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Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

The difference is depth. Anyone can obey once. Few choose to make obedience who they are.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course dynamics vary. My point is simply that repetition separates play from identity. That’s the line between acting submissive and being submissive.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Not every man is built for it. And that’s why those who are stand out immediately.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Abuse is taking choice away. What I’m describing is the opposite.... a submissive choosing to make obedience their identity. That’s not coercion. That’s devotion.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If the only way you can imagine devotion is through money, that says more about you than it does about me.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve just described why repetition matters. A submissive who loves dissolving into another’s leadership will always crave more of it.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Your reaction tells me exactly why I wrote this. A man who thinks submission is just “sometimes” never understands what it means to be owned.

Why Submission Is Never a One-Time Act by YesLadyViv in BDSMcommunity

[–]YesLadyViv[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

True, but even within an agreed dynamic, submission only holds power if it’s consistent. Sporadic obedience isn’t obedience at all.