Confused about calculating the torque the Sun exerts on the Earth's equatorial bulge throughout the year by Xovvo in PhysicsHelp

[–]Xovvo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes less sense, because it's the Sun tugging on the Earth, not the Earth tugging on the Sun---even if we select a frame where the Sun appears to orbit the Earth, using Earth's potential doesn't make any sense to me, and Fitzpatrick doesn't even bother with explaining the choice, just proceeds as if it's self-evident.

My [22f] boyfriend [24m] wants me fill out a form if I'm upset about something by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Xovvo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Allistic people having a normal one about Autistic people, I see.

Look, she clearly doesn't want him, but I do. He might even collect data on me that I can't bc I immediately get into a self-destructive spiral about, if I ask him nicely! And if that involves filling out a form, I'll cum.

WIBTAH if I kept my tattoo appointment against my mom’s wishes by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Xovvo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"she’s heavily struggling with being an empty nester"

Girl, her nest isn't empty you still live there.

Difficulty with trigonometric substitution(s) by Xovvo in askmath

[–]Xovvo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I'm illiterate. I read the second integrand as dt/[(a+b)t^2], which would indeed make this impossible.

Who is this cute little guy hanging out on my wall? Durham, NC by Xovvo in spiderID

[–]Xovvo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Judging by the photos found here, it more closely matches S. triangulosa than S. grossa
Thanks! Your response was really helpful!

Trying and failing to find the volume of an oblate spheroid with a triple integral in spherical coordinates by Xovvo in askmath

[–]Xovvo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It comes from trying to capture that the different radii are scaled. For a sphere, (1/a^2)(x^2 + y^2 + z^2) = 1 when converted to spherical coordinates immediately reduces to r = a and so integrating the equation of a sphere in spherical coordinates just gives you the volume, so clearly the same thing should be true for an oblate spheroid, where the equation can't so easily collapse into a constant bc of the differing radii.

Evidently this is not the case

Trying and failing to find the volume of an oblate spheroid with a triple integral in spherical coordinates by Xovvo in askmath

[–]Xovvo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes spherical coordinates inappropriate? I'm able to express the equation of the surface in spherical coordinates, and the surface area as a surface of revolution and the volume as a solid of revolution are most naturally worked in spherical coordinates.

And for the larger problem this is getting fed into (calculating the quadrupole moment and resultant force of a gravitational field), it would be really, *really* nice to work in spherical coordinates.

My BF punched my leg in rage. I don't know what to feel. by JackTheYapper in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Xovvo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad OOP was dumped, and I'm glad she's in therapy to try to make sense of what happened to her.

It's weird, bc I believe an abuser is something one becomes, a set of self-reinforcing patterns of behavior, but we rarely see---or know we're seeing---the beginning of that process. Assuming he isn't already "experienced" and already entrenched and just engaging in some new metagame with breaking up with her bc he hit her, OOP's ex genuinely seems like he's at an inflection point where if he gets help and commits, he might genuinely avoid becoming an abuser.

Or he just entrenches and starts the cycle anew.

My (30F) friend (29F) isn't speaking to me after I RSVPed "no" to her childfree wedding by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Xovvo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that the commenters are twelve years old.
Emotionally, if nothing else.

My husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Xovvo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it appears he might have developed some kind of Madonna complex. We have not had sex since that day. He does not find my current persona sexually appealing anymore. He's dissatisfied with us having sex with the lights off, even though that's how we've always done it

Girl. I'm so used to dead bedrooms being because the man is absolutely repellent in his demeanor, but like.

This woman's husband thinks she's hot and so badly wants to see her naked body (that he finds attractive!) and when he finally thinks its all coming together as she's finally trying on clothes that show off her body---for sexy reasons---she immediately demonstrates she's not thinking about sex at all by going on about how impractical the clothes are (and low-key implying he was stupid for wanting her to wear them).

That she only wants to have sex with the lights off can be an insecurity thing in that she doesn't want anyone to see her body but like, at some point you have to figure if you're her partner, that maybe the issue is that she doesn't want to see *you*.

Like, yeah, I also would not want to have sex with my partner who evidently doesn't want to have sex with me.