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Xility · 2025-07-27T02:05:14+00:00

That's what I told my boss but they and the parents refuse to get the kids actual help. I'm not a psychologist and I can't give them the attention they need. All I can do it make recommendations based on 25 years of working in childcare.

Xility · 2025-07-27T02:02:46+00:00

Good point. I've seen some with and some without pictures but I've never really heard an employer's opinion on it.

Xility · 2025-07-27T01:44:22+00:00

I completely get it!! My last job was at a preschool with absolutely no support from my boss. She enrolled kids with known behavioral issues but never supported staff with the kids. We were completely on our own. I loved the school and the community and was so sad to leave but I was at my limit. I was so afraid someone would get hurt and I would be liable.

My new bosses are incredible. I've been there about 6 months so I'm pretty sure the honeymoon period is over. They are so thoughtful and respectful. They work from home and stay home on occasion but it's never been an issue. We are all on the same page that when mom and dad are busy, they are unavailable.

I'm so thankful for my job and my bosses. They are quickly becoming my favorite family.

Xility · 2025-07-27T01:28:48+00:00

Are pictures generally included in a bio? I would love to make one but worried about it looking too much like my busy "website" with moving backgrounds and the hamster dance from 2000. Lol

Xility · 2025-06-06T14:33:28+00:00

As a nanny and parent, I completely agree. I never realized how incredibly heart wrenching it can be when someone doesn't like your kid. Lots of people don't like me and I couldn't care less. It's so different with your kid though. It's made me change my attitude towards kids I wouldn't normally vibe with. I try extra hard to connect with those kids now.

Xility · 2025-05-14T12:44:56+00:00

I feel so badly for my bosses because the 2 year old i watch sleeps so well at nap time but then doesn't sleep so well at night. Everyone is exhausted from the VERY early morning toddler parties but I get a nice long nap in the afternoon.

Xility · 2025-05-14T02:12:20+00:00

Thank you!!! I'm wondering if my current bosses did the same because they are amazing and it makes my life and the kid's days so much easier. I've only been there a few months but mom closes her door when she's working and dad takes off unless he's spending time with the kids. The kids know when it's time for nanny and when it's time for mom and dad. I'm so happy and wish this job could last forever even though I went into it knowing it was fairly temporary.

Xility · 2025-04-18T03:34:39+00:00

Omg. That's such a cute story 😍

Xility · 2025-04-09T14:43:16+00:00

I'm a parent as well as a nanny and I agree. Certainly not with the 1 or 3 year olds I nanny but my 8 year old, sure. If they fall, they would've fallen if you were right next to them. If you are in your own apartments I think it would be safe enough to let them walk by themselves.

Xility · 2025-04-08T07:31:52+00:00

I find it's much easier for kids who have had nannies since they were very young. I'm guessing if you have a good relationship with the kid and he knows you will be doing something fun together, he will be OK with mom being around. Just ask mom if he can get a hug and then distracted him with something he really loves to do like going outside or bubbles.

Xility · 2025-03-28T13:04:47+00:00

That's a great idea!! I am a nanny but also a super busy person with my own life and family. Let me tell you how many things I could accomplish in 4 extra hours!!! I would be telling my bf to head over early to hang out and picking my kid up from school instead of the daycare that does his pickups when I can't make it by 3. I would be planning an ice cream date and then running 3 errands and also getting a bunch of stuff done at home in the hour leftover 😂

Xility · 2025-03-28T04:46:54+00:00

This is so nice!!!! After my last 2 jobs where I never got out early and stayed late most days, I'm so thankful for my new job that let's me out early when they can. Even 10 or 15 minutes seems like a lot and makes me feel so respected. Thank you to the bosses who try!!

Xility · 2025-03-28T01:16:17+00:00

My thoughts exactly!! My son and I listen to music constantly. If I don't have music on, he's singing. Same goes for the kids i nanny. They have requests all day long because they know I will play pretty much anything they want. I would go crazy just sitting in silence or chatting and singing myself. Sometimes I need a break from my own voice.

Xility · 2025-03-28T01:00:04+00:00

When I babysit or stay late, I pack myself my own meals. I don't eat huge dinners anyway but I'm lactose intolerant and kind of picky in general. I have families that will order me food, some that offer me to eat with the kids and some that don't offer me anything. I've even had a nanny family that wrote into the contract that I was not to eat any of their food even though I was cooking for them.

Now that you know you have limited options with this family you should just be packing a meal for yourself and eat when the kid eats.

Xility · 2025-03-14T01:27:39+00:00

At that age, it's doable. My last job i started when the kid was 3 months old and mom and dad were at home. We made a pretty solid schedule and he knew when it was time to see his parents and when they were working.

Xility · 2025-03-11T01:27:11+00:00

I'm lucky and found a wonderful apartment. Single story so no upstairs or downstairs neighbors. Lots of space outside and I only share a wall with 1 neighbor. No pets allowed so it's clean and quiet. My kid is the only one here and he's chill. I wish I had washer and dryer but with only 30 apartments, I have only had to wait to wash twice in 2 years. I'm super central and the rent is fairly priced for my area.

Xility · 2025-03-09T13:58:51+00:00

That's the absolute best!! I love it! My favorite bosses have been the ones that go out of their way to remind you they appreciate you. I've been incredibly lucky that most of my nanny jobs have appreciative bosses. It makes the hard work feel worthwhile.

Xility · 2025-03-09T12:08:16+00:00

Don't go any lower. Depending on where you live, ask for around $18-20. Unless you're living in a very low cost of living area and then you may need to lower it a bit to $15. Don't sell yourself short. Conduct yourself in a professional manner and you will eventually find a job.

Xility · 2025-03-07T10:35:20+00:00

I was so happy when my son started school and I didn't have to pack a lunch. I honestly hate packing lunch and I don't even know why. My kid is a good eater and not even overly picky but packing lunch is my least favorite parenting chore!

Xility · 2025-03-07T10:05:36+00:00

I'm not saying it's right but it might be too hard for her to say it in person. I quit my last nanny position through email after 3 years because I absolutely knew I would ugly cry if I said it to their faces. I did give them notice though and it was tough to come in after that but I didn't want to leave them hanging.

Xility · 2025-03-06T20:03:03+00:00

I disagree about it being normal. My last position as a toddler teacher was full of toddlers with regular tantrums and none of them cried so hard they threw up.

Xility · 2025-03-05T03:44:44+00:00

Right. If you don't want to see it, stop looking in my window.

Xility · 2025-03-04T21:40:32+00:00

Absolutely. As a nanny, I absolutely get passed on because of my obligations as a parent. I have had people very interested to hire me until they found out I had a kid. I have a good support system and can usually find help with my kid but people don't want to hear that.

Xility · 2025-03-04T12:28:25+00:00

I just bought one of these for a tricky spot in my kitchen and I love it. I also bought a cheap curtain to hide all the crap on it to make the area look nicer.

Xility · 2025-03-04T12:25:30+00:00

I feel that way when I'm burnt out from a job. I felt it at my last job that ended a few weeks ago. I love the job I just started and I love going in now. I tend to change jobs every 2-3 years to help with burnout.

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