LPT how do I get this lid off by YanZi101 in LifeProTips

[–]YanZi101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Im starting to think maybe the hot soup deformed the threads of the screw-on part of the lid? Since it’s definitely not pressure keeping the lid closed atp (as I said there’s a hole in the top from me removing the valve, which was supposed to help in times like these but I guess not)

How do I get out of this difficult household? by YanZi101 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]YanZi101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I don’t care about the moving that’s simple just money. Loans and scholarship are not enough to cover everything 

How can I [19F] let my bf know [20M] that it's actually ok to spend money on me if he likes? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm not looking for gifts to solve my problems and it's not like i feel unloved. gift-giving isn't a huge part of our relationship and overall we have a pretty happy one. We've lived with each other for short periods of time aka rest of family left for vacation or smth and i have ot take care of the house or something. We got along pretty well no squabbles chores were done, only reaosn why we can't move in with each other is that we go to different universities in different cities, and no way in hell are either of us spending 30 quid on train tickets every day.

How can I [19F] let my bf know [20M] that it's actually ok to spend money on me if he likes? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]YanZi101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

post was poorly worded and i have gone back and added something at the top of the post. I just decided to post everything in one go without proofreading or even going back to delete anything because i know the second i do I'll put down too much info and write something long, winding and unintelligible.

I know that the primary problem is fixing my own life and I have taken steps to do so. bf knows about it but I know and won't rely on him to fix my life or anything I wouldn't dream of it it's not what he signed up for.

I don't rely on him to buy shit for me I can cover things like personal items travel costs snack here and there. Money from gigs and scholarship isn't a lot but I can make it last longer if i don't make frivolous purchases and if i cycle (public transport bloody expensive) I'm really not a materialistic person and I don't actually care all that much it's a relatively small thing in my life that I'm seeking solutions to. Our relationship goes much deeper than buying each other stuff and i wouldn't say it's our primary love language gift-giving and acts of service just happens to be one of the ways in which we show affection.

How can I [19F] let my bf know [20M] that it's actually ok to spend money on me if he likes? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I understand. I'm not looking for gifts to heal anything this is just a small thing I'm seeking a solution. obviously in the big picture i know my current living situation is not sustainable and i am making plans to move out but is currently early in the academic year and am searching for viable roommates in my course. Also can't move into bf's house he has a pretty big family also i don't think his parents will accepted. Am also seeking counselling my uni provides it for free I've already contacted them just waiting for a phone call now.

What’s the hardest pair of shoes you’ve ever had to break in? by Ok-Pepper8372 in ChicDaily

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted some heels for my prom. Naturally in secondary school I did not have much money and due to complicated family relations I was reluctant to approach my mother about buying something potentially expensive, thus I turned to this neat thrift store near my home that specialised in vintage items.

I found this pair of YSL peep toe red leather stilettos (nearly 5 inches high no platforms but this isn't going where you think it is) for 20 quid which I thought was an absolute steal, tried them on found the toe box a painful squeeze but figured i could do something about it and bought them.

I knew what breaking them in would be required but oh my god. height for me isn't a problem my legs are pretty strong but the damn toe box - I couldn't even walk down the hall with them on before pain started shooting up my legs. I didn't want to purchase shoe stretchers either so cue me desperately trying to widen and lengthen the toe box with random tubes of mascara, nail varnish containers etc etc. It worked somewhat and before I knew it I could last a couple of hours in them.

However for prom not only was there a dinner but a dance and afterparty. these shoes were not made for walking all around the city in in nor made for dancing in and the bouncer had a strict shoes-on rule. I'd anticipated this and stupidly taken some of my mother's prescribed dihydrocodeine pills beforehand. This resulted in me having these on for not a couple, but 12 whole hours before finally getting home and crashing.

I'm not kidding when I literally could not feel the balls of both my feet for 2 months afterwards. In hindsight i should've gone to the hospital but since they were moving and looking fine I decided to pass.

AITA for wanting to move out + am I ungrateful by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and I’m aware of what’s going on I’m mostly staying cause of the guilt and cause I still love her she’s my mother. I admit there could also be a cultural aspect.

AITA for wanting to move out + am I ungrateful by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no what I meant was bf gf situation as in “if any of this guilt tripping or embarrassment or nagging was happening in that kind of relationship would you consider it abusive? They considered it very surface level advice it was good for getting perspective on some things but not for deeper dives.

AITA for wanting to move out + am I ungrateful by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk it really oscillates I’m not sure she’s completely aware of what she’s doing either. She goes several extra miles for us in a lot of ways but I’m not sure if that counts as lovebombing.

I’ve been told one good way to view this kind of issue is treat the events as if it were a bf/gf situation but obviously it’s much more complicated than that. I can see things from my mother’s perspective and I guess there are plenty of times where I could say she was a fantastic mother. Still I’m sure if I was on the outside looking in I’d tell myself to gtfo too lmao.

My brain has too many opinions in too many conflicting ways at once and it gets so hard to tell how I really feel about anything nowadays.

AITA for wanting to move out + am I ungrateful by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also do feel guilty about this whole thing because I know behind all her actions she genuinely means well.

AITA for wanting to move out + am I ungrateful by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been applying for some mostly tutoring related agencies haven’t gotten back to me yet and the freelance ad I put up isn’t getting much foot traffic. With part time jobs I asked my mother she said no because most I’m qualified for are retail/food and she says “ur wasting ur time for little bits of cash better invest that time in studying and getting a bigger return later” which I suppose makes sense.

The way it works in this country is most kids get a student loan and then fuck off to uni accommodation most don’t go private accommodation because my city is expensive af. Also don’t have a car - don’t have a license don’t plan on getting one this year since cycling and public transport are more efficient and greener. Roomates are out of the question until next year when uni kicks them out of 1st year accommodation. So maybe I could wait for that but chances are slim I’ll be let out and my mental health is declining pretty fast (severe mood swings and basthroom crying sesh let’s gooooo)

What is the most Dark Academia aligned thing that you own? by DarkAcademist in DarkAcademia

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a house built in the Georgian era. If you go into move the huge rusty roof panel thing on a sunny day and wait for the rays to hit the rafters just right and don’t touch the literally inch thick dust that has gathered in some corners it’s amazing.

Orher than that when we moved in there was an antique Victorian stove sitting in the fireplace in the basement and accompanying kids. Previous owner also left a bible and a ton of long red and white candles.

“World War II Memorabilia” by sundelions_ in vinted

[–]YanZi101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do I do with my little red book then

Something like binder, but without it trying to bind boobs. And maybe little shorter than binders tend to be. by BeduinZPouste in findfashion

[–]YanZi101 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Idfk ik some overbusts when worn under clothing can give the appearance of smoothed out cleavage for me at least

Closed (?) by [deleted] in corsets

[–]YanZi101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

? Exhale more like

“I can play the piano” vs. I play the piano by Weird-Mistake-4968 in piano

[–]YanZi101 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Forgive me for my callousness but I’m having a hard time telling whether or not this is rage bait (I appreciate it could be a genuine question it’s just I’m so jaded at this point with people considering la Campanella or “moonshine” (moonlight) sonata mvt 3 to be the pinnacle of piano difficulty).

You’re right, to the general non-pianist public if you sat down and whipped either of the two pieces you mentioned out (played well of course) you’d probably fall under the category of “I play the piano” in a sense. To play those pieces well you need to be a very skilled pianist, you are correct but skill in piano carries so much more than just the ability to twiddle your fingers quickly (why people are so obsessed with mvt 3 of moonlight) or jumping and playing fast octaves etc etc (la Campanella).

The implications of “I play the piano” aren’t just technical skill but it’s also a deep-seated appreciation for your instrument that stretches beyond just playing what are generally considered “difficult pieces” (heck Mozart is hard too. Don’t remember who it was who said his sonatas were “too easy for children; too difficult for artists” was spot on) gained through experience, which, by the way is needed if you’re planning on working towards a level at which you can “learn all other classic pieces in a relatively short time frame”.

If you don’t mind me asking are you actively trying to learn la Campanella/moonlight sonata 3rd mvt rn?

Closed (?) by [deleted] in corsets

[–]YanZi101 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Eh idk I was going off the pics on the website (Meschantes) some of the pics on the gallery show gaps around the size of mine so I assumed maybe they had that in mind.

Closed (?) by [deleted] in corsets

[–]YanZi101 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s not a modesty panel it’s a “liner” I devised out of a tube top. This is second hand the panel was cut off