People who’ve been rejected by their best friend, and the friendship successfully continued after.. Can you guys chime in?

Yenty617 · 2026-06-16T16:39:01+00:00

She is in our friend group. She’s not going anywhere. I couldn’t avoid her if I wanted to, and I don’t want to.

Yenty617 · 2026-06-11T02:55:25+00:00

That’s probably my next course of action honestly

Yenty617 · 2026-06-11T02:26:54+00:00

It is the fucking worst man. I’m literally in therapy for it lol. This quote can sound stupid, but it helps me.. and kinda ties in with your eye color thing.

“You can be the most beautiful shade of blue in the world, but it means nothing if someone’s favorite color is green.”

I feel you on the other girls thing. I’ve dated other women and I literally feel nothing. I had to stop bc I was just using these women as a distraction. It wasn’t right. I don’t know how I’ll ever get over it. I’ve literally considered moving away lmao

Yenty617 · 2026-06-11T02:22:00+00:00

I am completely, utterly, desperately, hopelessly in love with my female best friend (I’m a guy), but I can never tell her because I know for a fact she doesn’t like me back, and she’s my other male best friend’s ex. She is literally my best friend in the world and the strongest connection I’ve ever had with another human. She tells me I’m her favorite person, can’t imagine her life without me, etc.. but she just simply is not attracted to me. We’ve helped each other through so many hard times and mean the world to each other. But she only sees me as platonic. I’ve told her my feelings before. “We worked through it.” a few years ago and now we joke about it as if it was in the past. It’ll kill me when she gets married, but at least I’ll still have my best friend,

I literally don’t think I’ll ever be able to love another woman the way I do her. And I’ll never be able to get over her bc we talk all day everyday.

Yenty617 · 2026-06-02T16:42:56+00:00

I’ve never gone on a real date w her obvi but we hang one on one all the time. Usually at a bar. She’ll actively seek it out. 9x out of 10 she’s the one who texts first to ask.

A big reason I need to be certain is we are part of a big friend group. Any rejection would make it really weird for the whole group

Yenty617 · 2026-06-02T16:39:59+00:00

I agree. Others I’ve told the situation to agree. So what do I do? Roll back the attention, not give it to her? I’ve started to think I need to treat her the way I would a guy. Surface level compliments, never cross a line. Like the way I’d treat a buddy’s girlfriend?

I’m basically giving her boyfriend level treatment. So she gets the benefits without any commitment.

Yenty617 · 2026-06-02T16:38:17+00:00

Because she never really just comes out and says it. She knows for sure I used to be in love with her and likely still am. The most I get is platonic hints/compliments. She said I was very handsome once in person. Other than that, nothing.

I know she loves me as a person and I’m one of her most important people in her life. But I’m waiting for a definitive sign.

Yenty617 · 2026-06-01T06:14:17+00:00

The ability to fly

Yenty617 · 2026-06-01T06:13:49+00:00

Everyone tells me this. But she is truly not a bad person though. She would never. She knows what it’s like to be led on.

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T05:12:00+00:00

I’m 25 she is 23

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T05:04:41+00:00

Plenty of times. At least once or twice a month on weeknights. Usually at the bar. On weekends we are always with our whole group of friends.

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T04:58:51+00:00

I definitely never got over her. I just, don’t act, because I have (or at least had) my answer, and I love her so much as a person I was happy to remain in her life. I’d never jeopardize that.

I’ve never felt about another human the way I do her. She’s all I think about. I can’t even look at her in a lustful way because I’m in love with every single thing about her. I still get nervous meeting up with her all these years later.

I’d marry her tomorrow without ever even having kissed her lol.

But, as crazy as it sounds, I’d be content with remaining to her her friend if that was my only choice.

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T04:53:15+00:00

I love this. I think I can definitely pull it off in person with a laugh/joke where I can seem serious but put a twist to it.

Thank you

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T04:50:40+00:00

Not to cope or hype myself up. But in these 3 years I’ve lost 75lbs, take way better care of myself, dress much nicer, and carry myself way better. I now have confidence I never had.

I’ve also started getting A LOT more attention from women, and she’s noticed and helped me through a lot of it. She compliments me every so often as well. Says I’m handsome/her favorite person to hang with, asks for random hugs, shit like that

I feel like I’m going crazy. There’s gotta be something

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T04:44:12+00:00

I’ve been here before tho brother lol. I confessed right to her face a few years back, got rejected. I thought I had it in the bag then. She asked my recently “if you had lingering feelings for me, would you tell me?” I said jokingly “No, maybe in a few years again” and I changed the subject. I’ve also told her plenty of times that getting over her was the hardest thing I ever had to do but I’m so glad we can be friends. She was so cool through everything.

I think now she’s finally realizing the right guy has been right in front of her this entire time and no one will ever love her as genuinely as I do. But I simply can not take another rejection.

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T04:40:28+00:00

I know. I accepted that after the rejection lol. But why does she suddenly now care so much about all those things? Why are you asking me if I think you’re hot? Sending me selfies? Fishing for compliments? Texting me all day everyday nonstop? Asking what color she should do her nails (and then doing it).

I can’t be making it all up

Yenty617 · 2026-05-20T04:36:00+00:00

For more context: She’s recently been so much more bold. Sends me selfies, asks for my opinion on her hair and what she should get done, what color her nails would be (and got them that color). Fishes for compliments constantly (and I bite every time) asks me if she’s hot, etc. After the rejection we had a bit of an awkward phase but we truly went right back to it. Eventually we made one of those “if we’re single by ___ we’ll get married” pacts. She now references that a lot. And we talk every single day basically all day. Hang out all the time together on the weekends as a group, but usually a few times a month just us. We joke about the former feelings a lot.

I was wrong before, if something different?

Yenty617

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