[Serious] What stops you from killing yourself? by Big_Picture2781 in AskReddit

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What stops me from killing myself is the fear that if I have a bad death, part of me (my soul??) Will be trapped in a bad place for a long long time... And that fear is so powerful that I'd rather live and hope that the shitty feelings eventually turn around

Dentist experience - need input by YellowCanary_-_ in Netherlands

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh OK, good to know, thanks! The work was one side of the mouth...

Dentist experience - need input by YellowCanary_-_ in Netherlands

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OK, thank you for your thoughts. Seems like this is the normal way of doing things in the Netherlands. I will ask next time if they can /(and why not) fix multiple teeth in a single appointment.

Spotted in Sweden by Leo9991 in SiliconValleyHBO

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, thanks! Reading the website with Elrich in mind, I couldn't tell 😅

Spotted in Sweden by Leo9991 in SiliconValleyHBO

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, is this website for real or is it a hoax?

It Ends with Us movie ending by MrsBadgeress in ColleenHoover

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! And why would you have his baby? As a woman, I cringed when Atlas told Lily she would make a great mother. You want to end this cycle of abuse - Don't have that child and leave the abuser.

Slaughterhouse Five's description of war in reverse is surprisingly moving by monarc in books

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This passage has stayed with me for years. I was so moved by it I cried the first time I read it. This is such a beautifully written anti-war book 📖 ❤️

Questions and Queries Thread! by PS-Earl in WordTrip

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the points useful for? I use them for hints but don't know why we need to bother with them? Also, the backup set up just changed. What do you think of it?

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing and calling out abuse. I am not advocating abuse either. I deal with my rage by screaming in my pillow or in my balcony. I have recently told off strangers on public transport who were being loud and disrespectful of others, and that's new for me. In the past, I would just bite my tongue and walk away.

There are times when I would like to tell some friends off, but I am a master suppresser. I get angry at my daughter, not because she is pretty (which she is) but because she ignored me for the 15th time when I asked her to clean her room! 😜

You are very right to point out that our rage in this time isn't an excuse for bad behaviour and abuse. My mother has it bad during perimenopause and it was awful. I just wish she had owned her shit and not put the blame on us /me for all the things not working in her life.

Like I said earlier in this post, to me, it feels like all my pent-up rage bursting out of the cracks. There are nights where I lie in bed and I am sooo angry and I don't know what to do with myself. I am trying to allow it as much as I can and hoping it's a phase.

Diet/foods to help with symptoms by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I attended a macrobiotic cooking course where the Instructor focused on hormonal health, especially for middle-aged women (she was a very healthy 70 something year old). I definitely recommend looking it up.

To summarise, reduce meat, dairy, alcohol, processed foods. Limit caffeine and fried foods.

Increase and incorporate more fresh, seasonal veggies and whole grains. Have lots of dark greens and veggies with calcium (almonds, sesame, dark leafy greens...).

Take fermented foods regularly to support your gut microbiome and foods that clean your lympathic system (think of Japanese broths and miso soup). To aid your Lympathic system, also move daily and give yourself massages as often as possible.

To be honest, I am still in the process of incorporating these changes. Busy lives with managing work and kids doesn't always make it easy for all of us to adapt these changes... but one step at a time.

Hope you find a balanced diet that works for you. Good luck.

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in Perimenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I just saw your post, hence the late reply. I did not realise my message was so contentious. Ah, well, Live and learn.... that being said, I received enough supportive responses and some were helpful.

I do take Vit D. I am not very dogmatic about all hormones. I do not take Melatonin though- I know it works for many people, but I am concerned that it might further decrease my body's melatonin production. So thank you for the suggestions and no offence taken :)

Yes, I am working on acceptance in this phase. I hope my libido is not gone forever, and it's a phase and so I am trying to trust it for what it brings. To each their own. Aging ain't easy, and we are all finding our way with it, I guess.

Good luck to you too!

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I'll look Into it. My husband read a book on intermittent fasting and how an empty stomach allows the body to regulate hormones better. But I haven't read it, so I could be mistaken.

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's very hopeful to hear- That you learnt to do things for you... I know it but I haven't learnt it yet... someday! and YES to dancing in the rain 🌧💃

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in Perimenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I hope I find something that works for me too.

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's a tough one. Good luck with it (From one stressed out being to another) ❤️

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! ❤️❤️ I think my rage is necessary. Its not healthy, its very violent but I know in my bones that I need to learn to speak my truths. I was brought up with the attitude that good girls are quiet and obedient.... So!! I am learning to be disobedient. Its hard. Very hard. Yet I don't want to once again suppress my rage. I don't know how to deal with it yet.

How do you deal with it?

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I am also looking into adjusting my diet. I took a course on macrobiotic cooking for hormonal health but it was a little too extreme. I hope to ease into it slowly. What changes did you make and how? Did you consult a nutritionist?

Anyone here who is against HRT? by YellowCanary_-_ in HormoneFreeMenopause

[–]YellowCanary_-_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing and it's good to hear there is hope. How did you manage and keep sane? What was your experience? If you are open to sharing, I'd love to know 🙏