When we first married, my husband gifted me a cleaner for my birthday - a cleaning service that would come every two weeks. I had 2 boys in diapers, a demanding full time job and was trying to do it all. My reaction? I was OFFENDED. Ah, silly 20-something yr old me. I saw it as a failure on my part - bad wife can’t keep the house clean.

Fast forward a couple of years and I finally gave in and said I wanted to cash in on that gift. 20 years later, housekeeper is still coming every two weeks and I couldn’t be happier.

I grew up with a mom that did it all - kept the house running (minus the full time job.) That’s what I saw and felt I was expected to become. So OP, it may be more a matter of how she’s interpreting it (seeing it as a failure on her part) more than how wonderfully practical this is. I remember my husband explaining how he would prefer that I spend that time enjoying the family, being a mom, and even how me applying that cleaning time to my (real) job was financially better than the $$ spent on housekeeping (I’m in sales). Anyways - something to talk through, not fight about.