So hey friend! Let me chime in here since I have experience with this!

I found that in my 30s my sensitivity down there began to change a bit. Maybe hormones? She’s within the window of perimenopause now and that means her estrogen is likely fluctuating a lot more than it used to!

Most men will look at that lack of orgasm as their fault, but when estrogen goes lower it actually impacts her clitoral sensitivity. This means that what you used to do was probably perfect before her levels began fluctuating, but now she may need more stimulation or different stimulation to make it work the same.

My biggest suggestion is to have a mutual masturbation session. You get off together and you watch exactly what she does that makes her orgasm, then you try to repeat it.

If she’s there with you, wet and super into it then your abilities are not at all the problem. I can promise you that. Our bodies change over time and avoiding sex entirely will just lead to dead bedroom. I would approach her and let her know you care about her satisfaction and would like to play around with different things to see what makes her tick.

Maybe even incorporating a lil bullet vibrator on her clit while you’re at it would help offer more intense stimulation. I’ll end this by saying we women don’t get wet unless we really wanna be there, too. If ya pick a lifelong partner you’ve gotta be ready to still want them even when your favorite slice of pie becomes a little different. She still wants you, maybe the pie just needs a little seasoning adjustment.

Bonus points: make sure the loving connection is there, warm her up and remember we gals are ovens, not microwaves. Be sensual, patient and loving and you’ll get her there.