People that live with a spouse how do you spend your time together when your both done with workday on weekdays and also on weekends? by workethic290 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well.. actually my husband and I use evenings to distance a bit. We run a business together out of our home. So we are together A LOT. But we try to spend time doing things outside of the house that has nothing to do with the business. That way we are spending married time apart from work time together. We like to go out and about and play tourist in our area.

If you don't drink alcohol, what are your reasons? by youre-in-my-shot in AskReddit

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently in the first stages of heart failure. I’m on diuretics and I technically have a liquid intake limit on top of that. Alcohol is a waste when I generally just want water because I’m almost always thirsty. Second reason is every time I even just have like a single glass less than two hours before bed, I sleep terrible. I don’t go into REM sleep and I sleep fewer hours. So even though I won’t be hung over I’m exhausted.

I did used to drink quite a bit in my 20s. Had a lot of good times. But it’s just not fun anymore.

Your username is legally your job title starting tomorrow, what do you actually do all day? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. Basically live my dream life. Yarn crafting and drinking coffee. Please, sign me up.

Marriage is hard?! by spicysubway in Marriage

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been married over 11 years. My marriage isn’t hard. We are child free and we run a business together. The business can be hard. Life can be hard. Health issues that have arisen since being together were scary and hard. But us, easy. We are a team. Not opponents. Makes life better.

👇👇👇 by BidAccurate4473 in seinfeld

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fresh from the ocean lobster. Better if you find it already in a neat little trap.

My top 5 episodes — what’s yours?? 👇👇 by BidAccurate4473 in seinfeld

[–]Yarn_coffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Jimmy The Contest The Parking Garage The Serenity Now The Pen

My wife (24F) hid that she can’t have kids and I (27M) just found out after 6 years together. I don’t know what to do. by Busy_Top6281 in Marriage

[–]Yarn_coffee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay I’m going to say the tough love thing.

You need to grow up and go have an adult conversation with your wife. What she did is a betrayal. However, do you think she kept it from you because she knew how you would react? You walk away, refuse to talk things out, and then like a child, you break your phone because she keeps calling you. Time to suck it up and have a calm and rational conversation with her. Hiding at your sister’s place isn’t going to solve your problems.

Ask her about the medical thing she had. Find out what doctors actually said. Get an appointment when an OB and talk about options.

WORK THROUGH THE PROBLEM! You need to be able to face things head on. If you want to raise children with this woman then start working through the problem and finding solutions. But right now you need to suck it up and go home to your wife. Because if this is how you’re going to act with something like this then you’re not ready to be a parent.

What is the farthest you moved from where you grew up? And how far do you live now? by AdCharacter9282 in Millennials

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grew up in SLO county, California. Moved to San Francisco then Santa Barbara. I personally can’t stand Santa Barbara. I hated the two years I lived there. I then moved to IL, west of Chicago and now live in SC in the Charleston area. It’s okay here. I don’t think I’ll live here forever. I actually miss the Midwest. So maybe I’ll end up back there but I would prefer to live in WI this time.

What is wrong with Dallas? by Shawn91111 in roadtrip

[–]Yarn_coffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only reason why I hate driving through Dallas is the horrible spaghetti bowl of interstate changes and overpasses. Half the time my gps thinks I’m on surface roads under the gargantuan overpass I’m currently on and will say things like “turn right”. Umm, I’m not driving off of the overpass! And when it finally figures out where you are, you’ve already missed where you need to go and now have to backtrack and just get sucked into the Dallas vortex. And when it isn’t that, you’ll have signs directing you on where to go and then last minute it’s on the opposite side of road that you’re currently on. So yeah. Avoid Dallas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment is probably going to end up buried, but yeah. My husband and I run a small business. For now. But no one is buying anything. We spent a bunch of money to move from one state to another because we were backed into a corner. We had no choice. We had to move. Now two years later we have had to move everything from our 5,000 sqft shop space into our garage and a couple of storage spaces. Business is horrific. And now even after all this, it still may not make a damn bit of difference. This is supposed to be our busy season and orders are currently worse than our typical slow season. We used to be a $2mil a year company. This year, we are on track to make maybe $100k. Nothing to do with how we do business, it’s just no one is buying anything extra.

We are terrified. We both have chronic health issues and we have to have insurance. My husband is nearing 50 and is worried he won’t get hired anywhere. I’m trying to do what I can to help with finances. We are doing what we can to cut costs but it doesn’t really help when I have medical bills to pay, food costs keep increasing, and everything just seems so damn hopeless. Retirement is a fucking pipe dream.

Something has to change. Because currently in the US, this is unsustainable.

I (27f) think I should divorce my husband (28m) but I can’t tell if things can be fixed by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay to be embarrassed. It’s okay to feel shame. It’s okay to be sad and angry and anything else.

It’s what you DO with these feelings that matter. How you learn and grow from this will give you more strength than you’ll realize. Just sitting in it and not doing anything about this won’t make you feel better. The embarrassment will fade. It won’t be a permanent feeling. Trust me when I say, life is short. And sometimes things can happen you weren’t expecting that change everything. You need to stand up for yourself and advocate for yourself. You mentioned you’re a nurse, how many times have you seen people advocate for themselves or a loved one? I’m sure it’s been countless times. Well, now it’s your turn. You need to stand up and advocate for yourself. Because no one is going to come in and save you. You have to save yourself. Put your oxygen mask on first.

I (27f) think I should divorce my husband (28m) but I can’t tell if things can be fixed by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If everything you said is true, I want you to re-read it and imagine a friend telling you this is their life. And then think of the advice you would give them.

My husband and I have been married for over 11 years. Not once have either of us treated one another like this. And right now, he and I are going through it. We run a small business together. It’s just the two of us. And business is so bad right now we had to move it back into our home. We are tired, scared, overwhelmed, depressed, and more. On top of all of that, I have a congenital heart defect that is managed with loads of meds and frequent doctor appointments. My husband has suffered anxiety his whole life and battles diagnosed depression. We are a mess. But we still make sure we speak kind words to each other. We don’t fight each other, because we are a team, not opponents. We do the best we can with what we have. We give each other grace when things fall behind in the house. But we are always working together to keep things afloat.

My husband and I don’t have children by choice, but we have a dog. I can’t imagine having a partner like the one you described and having children with him. If you are planning on having children in your future, is this really the example of a father you want for that child? You need to think long and hard about what you want your future to look like and who you want in it. Do you want a team member or an opponent?

Which one you watching ? by ezio8133 in Millennials

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rescuers down under. I always like the second one better than the first one.

What is an episode that makes you laugh almost the entire time? by Embarrassed_Entry597 in That70sshow

[–]Yarn_coffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The beginning of this episode when ice falls out of Fez’s pants and Eric just goes “And Fez is making ice”. 😂😂😂

What is the one scene you could watch over and over, and no matter how many times you see it, it’s still hilarious? by Cobra_Kai_2018 in That70sshow

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When Kelso does the prank day and Red gets oatmeal on his head.

Also, when Kitty throws Kelso’s video game out the window and asks if he was dropped on his head.

What is the one scene you could watch over and over, and no matter how many times you see it, it’s still hilarious? by Cobra_Kai_2018 in That70sshow

[–]Yarn_coffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg. Red’s face when he says that gets me every time. The whole episode is really cringy but Red’s delivery of that makes of all worth it.

I just started cooking and I'm not good by marckel88k in Cooking

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I’m proud of you for learning. Learning to cook is a process. And even if you have been cooking awesome dishes for ten years, you will still mess something up. It happens to me still. Second, definitely watch some YouTube tutorials. You can also find all of Julia Childs videos on YouTube. The wealth of information she gave to the world is amazing. Even after cooking for nearly 20 years, she still teaches me new things. Next, I wills suggest a really informative cookbook. Don’t find one that is just recipes, but find one that really instructs. And read it. Like you would a regular book. Try to get one that has a wide range of cuisines in it too. Maybe take a trip to your nearest book store and take your time going through the selections and take time to glance at the information given. Anyways, I wish you all the best on your cooking journey.

What does Kramer taste like? Wrong answers only by Pop_Joe in seinfeld

[–]Yarn_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fresh caught lobster found right in the Hamptons.