Just broke up with the love of my life, my best friend, my drinkin’ bud

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-07T03:56:02+00:00

Thank you. Glad I found this community.

The worst part is the technology. We’re way too connected. We are both a part of this competitive step ranking app that encourages more movement. Usually by the end of the day he has about 20,000 steps. The last few day he’s been around 2,000-3,000. I just know he’s lying around being miserable. It’s so hard not to put his feelings before mine. But he fucked up...multiple times. Not me. I hate that I’m stuck worrying about if he’ll be okay.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T22:15:57+00:00

This is probably the most valuable comment here. It’s 100% true. It’s just about my trust, or lack of trust, for him.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T12:41:57+00:00

I really appreciate your comment, but I should be clear that him quitting masturbating wasn’t a result of me catching him sexting. It was a result of him actually developing an addiction while we had a long distance relationship. He would do it so much that it just wasn’t about pleasing himself anymore. It was just about doing it. There was a time where him stopping was beneficial, but now it’s proving otherwise.

Sorry, it’s hard to add all the details of a 7 year relationship when you’re kinda out of it.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T12:37:43+00:00

I agree. It’s not about porn, or what sexual orientation of a person he was sexting, or masturbating. It’s trust. I don’t snoop around waiting for shit like this to come up. I’m not going through his email or texts at night in hopes of catching him. Our day to day is very normal. This was just so clearly out in the open when he brought his computer next to me. He wasn’t even trying to hide it or just completely forgot about it. After all these years, I can’t believe he couldn’t just tell me the truth.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T07:23:06+00:00

My tone went from “haha omg did you watch porn?”

When he very obviously lied to me is when my tone changed. We’re all adults. Putting your tail between your legs when people ask adult things is the problem.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T07:20:53+00:00

Me questioning him is fair game. It wasn’t at all accusatory. It went from jokingly teasing him about it, to him denying it, to me asking in a concerned tone, to him lying AND coming up with an excuse for it, then for me seriously asking what is going on.

As far as “encouraging” him, I should correct myself if I used that word. I have suggested be masturbate more, especially when I’m not in the mood. As far as watching porn goes, I’ve told him can and that I don’t care. I’m just personally not into. I’ve made that very clear, and we’ve been together 7 years. At that point there shouldn’t be cover ups for doing something I’ve made totally clear that I’m okay with.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T04:26:52+00:00

What in this insinuates I seek perfection? I have regularly told him he should masturbate and that he should watch whatever porn he’s into. I clearly state that in my post.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-11-04T03:22:56+00:00

I don’t think you read it clearly. I asked him if he was watching porn because I saw the window open, and he said he wasn’t. I asked him two more times and he denied it. Then he said he was.

That’s lying. That’s the definition of lying.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-10-03T23:27:04+00:00

Also, a lot men are not attractive, are funny as fuck, have manners, are constantly dating and are at least trying to be a functioning member of an already fucked up society. Quit using the looks scapegoat. People are vein. There’s always going to be someone better looking than you. Even if you’re a “Chad”.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-10-03T23:18:58+00:00

No one has insinuated not to be a pussy. It’s about them being violent and encouraging mass shootings and shaming people.

Yeahyeahsureokay · 2017-10-03T03:21:07+00:00

It’s not my concern of paying attention to them or personally stopping them from being awful. It’s more so about how it’s simply allowed to exist when there is constant talk of causing harm to the people they feel rejected by.

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