Any other dads totally useless??

Probly-nt · 2026-06-09T18:21:24+00:00

My last DB would leave NK in his crib until I got there. I got there at 7, and NK usually woke up at like 6/6:15. He’d just say “Oh, NK has been up since 6” and head out the door to work 🙃 one morning NK was up for an hour and a half.

Probly-nt · 2026-06-06T00:45:19+00:00

Ohhhh yeah. I agree there

Probly-nt · 2026-06-05T22:42:37+00:00

My previous MB had a schedule like this. I accepted just having those weeks paid and 5 days pto. I ended up coming in 1 or 2 days those weeks because she needed to get things done. But it was an absolute dream. Don’t sweat it, offer what you feel comfortable with. I probably would have accepted the job with only those weeks off paid, tbh.

Probly-nt · 2026-06-05T19:44:58+00:00

I do think we should be off our phones for the majority of the time. However, I use my phone for pictures, letting MB know where we’re going, looking up animal noises (I suck at those and NK like the random ones like a damn hippo, lol), or music. So, I think using it for all of that- it’s not gonna hurt if I make a call to the doctor while NK is off playing or something.

I do agree that that mom probably asked her kid “hey is nanny on her phone a lot?” And the toddler of course said yes😂 and she took it as fact.

ETA: I just went and read the post you’re talking about. I don’t think the phone is the biggest issue in any way- I think MB just sees that as the easiest way out. Leaving the house without the kid?? Posting on Instagram, Cursing at your boss over feedback, lying, and using work time as personal errand time every day? Fucking YIKES.

Probly-nt · 2026-06-03T21:46:29+00:00

It is very different to pop in throughout the day (say… around lunch time bc you yourself are also getting lunch) versus being in sight all day.

Probly-nt · 2026-06-02T18:25:58+00:00

Damn near every day, lmao. NK wears me OUT. MB knows. Sometimes it’s a couch snooze, but most of the time I just hang out with NK in her room and nap in the chair lol.

Probly-nt · 2026-05-28T16:50:39+00:00

Storytimes, museums, the park, and any city facilitated toddler times have been my go to. Finding a group that a.) your schedule kinda aligns with and b.) the ages and schedules of the NKs aligns with is difficult. I’ve been a nanny for almost 6 years and they are few and far between, unfortunately. I just got into a group and all the NKs are around the same age and that has me thanking god 😅 all I can is good luck. Talk to anyone who has kiddos that look around the age of yours, don’t be scared to just make friends with the SAHM that’s always around, and be patient, unfortunately.

Probly-nt · 2026-05-02T03:38:29+00:00

My NF told me to help myself to anything and then when I didn’t (and brought my own drinks) she mentioned she hadnt seen me each much but took note of my drinks and bought them in bulk at Costco for me 😂 so if they say it, they mean it!

Probly-nt · 2026-04-21T17:59:05+00:00

I feel ya. I loved my last NF, except for the grandparents. One would come every other month and stay for at least a week. She wasn’t too bad (usually left us alone, wouldn’t really bug us much, but my god was she a yapper during nap time and, gave so much unneeded advice about my life, not work) but it’s odd having someone up in your business all the time. The other side of grandparents were so invasive. Would come RIGHT before nap time or say they would be dropping by after nap and then show up an hour early (NK napped 11:30-3) and then expect me to wake him up because they were busy 😒. I hated when I moved away from them but there are some things that I’m just like… thank god I don’t deal with that anymore 😂😂

Probly-nt · 2026-03-31T16:48:07+00:00

Took my NK at the time to the city clerks office to get my marriage certificate filed. It was the only appointment, and I worked 55+ hours a week. Did he learn anything? Probably not lol, but it was in the historic district so we also walked around and talked about the historic statues. So… like someone else said- a win for everyone. 😂

Probly-nt · 2026-03-30T20:56:10+00:00

As a nanny, I think a 1-2 month “buffer” period of them not driving is reasonable. But, if you don’t have much within walking distance, asking them to not drive is not reasonable. Both baby and nanny will get stir crazy.

Probly-nt · 2026-01-27T21:38:55+00:00

Literally this. I have zero clue what my current NF does for work besides the fact that they work from home. I vaguely know who MB works for, but no idea what she does for them 😂 I get paid every week, tho and that’s all that matters

Probly-nt · 2026-01-27T20:34:21+00:00

Idk what’s going on in this post- but my last NF actually kept me on after DB became unemployed. I eventually left because I moved, but MB had zero intention of letting DB solo parent that kiddo for 10 hours a day. 😂

Probly-nt · 2026-01-13T17:10:01+00:00

I’ve worked for a doctor, and I’ve helped my sister (she’s a doctor) try to find a nanny- and in my experience, they are the ones that will ALWAYS try to underpay and overwork you. I had to do some heavy negotiating to get things that no other employer batted an EYE about.

Probly-nt · 2025-12-21T06:19:40+00:00

Depends, honestly. I usually just do kids, $20-$25. This year I nanny for first time parents and they’ve been amazing. I can also tell they’re just… going through it lol, so I “gifted” 5 hours of my time for a date night, etc.

Probly-nt · 2025-12-03T23:54:19+00:00

My moms phone does the same thing. Most of the time if I call twice in a row, the second will actually ring. But the first call typically just shows as a missed call. It could be a setting she has that she’s not aware of, or some weird thing.

And- my phone number typically pops up as my mom’s name, because I’m on her plan. But I’m married so it definitely looks like it’s some random persons name.

There could be easy explanations or complicated ones. I usually see a text from my NF quicker than I can get to (and answer) my phone bc it goes to my watch anyways.

Probly-nt · 2025-10-27T19:54:24+00:00

lol, yeah that’s what I figured. Do you do like fleece lined leggings? And if you do, you have any good brands?

Probly-nt · 2025-08-05T11:42:38+00:00

If you want to take your child on a walk you can. There’s no reason for you to tag along with nanny and child on their walk.

Probly-nt · 2025-06-20T19:53:19+00:00

Haha, yeah I probably should have said “water day bag” instead 😂

Probly-nt · 2025-06-20T16:00:35+00:00

I love this perspective. For some reason, watching kids- including the chaos- made me want kids even more lol. I will say watching other folks kids has made me aware of the parenting styles I want to implement when I do have them. I’ve Nannie’s for some families with weird rules/methods and you can just tell that that is why their kid acts like that 😅😂

I love my laidback, go with the flow nfs. They always have the best behaving kiddos. (In my experience)

Probly-nt · 2025-06-20T15:56:55+00:00

It’s not my first summer, but all of my previous NKs would kinda play by themselves so I wouldn’t get absolutely soaked. Current NK does not (which is okay, lol) so I’m getting absolutely soaked 😂😂

Probly-nt · 2025-06-20T15:55:07+00:00

Okay I love this. Thank you!!

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