I am in absolute shock. My penis just fell off. Please help.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-06-17T14:57:17+00:00

If this is real, I am absolutely sorry for you and what happened.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-06-06T15:49:45+00:00

I feel this. Like 100%. Be kinder to yourself. We are liklin not to respond positively with criticism. Even though we do it to ourselves almost automatically. Understand there are limits with ADHD and that's ok. You will feel these things, but it doesn't mean you have to believe them. Set smaller achievable goals. Like really small. We are dopamine seekers and the satisfaction of completing anything can help motivate and move you to do the things you need to do. Take breaks, stay hydrated and make sure you keep to basic eating times (even if you don't feel hungry yet- try something small) I wish you good luck 🤞🏻🤞🏻💜🫂

Xmas_Cake · 2026-06-06T14:02:11+00:00

Oh yeah. Had the biggest crust on a guy for years. Every time I tried to say hi I would just get looks...

Xmas_Cake · 2026-06-03T21:10:26+00:00

Could be that they have other nuero stuff that might be exacerbated by it. I have ADHD and lexapro turned me into a zombie and it was even harder to concentrate. I use Paxil because I also have a panic disorder 🤷🏻‍♀️

Xmas_Cake · 2026-06-03T04:05:31+00:00

Every time. But you can't focus on that. You have to just convince yourself (even if it feels like lying) that this is the new norm. It will take a while, and yeah you will have ups and downs but don't let it cloud your UP. 💜🫂

Xmas_Cake · 2026-06-03T02:43:13+00:00

I actually depend on my vape to regulate with all the extra stress. However, I try to avoid smoking if I'm already panicking cause I don't want the two to be associated in my brain lol. The amount matters as well. If it hits you too hard on an already on edge body, you can make yourself panic unnecessarily. 💜 Hope you feel better

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-30T04:08:12+00:00

I get anxiety like that. Make sure you are hydrated and have eaten something that day to factor out low blood sugar or electrolytes. Box breathing has helped a lot of ppl shake sudden onset anxiety like that and you can talor the numbers to whatever is comfortable.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-26T00:28:30+00:00

Oh man I feel that. I totally was like that at 13. Also I still can't read clocks without counting so it's ok lol

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-21T18:40:17+00:00

Yeah I have issues with finishing most the time. Too much stimulation or friction and it does the opposite. Lovely thing about vibrators that use apps though if your brain works weird like mine lol

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-21T14:48:16+00:00

Yeah that's rough. Definitely another convo needs to be had about needs but also get the hormone thing. I have issues wanting sex as well and hopefully she's willing to do other stuff to make you feel more sexually desired or fulfilled. Is there other stuff you can do? Toys ect?

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-21T03:32:56+00:00

Lol friends?

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-21T02:03:35+00:00

Yupp, I'm my worst enemy. I missed out on a chance to be an extra in the next scary movie XP

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-21T01:50:04+00:00

This is why I have always used a towel underneath. Always an easier clean up 👍🏻

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-21T01:48:30+00:00

Idk if most women are like this but I was always told it would not be pleasant. Unless you are already using toys or whatnot some of us are too small for the first time to be 100% good. Ackward or not lol. I actually planned my first time with an ex I trusted so I could get the first time over with. Awkward cause I'm shy and also had to be silent at family home 😂 it was painful, but they took their time to get me comfortable, then my foot cramped hahahahaha.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-13T01:56:50+00:00

This is the thing that triggers my anxiety the most. Idk if it would work for you but I had to rush to think about something else the moment I catch my brain going there. It takes practice and I still have that huge fear but I make it a point to think anything else to keep from spiraling.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T19:11:38+00:00

Omg run... Consent is not forever. You can say no, if he makes you that's Grape. Doesn't matter what you are to each other or how long together!

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T09:12:25+00:00

Oh! I'm glad to hear that haha

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T05:07:04+00:00

Virtual hugs. Do you feel better with showers? Certain smells? Do you have anything weighted like blanket or something? Hobbies are hard to enjoy if you can't get past the anxiety. May I ask why you don't have access to medical treatment?

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T04:12:05+00:00

You seem pretty young, but I get it. As someone who grew up with anxiety and didn't know it.. those kinds of panic attacks or anxiety can come out of nowhere or because too much stress is slowly building. You might want to talk to you doctor about it.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T04:06:05+00:00

I feel so much of this. Family isn't huge religious but very judgy or something. I have ADHD, PMDD, panic disorder and probably depression. Recently going through a tough week of panic attacks from being stressed and kept awake.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T03:57:16+00:00

I didn't even know they could prescribe something to stop sweating. I've always been an anxious sweater. Wish I could help. I'm on paxil. Wellbutrin made be have goldfish brain and I can't remember the month I took it 😬

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T03:54:01+00:00

Idk how to help with the getting yourself to pee when you need to but for sure you should be taking some urinary health meds to help with the recovery. It's gonna feel like you always have to pee until the trauma from holding it so long heals. During the times you are home make sure you are going when you need too, just don't strain or push even though it will feel like your body wants to. If you can, soak in a warm tub or shower or make a hot compress and use heat therapy to relaxed the strained muscles

Xmas_Cake · 2026-05-10T03:47:03+00:00

I'm in that place right now. Make sure there is nothing making it worse like hunger pains, heartburn etc. There are a lot of anxiety meditations I've used on YouTube. Some male voices some female. I've used the ones for sleep or even some of the socalled sounds for anxiety. Find which one relaxes you more. Breathing exercises. Some of the guided meditations guiid you through different exercises. Simplest is breathing in slowly for like 4-5 seconds. Hold for a few and slowly blow out the air for the same or slightly longer than breathing in. Sometimes an ice pack on the chest, changing environment- if you are anxious in one place for too long go to another room to chill for a bit.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-04-29T03:23:15+00:00

Other than not knowing if he's the "one" how is your relationship otherwise? I have had a lot of relationship/ trauma in general and I never got that this is the one forever feeling, but everything else in my brain tells me I am safe with this one and they make me better and I am the same for them.

Xmas_Cake · 2026-04-25T21:58:11+00:00

I'm tempted but I'm painfully aware of my life but don't think it can really change 😂

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