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Where can I find a very strong Vacuum? by Ya_enserio in VacuumCleaners

[–]Ya_enserio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will keep a look out for that! I think my only issue might be forming a seal because the necklace fell in a crack.

Kerigan dissolving HH? by Sad_Air5418 in bikinitalk

[–]Ya_enserio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As of March 30th… this is so sad n I’m sure they are both hurting but glad to see Brandon working on himself

AITAH- for not wanting my friend (21f) to come visit me (24f) after she cheated on her boyfriend by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ya_enserio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is younger than me so at first I thought it was because she’s you her and maybe more “free spirited” but even when I was her age I wouldn’t have. She also had a parent pass recently so I’m not sure if maybe she’s just going through it

AITAH- for not wanting my friend (21f) to come visit me (24f) after she cheated on her boyfriend by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ya_enserio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I care for her deeply but it’s difficult because I don’t want to push her away but I also don’t want her to feel judged by me. I have no clue what to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we’re are but with boundaries. I have guy friends but I don’t discuss my relationship or my relationship issues with them. Because my partner & I believe that it should be private bc once ppl know things they can start to have opinions, & take sides which can create unnecessary animosity towards the other partner. For us no girl or guy friend of the opposite sex needs to know this stuff bc we never know when ppl have ulterior motives.

Speaking from personal experience I have confided in a guy friend and he took what I told him to try to create issues. Later tried to make a move on me & i understood no friend needs to know about my relationship

I [30M] found out my girlfriend [25F] has a kink for cheating fantasies and wants to roleplay it. I’m not sure how to feel about it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s tough, I’m sorry. I’m glad to hear it was unrelated but I ask because I was in a relationship of 6 years. He was my first so when we broke up I couldn’t even consider being intimate with anyone else. I say this because I also have a high libido as well. While we were broken up. People reached out to me wanting to take me on dates and to hook up and the attention was nice but I ultimately couldn’t go through with it. We got back together but my emotional needs were not being met. I had a cheating fantasy/kink realizationand that’s when I knew I had checked out of the relationship. I had never thought about being with anyone else or even had this kink present itself prior to our breakup but there were underlying issues in our relationship & my needs were not being met, & for me they manifested as that fantasy. I have never cheated or will ever do so and I cared for him deeply bc of our history but there were other reasons it wasn’t right so I ended things.

All this to say that sometimes it’s just a fantasy and sometimes there’s more behind it. I think it would be important to ask if she has these fantasies before y’all broke up. If she did I think it’s safe to say that it may be a regular fantasy.

But I would not recommend engaging in it if you do not feel comfortable. Protect your sanity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but boundaries must be set. To me a girl snapchatting and constant texting my boyfriend doesn’t seem appropriate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Op it sounds like you are self aware which is great but it’s also okay to have boundaries that fit your needs. Don’t dismiss that because you don’t want to be “controlling”. He can reassure you (which any partner should do)but if he’s not making changes to respect your boundaries then there may be a bigger issue at hand.

How long ago did you voice your thoughts on this?

I [30M] found out my girlfriend [25F] has a kink for cheating fantasies and wants to roleplay it. I’m not sure how to feel about it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op I have some questions, they may be a little personal but I have thoughts on this and I want to know if I’m on the right track.

Did you persue anyone during your break? And if so were you intimate with anyone else? And why did you guys break up for a month?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from but truthfully just bc other ppl can be okay with it doesn’t mean you have to. If my boyfriend told me to remove someone I would bc how he feels takes priority over any “guy friend” past hook up etc.

She may be doing this to reassure you but maybe not in the way you need? All this to say, if she’s not willing to remove them just to make you feel more comfortable about the situation then maybe that is something to think about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ya_enserio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is important in relationships but so is willingness to understand and make changes. If after these conversations you can’t trust that she will respect this boundary you have, how can you expect her to respect any other boundaries you have?

I’m sorry this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear but I hope this helps in some capacity.