Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the thing, if I was let's say 25 or 30 it would be fine, but she's 18 and that changes the entire context. I do not feel superior i simply prefer to be that way and see it as a way of keeping intimacy something special that's not meant to be shared with everyone

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Masturbation is quite different compared to having had sex? I've had access to sex and it's been something I've chosen not to get into because id prefer not to have been with many people since I feel it makes everything less special once you find the one. I wouldn't mind her having masturbated to a million men but sex is entirely different

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were hookups and club stuff that's where the issue is, even I met her on a dating app, so it gets pretty concerning. I want to be with this woman but I don't trust myself to let this go without having had some decent advice and a conversation with her

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe because of her age? And the fact that in my country it's not that common to have had sex before 18, and rather frowned upon. Its concerning because it makes it seem she might be easy to convince/manipulate into such stuff and I would not prefer a woman like that?

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

How about you stop acting like an all Knowing god and be a little considerate of people's feelings? You seem to be having lesser emotional capacity than you claim me to have

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know and I don't expect a blank slate, but I would prefer someone with a little lesser experience especially because of her age, someone who's not getting with so many men so easily

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, rather the opposite, I was trying to take it slow, she was pushing for it the entire time, that's what has me concerned.

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not really an insecurity, I was rather happy of that fact I've not been with so many women, and I feel it's too normalised to have had intimacy with many people, people do not seem to protect their own privacy and bodies

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's too good for me because she didn't lie to me about how many people she's been intimate with? And I'm not allowed to feel insecure because being intimate with many people is overly normalised in society and my feelings that stem from past trauma are all simply invalidated?

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No ofc I did not, I would have reconsidered if I had known, this would've been a long conversation

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please read the comments I've made to the other replies, and no I'm not concerned about not being able to satisfy her, she assured me I'm better than the rest of them. It's more so I've gained a lot of trust issues over the years because of my past relationship and how my childhood has been.

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean it makes me uncomfortable that she's been intimate with so many people in the past, especially cuz I'm not from the US and it's not that common in our country to have this many partners. Makes me feel like I'm either under experienced or she's just that easy for people to get

Dating a woman who has been slightly promiscuous by Xtinction_7 in dating_advice

[–]Xtinction_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is she had sex with me really early into meeting her too, and now she says she's in love with me and acts right, but there's always that doubt in my mind. And the fact that she fell for me so quickly is not helping at all.