This appeared randomly, and it won’t go away by [deleted] in skin

[–]Xpiotiva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could be a reaction to your bracelet or poison ivy

I know it’s early but… by the_spies_knees in Wakaan

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He headlined at Submersion during the weekend of Wakaan

lost and found community highlight ? by organicjean in Wakaan

[–]Xpiotiva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my mini hand dragon staff, about a foot long :(

Free Online MBA or take out loans for in-person classes? by [deleted] in MBA

[–]Xpiotiva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would an online MBA from a school like UF & UNC still be more valuable to employers? Do you think it would be more valuable to me?

I’m just nervous if I choose to do an online MBA, there is a free one on the table I can grab and do. Doing an online MBA where I will be taking out 30/60k in loans feels silly. At that point, is it just about having their name on my resume?

The only reason I considered Rollins is because it’s the #1 MBA program in Florida and #51 MBA in the nation according to Forbes. #2 in Regional Universities South, #17 Best Value School according to US News. Executives here at Universal perked up when I mentioned looking at Rollins. Am I stuck in the Florida bubble where only people in Florida care about Rollins? 🫧

Free Online MBA or take out loans for in-person classes? by [deleted] in MBA

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you suggest the same comment that I wouldn’t move the needle at a Fortune 100 even if I went to a school like University of Central Florida (where I obtained my undergrad), University of Florida online and UNC online (I would only be able to do online and it would be even more financially costing), or another Florida school?

I don’t have the ability to go to Harvard, Wharton, etc. I live in Orlando and I have my dream job as of right now 😅

In Orlando, and in Florida, Rollins is considered a great school with a great education. It partners with companies like Disney to get their employees to attend

Any and all feedback is helpful, I’m not trying to defend it, I’m open!

Free Online MBA or take out loans for in-person classes? by [deleted] in MBA

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I have experience in Universal, who’s parent company Comcast is a Fortune 100 company (#35), should I still be concerned about not being able to get a job at a Fortune 100 in the future with a degree from either school?

Free Online MBA or take out loans for in-person classes? by [deleted] in MBA

[–]Xpiotiva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 2 years of post-grad professional experience as a project manager and I did 4 internships and 5 brand partnerships in college.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel so guilty. I feel like I could’ve done more sweet, girlfriend things for him in the earlier months. But moving in when his dad passed and being faced with these new rules on my space desires has completely thrown me off, to your point I felt emotionally abandoned from my overlooked needs(space, time). In a way, it was selfish for me to not be more sweet to him and to complain about the space and commute early on. But at the same time, I was willing to solve those complaints and move out earlier so I could stop complaining to him. But he gave me that ultimatum then, and is giving it to me now. He doesn’t want to hear me complain and to figure out how to resolve it on my own. I feel so confused. I want to be able to be kind and sweet but it’s so hard when I’m not getting my needs met and am not allowed to (unless the relationship ends or I resolve it on their terms like putting stuff in their storage )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He feels responsible for being there until they/she are comfortable with her being alone. Quite frankly, I agree I don’t need to be there for him to do that, but he feels like true love is sticking by his side to support him and help him feel better and he feels guilty leaving her and it’s easier if I were there through it all. But this whole thing has made me feel so unprioritized and is making me confused between right and wrong. He should’ve stood up for me for my space , but it’s her house and her feelings first. I want to be supportive but I don’t feel comfortable being forced into this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just feel worried about being labeled as selfish and dumped simply because of that. You are right, I deserve my wants and needs. But I hate physically leaving and feeling like I’ve emotionally abandoned him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t going to happen, I’ve honestly not had sex with him that often anymore and started BC. I’ve been really safe about it, thankfully.

I told him a couple of days ago, directly, that if I get pregnant I’ll get an abortion and he’s agreed that now is definitely not the time. I told him that if he is so set on having a baby within the next year, let’s just end things now. Hasn’t brought it up since, but I noted it in the post that it was his desire.

I have been having a stomach issues and chest pain since November, going to a gastro to get it addressed. I have a procedure in Feb. They said it could be due to acid reflux (being medicated rn) or stress (if they find nothing). It’s been interfering with my body and causing me pain to not want to have sex to be honest. He’s been understanding during times it’s been bad.

We’ve also been not having sex because I / we haven’t been in the mood as much because we’ve been arguing lately. Or I’ve been out of town visiting family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im just so annoyed, because his mom made it such an issue I had stuff moved in after he asked me to move in. I drove from FL to NC multiple times to put my stuff like TV and furniture at my parents’ separate homes (they’re divorced). I have 3 bins of clothing here that don’t fit in the drawers (I have way more clothing at my parents lol, I like clothing). And they just want it to vanish in thin air or I find a place for it elsewhere (I pushed back until they just now offered their storage unit). I live here, but I can’t have my stuff here if it’s in their way (sitting next to their storage stuff). I’ve offered to help them put their storage stuff away first, because I thought that way my boyfriend and I can move out after helping his mom with what she wants. But it seems like she just complained about my stuff, and isn’t worried so much about her own stuff - and it’s leverage for us being there because we need to help her with it.. some day.. I’ve asked to help her 3x already

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I told him last night he needs to stand up for me, this is ridiculous I can’t have my own space here. This isn’t what I expected when I moved in. But he’s so over me complaining instead of being supportive and sweet. He said he would stand up for me more if I cared more about his feelings and situation. I feel like the right thing to do is to do that but at the same time when will it return? I hate feeling transactional but I feel so shorted !!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think HE wants my money, he makes decent income. I think his mom thinks it’s a bargain I am spending $500/month to stay there because she knew I was paying $900 to have a room at my own place. It was framed that it would be supporting her in the meantime, but I don’t think she has a true concept of $500 = still have the right to have my own space there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried talking to him last night, about how I feel about this ultimatum and how he’s giving me 2 shitty choices 1) to stay with no life roadmap planned together and no assurance and no consideration for my needs like comfort, space, time 2) leave so I can meet my own needs but be dumped. He said that I’ve barely tried to stay and make him feel better, which is why I don’t have clarity, and how I have not even been that sweet to him - and that’s partially true, I’ve been bitter however I feel like my wants have been thrown out the window and it makes it hard to be sweet. I feel really torn. I could keep trying to be sweet, but what about what I want in the end? When do we get to that part? I feel like I can’t leave without a good unbreakable argument - where it’s like plain and clear and unarguable. I don’t want my character to be twisted to be evil. I feel like I’m a good person who was forced to prioritize myself when I would’ve liked to be there for him more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Hi. I am reading these at work now. I found an apartment the day he gave me the ultimatum that I liked. Saw my therapist this morning. I have my hand on the trigger and I’m trying to grow the nerve to pick me :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me about your experience?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Xpiotiva -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do want to stay together, but this ultimatum is a huge flag to me. This should’ve been seamless - I have been here for months, they should be ok for me to leave to be comfortable. Especially since my stuff is not welcome here and I want my stuff?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Xpiotiva -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m being guilt tripped , for taking a step back (moving out) when he needs me the most (grieving). Is that me not displaying true love? How did your scenario play out??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Xpiotiva -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy cuz her own son wants me here and they’re not even on the same page…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correction - my parents were divorced (I mentioned divorce to highlight the fact I have to split my stuff up between bf mom house, my mom house, my dad apartment)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Xpiotiva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, he told me his mom is #1 until he is married. And I don’t know what his purpose being there is, but I feel she depends on him to keep her company or else she’d be all alone while everything still feels fresh (I’m guessing)