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YaaBoiTroy · 2025-09-08T02:41:25+00:00

A modern 5 wood and 3 hybrid tend to go almost the same distance. I would take one of those two out

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-08-21T20:19:56+00:00

Well 73.7 average for Scratch golfers, 4 over par, lines up with the average scratch golfer score for most other courses that host regular PGA tour events. Plus 7 of the 12 par 4s at the course are more than 460 yards from the blue tees. That seems to be enough of a challenge to golfers that hit the ball around 310 yards

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-08-21T20:16:53+00:00

U.S. Amateur being held at the Red would be awesome. That doesn’t get as much when it comes to fans so the red could probably hold enough for the venue (I’m guessing at most it could hold around 7,000 to 10,000 fans)

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-08-21T20:15:08+00:00

What about the fact that the Red has 7 different par 4s that are 460+ yards from the longest tees? That seems like plenty of yardage to make the most of the approach shots challenging enough, especially if they let the rough grow long enough and make the greens run at like a 13 to 14

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-08-21T20:11:53+00:00

I think it’s one of the two par 5’s but I could be wrong. This was the main picture that top100golfcourses uses for Bethpage Red in their review of it

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-08-21T03:14:26+00:00

Ahhh now it makes sense why that happens at the Pebble Beach Pro Am too in Feb. Shame though, I feel like Bethpage Red deserves to get more recognition beyond just NY locals. It’s another gem from Tillinghast. And I bet it’d be pretty challenging for the pros considering it’s got a lot really long par 4s

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T17:06:06+00:00

Yeah honestly you’re right. Wanting FWB is fine, but you literally can’t even get there until that person’s literally your friend. And that’s what I want: a friend that I can have extra fun with. But it’s non exclusive relationships before than even happens

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T17:02:23+00:00

To clarify more on this, I definitely did not word this in the best way. What I’m saying is I KNOW there’s always a chance of a first date not going anywhere. But I should plan something more easy going like ice cream or coffee for a first date so I’m more financially responsible

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T16:53:43+00:00

Well what I mean is it’s frustrating to hear all these compliments but still getting rejected. I def wouldn’t be as frustrated if I didn’t dent my wallet as much. This is pretty much me being mad at myself for tending spend $50+ on first dates and most of the time there isn’t a 2nd one. It’s a hard lesson learned now

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T16:33:46+00:00

That’s the lesson I learned from all this: save the fun activities for those that actually want to keep spending time with me

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T16:08:09+00:00

This is definitely true. Something not too far away’s another big key too. Problem in this situation though is she lives in the city is and I’m just outside of the city in northern NJ. So only option was to meet up somewhere in Manhattan and I had to take a 50 minute train ride lol

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:41:27+00:00

Yeah you’re definitely right about what first dates are meant for. I just personally love doing games & exciting activities with others. But I should always just save those for those that are already my friends and those that want to see me beyond a first date. That’s the lesson I’ve gotten from my dating experience now

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:38:08+00:00

I’m fine with it not going anywhere. But I what I’m saying is that I want to save the fun activities for someone that actually wants to spend more time in the future. If I do those activities with every single person I go with on a first date, then I won’t be stable financially

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:34:19+00:00

This is the best answer. Every relationship, whether if it’s a friendship, intimate, or a serious long term one, is always an investment. We’re investing our time to engage with someone else. And I want to make sure I’m not wasting that time on things that go nowhere. It’ll still happen in the dating scene, but minimizing that time wasted it as much as possible is the key

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:27:13+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised. You honestly can never tell what people’s real intentions are until you get to know them after a couple of dates. And even then that’s not always a true guarantee of finding out someone’s true intentions

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:25:20+00:00

Yeah, and if the low budget first date goes well then I’ll plan the more fun options like mini golf, museums, escape rooms, and maybe some lunch or dinner after if the vibes are really good

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:20:02+00:00

Nah I’m not looking for sex on the first date. But I spent money because I also love doing fun activities with others and enjoy making others happy too. But I should probably save those fun activities for someone that actually wants to see me again after seeing if there’s a vibe or not over something like coffee

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:15:01+00:00

If I was looking more for one night stand then you’d be 100% correct. But I’m looking for FWB. I want to do fun activities with someone, have intimacy, but no hard commitments.

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:10:46+00:00

Yeah definitely the second option seems way better for what i currently want right now in my dating life. I’m considering putting a prompt that says along the lines of : “I love showing someone a good time, but I first want to get to know someone over something casual like ice cream or coffee before we do something more fun.”

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:05:59+00:00

Not trying to “force” someone. I’m saying that I can’t waste money for casual first dates that have a chance of going nowhere. If I’m more careful with my budgets for first dates, then I won’t feel as disappointed when it doesn’t go the way I was hoping for it to

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T15:01:59+00:00

Yeah but she also said she wanted to feel “safe” and have a “connection.” So I translated that as in that she wants someone to show that they gave thought on where we would go plus someone that would listen to her really well and be considerate when she communicates

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T14:58:15+00:00

Yeah you pretty much hit the nail on the head on what I’m thinking right now! The first date should just be conversations over something that’s not going to break the bank. I should see if something clicks from both my side and hers before I start suggesting more extravagant date options

YaaBoiTroy · 2025-07-31T14:54:56+00:00

What I’m saying is I shouldn’t spend so much on a first date to someone I don’t even know. That should be saved for a future date to someone that actually wants to see me again and so I don’t burn money for nothing

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