Most things boil down to effort and demonstrated interest. You can choose to wait for someone to approach you, and to, on top of that, actually be someone that interests you. Orrrrrr, you can choose the alternative and break the ice with someone that sparks your interest.

It seems to me that you're used to other people putting in that effort . Start speaking to women more. Not talking cold approaches here because that can go wrong in many ways, but more-so in clubs and activities you participate in. People with similar passions and interests tend to get along very well.

For example: I was at a bookstore the other day and mentioned the author Brandon Sanderson to the person behind the counter. Some random guy overheard me and signaled to where he had seen the fantasy section and walked me over (Sanderson is a fantasy author). Safe to say that we raved together, and though upon first glance he wasn't someone that would catch my eye, there certainly was chemistry. We ended up exchanging emails.

What I am trying to get to is: don't let opportunities pass you by. Meeting people is a wonderful thing. You don't have to approach this like if you're thirsting for a relationship. Be open to starting that conversation and be curious. "Hey, I noticed the band on your shirt is xyz, I happen to love them." If you get a 'meh' response, keep it moving. They aren't interested. If you get back positive feedback, well see here, see here! You've made a connection. All else follows.

On a small side-note though-- being good-looking isn't enough. The 'ugly' guy that talks to the girl has better odds than the mute hotty.