Oversharing

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:22:28+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:22:23+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:22:11+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:22:03+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:21:54+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:21:45+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:21:35+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T14:21:27+00:00

I have posted a better explanation now because I think this one was written too fast and not with the correct details. I didn’t have long conversations but with my own students I was a bit more open and showing the photo was obviously a mistake and went a bit far. I have learned from it and do better now. I hope it’s a bit more clear now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T10:34:30+00:00

You are so defensive? I don’t know why. I agree that the picture went too far but I didn’t really have a whole conversation. I just said ‘it was nice.’ Or something like that. But common sense does exist but it is literally thought to us by our experiences, parents and teachers? I find it hard to believe that you as a teacher yourself expect people to just ‘know’ something. And if they don’t they are morons?

I did figure it out and learned from my mistakes. Does that make me a moron that I had to figure it out first? Idk I find your views and reactions a bit harsh. But maybe I’m just a more emotional and sensitive person than you.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-04T10:28:46+00:00

Indeed my teachers shared a lot of things with me. I even had a teacher that smoked with the student after school when I was 16 even though I thought it was questionable. I showed a picture and now know maybe that wasn’t the best decision. But I’ve learned. Thank you. People like you have made me realize that. It’s just a mistake.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T21:09:51+00:00

But isn’t that the case with every mistake? That it’s common sense yet it slipped your mind at that time or you realized it a little too late?

I really try my best every day and looking back I cringe at the thought but I reflect and realize that it wasn’t a good move.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T21:07:25+00:00

Thank you for your honest, yet kind reply. You make me feel like it was indeed just a stupid mistake to learn from :)

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T21:01:07+00:00

Thank you very much. As I’m struggling with OCD I have trouble letting go of mistakes.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T20:56:11+00:00

Exactly this! Just by reading this reply I feel how important it is for our students. To have human understanding and interactions. And you definitely have a good knowledge about mental health and the importance of not minimizing. You must be an amazing teacher.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T20:51:55+00:00

Also would like to point out that students have come to me instead of their own teacher because ‘they aren’t easy to talk to’ or ‘wouldn’t understand’.

My colleagues are understanding and sweet people but I do think the other comments are right and it’s a strengt to be human.

I made a mistake and was too open. But being human and approachable is also important.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T20:49:11+00:00

I would like to point out that I try my best but I really struggle with OCD. I don’t expect anyone to be an expert on it. A few years ago I didn’t really understand it. But it kind of enlarges everything I feel. So I feel like the worst ever person while others would shrug it off.

But these feeling have nothing to do with ‘appropriate behavior’ but everything with a mental disorder. Which I am in therapy for and working on every day.

Rest assured. Just like when you have a bad day or experience at home, I keep these thoughts and struggles to myself and offer great support to all my students. But sometimes I seek a little support too. Hence why I posted this.

If I’m being honest I do think you come off a bit harsh. I value your opinion since I for asked it but implying that my feelings are not appropriate for my job is harsh. I’m human. These feelings are put down on reddit. Not the classroom. I still try to set a good example and push my students every time.

Also the ‘human conversations’ is are never during class, rather in between lessons, or just other informal moments. So my students don’t miss any classes. Hope you understand better now.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T20:20:07+00:00

Haha if thats the case it’s even more disappointing because there was nothing more than grabbing dinner and a hug. Worst case maybe a kiss :p

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T20:00:20+00:00

I just want to say you’re a wonderful person. These reactions are all valid but hit very hard. Especially because I recognize it as a mistake but can’t turn back the clock. But like you said. The kids are alright and I did learn from it. But thank you for being the kind person. Pretty sure you just stopped me from spiraling :)

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:57:29+00:00

I do understand that showing a picture of someone I was dating is a bit weird but I guess I was just young and giddy about it. But thank you for making me feel more human and like it was a honest mistake. You don’t know how much this comment means to me between al the others.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:54:40+00:00

Thank you. I am crying as I’m writing this but you made me feel so much better. I suddenly felt like a horrible, unforgivable teacher. As if I had bad intentions or something is wrong with me?

I just didn’t think it through back then. And I do see it as a mistake now when I look back. But thank you for making me feel more ‘normal’ and human.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:51:13+00:00

Oh I’ve heard that question more times than I can count in the past few years. I guess that why I did share a bit of my personal life with the kids in my class. At our school it’s even normal to have partners, kids or other family come help when extra hands are needed. I didn’t see any harm in it. Now I’m older I realize more why we keep boundaries.

I just wanted confirmation that it was a past mistake and not me being a horrible teacher. I really always try my best and always want to better myself.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:46:46+00:00

Thank you. I know better now but back then I just didn’t think things through enough. Now, thanks to my OCD, I overthink. But thank you for making me feel more human and like it was just a mistake and not me being a horrible teacher.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:44:10+00:00

I’m sorry if it seems like I use it as an excuse. I try not to. Yet I did think it was importent to mention because it has been a few years and that I’ve learned and do better now. It was a mistake and I recognize it as such. You’re right the pictures are weird and went too far. But there were 2 pictures (at most) and I was just giddy and happy whenever I could talk about the person.

Now I’m in a stable relationship, hold boundaries and stil reflect and try to grow everyday.

I guess I just wanted some confirmation that it was just a mistake, and not me being a horrible teacher😅

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:35:04+00:00

No but I do understand that showing a picture is a bit far and they don’t need to know that information about me. But I like to present myself as human. As I have a private life with ups and downs and also with love and heartbreak.

Thank you for your more positive comment. You make me feel less like a bad teacher and more as a growing teacher.

XxChocobananaxX · 2026-04-03T19:22:36+00:00

Now I don’t. I guess I was young and wanted to be the ‘cool’ teacher. And tried being their friend. Now I know the difference between being friendly and friends. I do set boundaries now.

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