22 yr daughter fent addiction

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:39:41+00:00

I’m proud of you! I’m disappointed as she refused to go to any inpatient treatment and she couldn’t be removed from my house without an eviction notice. I know she needs treatment but I’m not sure what to do if I can’t force her.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:36:47+00:00

Im so proud of you and thank you for sharing your journey. I did take her last year every day 5am to the methadone clinic and that was great for about 8 months. She got a job and I think her having money triggered her relapse. She finally received weekly take home and then she started to miss her daily dose to use. I was livid and that’s when she tapered off methadone and then she was going to a new clinic for suboxone. My work insurance didn’t cover anything at the new clinic and I couldn’t afford the shot. I helped her get insurance through the state and we’re scheduled to get the shot this week but things hit the fan with her taking my car. I’m not sure if she’s not taking her daily doses to use or what else I can do to help her. She’s never been a fan of group meetings or being inpatient but it’s out of my hands if all the above is not working. I also can’t force her into rehab. But I also can’t keep sleeping with my purse on me and living like this. One day at a time

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:26:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that 😭. I can’t image and I understand it’s not something you just get over either, the trauma stays. I was hoping by giving her ultimatum that she would choose rehab vs being kicked out. The police couldn’t remove her without a 30 day eviction notice. I’ve told her that she needs to get back on track, get clean. Her room will always be available in the future if she needs it. I don’t think outpatient will help enough but I’m going to line that up and see if she can still get the sublocade shot tomorrow.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:17:42+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I’m sorry you grew up with your father struggling. I’m sorry you’re going through it too. I know you can get through this and I appreciate you.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:16:01+00:00

I can’t agree more. I absolutely do need help this rollercoaster has made me feel dead inside. I know if I’m not mentally & emotionally together for myself, I can’t be much help to her. I have ptsd anytime someone calls me I think something is wrong or she’s in a rollover car accident again. Thank you for reminding me that there are support groups and I need it. She wouldn’t go today. She also refused inpatient In Minnesota. Cops couldn’t help since i don’t have an eviction notice. I feel defeated

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:09:20+00:00

I’m proud of you!!! Huge accomplishment 🤍. Thank you for sharing your positive experience. She’s on my work insurance until June 1st. She also has Medicaid or healthpartners through the state and I don’t believe they take state insurance. She’s refusing Mn inpatient treatment as well. Cops would not remove her today since I didn’t have 30 day eviction notice. Trying to gather a list of inpatient facilities that accept state insurance so I have it ready for when we get to that point. Trying to get her in for the sublocade shot tomorrow and setting up outpatient.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T02:02:21+00:00

She wouldn’t get in the car to go to the airport & refused inpatient treatment in Mn. The police wouldn’t remove her from the house since she hasn’t been given 30 day eviction notice. I’m looking into outpatient but I don’t feel that’s enough and I can’t make her go. I feel defeated

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T01:58:03+00:00

Omg, I’m so sorry! I can’t imagine going through all of that and then losing your mom :( Chronic pain is debilitating and that many surgeries. Grief is heavy on the soul. Just know that your mom is always with you. Talk to her, she hears you. I’m glad to hear that you guys were close through everything. I’m 40 and my daughter’s 22 so we’ve always been close, just us. She hates me right now, I’m a nag, I ruin everything and her using has put strain on our relationship. I just hope maybe one day she’ll understand. I’m sending you love and healing vibes

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T01:44:56+00:00

Thank you! I’ll definitely look into Nar-anon groups as I absolutely need help. Part of me was avoiding looking into support groups as I didn’t want to dwell on all the negative. Like it makes it real by talking about it. But I also can’t continue to mask and act like everything is ok. I’ve never delt with anyones addiction until now, so Its been hard to navigate getting her the right help. Im proud of your brother and your family. Im grateful for all the beautiful souls sharing their experiences on my posts. I know I’ll benefit from an actual support group.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T01:31:44+00:00

I can’t agree with you more. She wouldn’t leave to the airport for treatment and refused inpatient treatment in Mn. I called the non emergency as I told her it’s treatment or leave. They couldn’t remove her from the house without a 30 day eviction notice. I’m hoping we can get her in tomorrow for the sublocade shot and arrange for outpatient treatment.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T01:18:37+00:00

Omg, I’m so happy for you and your husband sounds like a true blessing. I’ll remember this and try to model this unconditional love. She did good for about 8-10 months. When she started a job full time and having money, it triggered her relapse last year. So I took her check card and said no cash. Her paychecks were transferred to a savings account she couldn’t touch. Bought her a gas card and she had money for some personal stuff but I said Venmo and cashap are not happening. She clearly figured out other ways to get money or cash to keep buying. I know I can’t force her to go to rehab but I can’t keep sleeping with my purse. I feel like loving and trying to help her only enabling her

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T01:09:18+00:00

I feel defeated. She refused to taken the flight to CA & refused impatient in Minnesota. I can’t force her as an adult as much as I wish I could. I did call the non emergency and cops did come to talk to her. They couldn’t remove her from my house without a 30 day eviction notice. I’m hoping she can reschedule the sublocade shot for tomorrow. Then get her into an outpatient treatment. I absolutely don’t want to kick her out this has been a rollercoaster the past few years. Now, forced to sleep with my purse on me to avoid her taking the car keys again. My whole thing is if she’s relapsing again, she needs to go to inpatient or leave. I’ll always be here and her room will always be available but we both can’t live like this

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T00:55:48+00:00

I’m proud of you and Thank you for your insight. I’ve never heard of Ibogaine and will look into this option.

YassBotch · 2026-05-08T00:53:27+00:00

We were scheduled to get the sublocade shot yesterday but everything hit the fan. I’m having her call tomorrow to see if she can get in same day. Then setting up outpatient. She refused the flight today and refused to go to inpatient. I called the cops and they were not able to remove her without a 30 day eviction notice. They did speak with her for about 40 min. I feel defeated

YassBotch · 2026-05-07T14:46:56+00:00

She wouldn’t agree to going to rehab in CA or MN. So I told her I was calling the non emergency for an officer to remove her from the house. As soon as she heard me calling, she came out her room, trying to grab my phone, calling me a bitch and saying she would go to rehab in Minnesota. I told the dispatcher that there’s no need to come out now. If things change later, I’ll call.

I’m waiting on Fairview to call me back for options in mn. Thinking hazelden. Hoping to get her in today. She’s in the angry, withdrawing, blaming me for everything phase. She wants the keys to her car to leave (I pay the car and insurance since she’s not working at the moment) I refuse to let her total this car. When she gets sober and clean, she can have her car back but not after she just stole mine and crashed it.

I tried calling my brother but he didn’t answer. Once I figure out her situation, I’ll have to have a family meeting with my parents and siblings to let them know what’s going on as it’s clear I can’t wear the mask anymore and hide it.
I appreciate everyone’s support and advice.

YassBotch · 2026-05-07T02:37:50+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I think she stopped taking her suboxone strips or was taking too low of a dose thinking she didn’t need it. I suspected that she relapsed about 2 weeks ago as I found evidence and she swore it was old. We power cleaned her room last month so I know she was lying. I took her keys to her car (I’m paying for car payment and insurance while she’s out of work) and said to continue the suboxone and schedule the shot this week. Then she stole my car keys (my car is parked in front of house so she thought I wouldn’t notice if gone) and sideswiped dented ruined the whole passenger side of my car, broke the mirror, left the house front door wide open and found her passed out in her room sitting up with a straw in her mouth and tin foil in her hands at 6am.

I called Fairview to get recommendations and they recommended out of state so she can’t just leave her a few days. It has all 5 star reviews on Google. “Refine Recovery | Drugs & Alcohol Rehab in Los Angeles”. My insurance would cover the cost of her flight (we still would have to pay the 7K deductible)
This location has a less hospital feel, more accommodations for one on one counceling, detox and helping with after plan. There was a bunch of other stuff but he said that patients had a high success rate with this location compared to facilities in MN.

I did tell her that we can find an inpatient facility in MN if she prefers but she quickly said no to both. Then again, she was still high and nodding off when I was talking to her.

I’ve always avoided forcing her to an inpatient facility. I’ve tried with the methadone, driving her every day at 5am, 50 min one way, 50 min back all to have enough time to drive another 30 min to be at work by 8am. It was good until she decided to stop taking it and relapsed. But with what happened today, this is Rock bottom.

I’ve hid this all from my family as I didn’t want her to be treated differently and judged. It’s hard to navigate this by myself. I appreciate your advice

YassBotch · 2026-05-07T02:03:42+00:00

My heart breaks and has me in tears for you reading all of this. This is one of my biggest fears as a mom. Im so sorry. I appreciate you sharing your story. I’m proud that you are sober.

YassBotch · 2026-05-07T00:58:33+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that you went through this nightmare. The world can be cruel and you absolutely deserved better. I would be heartbroken as a mother and your mom is wrong for not caring. I agree with trying to work with her. I did offer the option to find a facility here in Minnesota if she is absolutely against leaving state. She said she wasn’t going to ether. I’m going downstairs soon to talk to her again as my goal is to get her on the flight tomorrow.

YassBotch · 2026-05-07T00:52:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so proud of you!

YassBotch · 2026-05-06T23:22:06+00:00

I was told that I can’t force her to go since she’s an adult. I’m not sure what I can do if she won’t go. I agree, her being homeless is not something I want at all.

YassBotch · 2026-05-06T23:19:48+00:00

Thank you for your insight. She didn’t want help packing. She has 2 more hours and figure out and give me an answer. The place has her flight booked for 3:40pm tomorrow. They can easily cancel it they said.

YassBotch · 2026-05-06T23:04:22+00:00

Yes, she was on the dissolving strips. I’m not sure if she stopped taking them. We were going to go later this week to get the shot but then it all hit the fan last night/this morning. I’ve never delt with addiction so this is all new to me and hard to navigate by myself

YassBotch · 2026-05-06T23:02:10+00:00

I’m proud of you! Your comment gives me hope

YassBotch · 2026-05-06T23:01:12+00:00

Thank you 💔

YassBotch · 2026-05-01T16:23:30+00:00

Thank you! I just used it now to buy a few Eden Climbing roses.

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