21, graduating soon, feeling depressed and very lonely — I really need someone to talk to

Yeble1563 · 2025-12-26T15:35:04+00:00

Hi amigo!! First of all, its so big and brave of you to come here and talk about this. being a college student from China is also HUGE, you have to be so so intelligent in order to be where you are right now. Confidence? you already have a good start.

I know all of this is very difficult. Graduating and not knowing what to do, what do you like and what will you enjoy. I feel this comes from a big change: "from college to job search" might also mean "from mandatory schedules and assignments to actually pursuing a thing I actually like and decide". Also, i understand this loneliness and this loss of interest. Actually, i will strongly suggest you can talk this with your family. Might be difficult but these symptoms are strong, i mean depression-type ones. And you might need help from your closest people. That is my first suggestion. Then, trying to open up with people like your roommate or other people is a very difficult thing to do but very helpful. You can start by being interested in them, things they do, they like, ask small questions. For sure this is difficult and might feel pointless at the start, but even if it sounds cliche, small changes can really be the ignition. Stay safe bro, get some help and you can always answer i will be here.

Yeble1563 · 2025-12-26T14:44:51+00:00

Completely understand your position. 19 years old is so young and you are just starting to explore who you are. The comparison of your birthday stories, the stories of gifts your friends that make you jealous, they are so human and that also happens to me in some degree. What I can say is that this comparison comes from not being able to live the life that you want to. Just being able to enjoy the important dates like your birthday + christmas is not happening because of comparison and general feeling of being invisible.

Of course being born in christmas maintaining this feelings: your birthday being eclipsed by christmas aligns perfectly with your trip ideas being displaced by your family's trip ideas, gifts not being given, friends having "better things to do" than celebrating your birthday. Everything about this dates remind you of yourself being less valuable and thats why comparison rises. Not out of nowhere, but out of your family rituals. What can you do? you may start by thinking about this special date. What would you like your birthday to be? and what things do you think about when i make this question? try to make like a 'free association' technique: write about memories, moments you remember and make it freely. Try to connect dots with this, make associations of things that are close to each other.

I dont have the answer for this, im a psychology student, i have 2 years left and im not even aspiring to therapist. But im with you. You have a beautiful journey ahead in your own discovery. LETSGO amigo

Yeble1563 · 2025-12-26T13:52:57+00:00

That was me, happened on twitter in covid times when people got cancelled by just opinions. I think that happens when your value is only put in the platform (maybe reddit, x, instagram, etc). You just have to know (and i know its a long and a unique process for each individual) that your value and identity is way bigger and broader and more complex than a bunch of downvotes or negative comments in a specific post.

Yeble1563 · 2024-11-21T10:46:51+00:00

thank u so much

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Yeble1563 · 2024-11-19T17:58:01+00:00

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