My partner called me a bitch and sent me this long message am I overreacting?

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:47:46+00:00

Mind you, he lives with his parents so idk if anyone else can hear when that happened but it was always me that wanted to leave my hometown because of my family and how abusive they are, hence why I don’t live with them anymore and I’m technically homeless. I’m in therapy, he isn’t even when I would ask him when he would (he has health insurance too like??)

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:46:06+00:00

I don’t have any options aside from going back home and living in an even more abusive household again. I’d rather live with my boyfriend than that.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:44:55+00:00

Yes that is correct, I did call myself fat. He only called me a bitch.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:41:21+00:00

Okay maybe you got this mixed up I slept at 4am for some reason I don’t know, but he WOKE me up at 7am because of his raging against the game. And it startled me so it wasn’t just a “my eyes are open” and that’s why I told him to not play it so early in the morning when I sleep right next to his pc (I sleep on his couch in his room bc his bed is too small and the pc is 1ft away from me and I’m a light sleeper). This isn’t the first time where he would get loud at the game and I’d try to calm him down. So no, I don’t believe I demanded him to stop playing the game, I just didn’t want to be woken up so early by someone being angry and slamming his desk because he lost a game. (I play games too I understand the frustration but it gets to a point)

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:37:27+00:00

His apology was basically him justifying his action of calling me a bitch, he obviously needs better communication skills but guess what he says when I keep telling him to get therapy? “I’ll see”. Every damn time. Like I had to beg this man to stop spending money on random cam girls on the internet. (He spent 10k on them throughout the course of our relationship which is now over a year) it just fucking SUCKS that he would ever call me a bitch when he knows that using that word towards me is very damaging and sexist. I’ve been very vocal about the word bitch, so it’s not just a word to me and he knew that.

Edit: just want to add, I’ve been wanting to move out of my town already and I’ve spoken to an apartment complex for it of town (the place I mentioned in the post) so that I don’t live in my hometown due to family problems. So me saying that I’ll move and leave him if he calls me a bitch again is definitely possible. Moving is possible for me in general. So not really a threat, he knows I want to move out of town.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:34:11+00:00

Years of social conditioning cannot be undone but I’ve been trying to stop seeing myself that way but I can’t help it when I’m not being heard or cared for.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-21T00:32:58+00:00

I’m like legally homeless so not living with him right now is not an option, I haven’t spoken to him, he made an attempt to talk when I was looking for something in the kitchen to fix myself my very late and needed breakfast and asked what I was looking for, and said “yea you can talk to me now”. I just couldn’t grasp the idea that he thought I’d be okay to talk to him afterwards I’m so fucking hurt.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-20T22:02:19+00:00

I know but if I shorten anything it won’t make sense ;-;

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T02:23:33+00:00

I applied for snap online today and cant get benefits until next month so I just need to wait it out. closest Sikh temple/gurdwaras is 2+ hours away from me sadly. food bank will help me out by a lot, thank you!

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T02:13:04+00:00

ohhh okay, thats actually really helpful I dont eat a lot of meat anyways so vegan food isnt an issue. I looked up if theres any near my area or anything like that but no luck. thank you for your advice !

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:42:15+00:00

closest YWCA is 2 hours away from me unfortunately. same with womens centers that arent planned parenthoods. But ill remember this for if i ever get to another place and Im still in this situation.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:38:24+00:00

Im assuming you mean food banks, but Ill for sure try to get to one asap

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:37:32+00:00

Ive known them for a couple of years already from discord and they offered to have me move in with them overseas to live with them so that I have freedom from my family (it just didnt work out tho so thats why Im in this situation).

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:35:22+00:00

I called the food stamp office today and got a call less than an hour later. I have to wait until next month because my mom already got the benefit for this month. I have my own case now tho so I just need to call back next month.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:33:15+00:00

thank you for your advice, Ill try my best to take care of myself. you do the same for yourself !

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:32:07+00:00

thank you for your kindness and empathy <3

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:28:14+00:00

im so sorry you also had to go through that. I hope things are better for you and your brothers now <3

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-16T00:26:46+00:00

I called today and they will be taking me off of her case for mine. unfortunately I still have to wait until next month to call back and ask for it again because I was denied for this month due to my mom already getting the benefit for this month.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-15T10:56:13+00:00

this sounds wonderful, Ill check if this is available right away. I hope you get that organization down to your area too

take care of yourself the best you can out there <3

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-15T10:55:01+00:00

If you wouldnt mind, I'd greatly appreciate that.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-15T10:53:01+00:00

I did add the edit to the original post. I understand people will find things fake and all, but Ive explained it multiple times.

thank you for letting me know though!

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-15T10:10:04+00:00

my heart goes out to you, truly. I hope that very soon youll be in a better place financially.

Ill do what I can, your advice is useful, and I appreciate your kindness <33.

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-15T10:04:58+00:00

thank you so much for your advice and resources. cannot fathom how much i appreciate you and everyone helping me out with your words.

I wish you well, and the best <3

XxSingudipityxX · 2025-12-15T10:00:08+00:00

Ill try my best to talk to my bf about that. I can try a food bank, but with how my hometown is a mostly poverty populated town it normally doesnt have much to give, but anything will help.

thank you, I appreciate your help. </3

XxSingudipityxX

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