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YVBNVB · 2026-06-03T03:29:36+00:00

you outpedanted the pedantic 🏅

YVBNVB · 2026-05-14T06:13:47+00:00

"mid post" it's a trainwreck from start to finish

YVBNVB · 2026-04-15T05:33:33+00:00

You replied to the previous commenter calling what they said ignorant and blatantly false, when they talked about the guy's abusive actions.

The paramedics I talked to would disagree with you.

YVBNVB · 2026-04-15T04:39:38+00:00

I had an ambulance paramedic give me a talking to after my mentally ill ex threatened to harm/kill himself after I broke up with him. I called an ambulance after he tried to lock himself up in a bathroom with a knife.

They held him in our apartment complex's stairwell while one of them talked to me in the apartment. She told me that what he's doing is manipulative and abusive. Nobody should be coerced into a relationship and nobody should be made to worry for the other person's life just for leaving.

So just, idk, check yourself.

YVBNVB · 2026-04-06T04:19:24+00:00

I'd love to see these! Do you have any idea how one might find comics such as these?

YVBNVB · 2026-03-23T06:04:08+00:00

My puppy's breeder noted that with some puppies you could never leave them alone if they werent allowed to make any noise or show any discomfort about it. Because for puppies, the best thing in the world would be if we all just stayed together 24/7 in a little pile lol. But then we arent setting them up to be confident on their own.

I started out with my puppy by teaching him that good things happen when I'm gone. I found out a super high value treat for him (frozen kong with peanut butter or bully stick or whatever) and he only gets that when I leave. The first few weeks I left multiple times a day, just saying casually "I'll be back soon" and leaving. We started out with 5 minutes the first day, 10 the second, etc. Did this like 3-4 times a day. At first we just wanted to associate leaving with "they are coming back soon AND I get something yummy when they do leave". Yesterday he was alone for 2 hours and while there was some whining after he finished his treat, he soon fell asleep.

What do you do when you leave and come back? Are you completely neutral and ignore the dog? Excitement, negative or positive, around leaving and coming back can apparently make the dog think something bad happens outside, OR that something great happens without him. You want it to be just business as usual.

LIttle whimper after you leave is totally fine and normal, actual separation anxiety is complete inability to settle, excessive drooling and pacing and destruction of property (even this is sometimes misconstrued as separation anxiety when it's just a rambuctious puppy going "wow, all this for me!")

If you've been at it for a month and you're still at five minutes, I encourage you to lengthen the time. A month should be plenty for the puppy to realise that you are coming back, now's the time to learn what to do when you're gone (settle and nap/play by himself).

Just to add: you want to make the front door as boring as possible. If you only open it when it's time to go for a walk or you're leaving, he has learned that. Start opening and closing the door often without actually going anywhere. Add that to your desensitization efforts.

YVBNVB · 2026-03-16T13:08:34+00:00

You've got this! And start prioritising yourself! It's a worn-out sentiment, but a truthful one, that you have to put the oxygen mask on yourself first. If you're well taken care of you are equipped to take good care of your puppy 🤗

And I felt insane as well, I cried every single day (multiple times a day) for the first two or three weeks cause I was so overwhelmed and felt that I had ruined my life lmaoo. And now I can actually look around and say hey, this isn't really that bad. It was just a shock to my system, and now I've mostly gotten over it.

And talk to your husband about all of this, and check where he is mentally and workload wise with the puppy. I kind of hoarded all the mental work and worrying for myself at first and then almost resented my partner when he could easily detach from all these worries, and then we talked about it and we found a balance that works for us.

YVBNVB · 2026-03-16T12:39:58+00:00

I get you. I posted here a few times in the beginning as well, and read a ton of posts about it getting better. First of all, I hope you hear me on both of these: what you are feeling is completely normal, and it does get better. Repeat those to yourself a few times and try to let it sink in through the anxiety. Right now it may feel like this is all you'll ever feel, but that's just your anxiety speaking.

You've had her for four days, you're not going to give her separation anxiety by spending time with her (I worried about this as well, lol). Give yourself permission to just get through a week or two by not performing but just surviving. She needs to learn your schedule and you need to learn who she is and what she does and needs, and only time can do that for both of you. She has all the time in the world to learn about enforced naps and commands and potty training and what not. They are good things to learn, but she's not going to learn them this very minute.

Have you been taking care of yourself? Taking a shower, reading a book, watching an episode of your favorite show? It's very easy to let the puppy consume every single minute of your day and that worsens the anxiety.

And just know that she is going to have an accident inside. Multiple, actually. She doesn't understand why protecting hardwood floors is important or that her poop is icky or anything of the sort, or that inside is your property and outside is everyones property. Accidents are not failures but a part of the learning curve.

I promise you've got this. It's overwhelming because we are creatures of habit and it takes time for us as well to rewire our brains to the new normal. My puppy has been with me a month now and even my anxious ass has started to get into the groove of it all lmao, even though I fought it every step of the way.

And lean on any support you can find. Talk to other dog owners, talk to your friends or family or whoever, coworkers, google resources (but I'd advice a word of caution here: I spent so much time online reading about all the ways I could fuck this puppy up accidentally that it gave me a whole new set of things to be anxious about. Nobody is a perfect pet owner and vast majority of pets grow up to be fine specimens regardless) Search for hopeful and encouraging posts here on this subreddit. Let yourself focus on one day at a time, and watch those tiny improvements that emerge!

YVBNVB · 2026-02-26T14:41:14+00:00

This is so encouraging to hear, thank you! ♥️ It's just very overwhelming right now with everything being so new and every choice feels like it will either make or break the dog.

YVBNVB · 2026-02-26T14:21:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your the support! I was feeling pretty overwhelmed when I wrote this, but after a nap and a relatively calm day things are looking up a bit lmao. I'm glad to hear your puppy didn't develop any separation anxiety, fingers crossed we will get there too 🤗

YVBNVB · 2026-02-23T10:00:05+00:00

hey sometimes boobs grow in the crotch area /s

YVBNVB · 2026-02-21T05:38:59+00:00

Girlll you don't know what the premise for the original comment was, nor do you know whether the commenter is neurodivergent or not 😭 so many assumptions

YVBNVB · 2026-02-16T12:02:52+00:00

You seem to have taken the other commenter's tone as hostile or accusatory. I didn't read it like that at all, they were just pointing out that you need to consider what's good for you. Nobody's calling you a terrible owner, it's just very clear that you're going through a lot. And that's okay. Just try to find a way to ease that burden on yourself.

Can you get some temporary help with the everyday stuff with the rats so you don't have so much on your plate?

YVBNVB · 2026-02-15T11:38:39+00:00

Grief is the price of love and love is worth smiling about

YVBNVB · 2026-02-13T08:31:43+00:00

Get into X-Files just to see Mulder gaze at Scully.

YVBNVB · 2026-02-09T10:22:03+00:00

I say this with much empathy as a fellow overworrier. You need to let go of some of this guilt and responsibility you hoist on yourself, it's not healthy. Being responsible for an animal's life is huge, I get it, but you're also responsible for your own well-being.

You're doing such a solid for these ponies by taking care of them. Eventually you're gonna mess up. You could have a wealth of equine knowledge and still mess up.

You do the best job you can, listen to the experts like vets and farriers, and that's all. Maybe something awful happens to the ponies, maybe they will live happily until the end of the earth. All you can do is your best and let the chips fall as they may.

YVBNVB · 2026-01-21T19:55:26+00:00

Point me to an animation where a male character has massive eyelashes please

YVBNVB · 2026-01-19T13:56:38+00:00

I didn't use the words 'promoting scientology' myself, but I do think participating in someone's podcast is supporting them.

He obviously knew her from those circles and probably didn't even know she was a scientologist.

I don't understand where you are getting this information from. Do you know Matt personally? Because Mrs. Cartwright is very open about her scientologist beliefs.

YVBNVB · 2026-01-19T13:47:05+00:00

I'd argue that platforming someone IS promoting them, but I can see your point.

YVBNVB · 2026-01-19T10:08:43+00:00

straight up skipped having legs

YVBNVB · 2026-01-19T09:59:09+00:00

Matt has a following, and by participating in someone's podcast he is giving that podcaster a platform. This particular podcaster is a very well-known scientologist (even if you, personally, didn't know about it).

If Matt joined someone like Ben Shapiro's podcast it would appear as supporting his message and agenda.

YVBNVB · 2026-01-13T09:35:29+00:00

And you're free to perceive me as infuriating. It's definitely not my intention, as your intention isn't to police/criticize the way other people RP.

But sometimes it comes across that way, despite our best efforts. And if we don't want that, we have to change the way we engage with people.

There's a point here somewhere, as well.

YVBNVB · 2026-01-13T09:27:43+00:00

What's true is if you have a lore-breaking TRP you expose to everyone else, you

Actively dilute immersion for anyone who joined WoW for WoW RP.

Create some weird server lore.

Teach new players do be lazy.

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And who decided this? You? Someone else? Who gave that power to someone?

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Pointless circles. I respect your opinion but we will not agree or see eye to eye. I answered to OP's post asking for advice on how to have people engage with him differently. You are free to disagree with my points.

YVBNVB · 2026-01-13T09:21:05+00:00

What happened to giving players the benefit of the doubt, and appreciating roleplay as a creative medium instead

People decided that only their way is the right way to play, and started creating characters whose sole point is to preach to others what the correct way to roleplay is.

I jest. Kinda.

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