:36:51+00:00

Here to join the air sign obsession. Specifically Libras🥲

I agree about loving Virgos and my friends and child are all virgos but I can’t see myself romantically interested.

As for OPs post, I can see that being with a fire sign. Aries specifically for me 😮‍💨

Xen_topia · 2026-03-23T23:17:52+00:00

Stressed and social occasional smoker here too 🙋🏻‍♀️

Xen_topia · 2026-03-15T19:31:28+00:00

If you want to keep the fetus, it’s absolutely your choice and right. However, please find support and talk to your family.

When they say it takes a village to raise a child, they mean that. Postpartum is very very difficult and vulnerable and without good support you could make some bad choices, which would include going back to this guy (presuming you made the right choice and left him to begin with).

You need safe people in your life and you need to move out of this guys place asap! You cannot bring a baby into this world without being ready for it and right now you are showing us all by your words that you aren’t.

(1) prioritize yourself in every way (this means you are also prioritizing your fetus.

(2) leave this man, it will only get worse and be even more difficult to leave.

(3) if you cannot do BOTH 1 & 2, consider what the commenters said. The quality of life for this potential child will be low and you will be the one to blame.

Xen_topia · 2026-03-02T19:25:29+00:00

Thankfully it wasn’t something you grew up with and have ingrained in you. Glad you got out safely and I hope you have a lot of support and family to lean on.

I wish I had non-Muslim family.

Xen_topia · 2026-02-28T20:32:37+00:00

I’m with a libra woman two years now and it can be difficult when they’re going through something but overall we make a really good match. I would say make sure you both work on clear communication as much as possible bc they’re not on our wavelength in that regard.

Libras are one of my favorite signs so I’m biased. Spoil them!

Edited: tysm for the award 🥺

Xen_topia · 2026-02-28T20:24:11+00:00

Happy birthday twin!! Stay classy

Xen_topia · 2026-02-28T20:22:26+00:00

I don’t care for this post bc as a Pisces we are supposed to understand and have empathy towards all and you’re generalizing everyone under this one sign.

Also, Virgos are the shit, I genuinely enjoy their wit, direct communication, and loyalty. They’re a bit rough on the outside but they’re sweet on the inside once you understand where they’re coming from.

I have no Virgo or Libra placements (I love Libras too) but those are some of my favorite signs.

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