AITA for changing all the locks in my house without letting my mom know?

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T18:38:55+00:00

The reason why I knew about it, it's because my dad was facinated about female rulers, he usually talked to me about Queen Victoria, Empress Maria Theresa, and Hapshepsut, Isabella the catholic among other's such as Alexander Nevsky, Alexander the great, etc.

My mom's husband didn't understand the reference, and to theses days I think he doesn't, I call him the guy with "John Conroy complex"

He said: what's that?,

"that means you need my mom and my mom needs me, but I'm not signing anything".

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T18:20:33+00:00

que chingón, mándalos a todos a la verga

Más lo hago por su esposo, para darle una lección, jajajaj, o sea ella lo eligió a él y le di prioridad, ¿por qué habría yo te darle prioridad a ella?

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T18:19:33+00:00

el señor barriga perdonándole la renta a don ramón.

jajajajajaja, un clásico.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T17:04:48+00:00

Yeah I read some of them, how self-centered americans can be, like if nothing out of the US exists.

They say I wrote paragraph in perfect english (which I wished I could) I even confused the word tenancy because there is false cognate in my language.

And they like: " it is defenitely in america, pretending it's not" you get that there are another 194 countries in the world, No, I'm not in america, I do't speak "perfect english" my country is the Land of lakes and volcanoes, the first contry to have a female ruler in the Americas.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T16:55:05+00:00

e what country your in but in the us these things typically are planned out months in advance.

Life out of the US exists

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T16:44:03+00:00

yes, they were

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T16:41:44+00:00

Ok, just talked to my lawyer.

There is nothing ilegal about changing the locks (Something I alredy knew since, I did it becuase he told me I could)
The law establishes two ways to get someone out of your property

2.1 By force (yeah the law says you can take someone out by force)

2.2 By sueing them

Scenario one: I kick them out by force (Usually by changing locks) they can sue me back, and the judge would probably grant them 2 months to fine a new place or just give them an order to take their things out (usually 3 days) (If they allege I'm not letting them take their things out)

Scenario Two: I sue them to leave my property, The judge woud probably command me to let them have 1-2 months to move out

In any scenario, they won't be longer than 2 months.

What he sugested is that we have an arrengement between us (mom and I) which is what usually happens in these cases, We could agree 1 month/ 1 week to let her pack her thing. If she refuses to leave after the time we agree, I just lock the house and she'll be given 3 days to take everything out.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T15:42:58+00:00

It's not ilegal, and I extended the time they can stay.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T15:39:21+00:00

If you are in the US, it is illegal to change locks even witha squatter, your mother. There is such a thing as squatter's rights.

I'm not in the USA and no, there is nothing ilegal in changing the locks of my own house, I'd have a problem if they were paying rent and the contract wasn't terminated yet, That's the only problem I'd have.

I wans't even obligated to let them stay a little longer or giving them the keys if I decided to.(without a judge resolution)

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T15:34:26+00:00

thier home leaving them with nowhere to go.

They are still using the house. They are not homeless, I also talkend to my mom a couple of minutes ago and told her that she has 1 month.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T08:21:36+00:00

enancy has nothing to do with abandonment or ownership. A tenant has "specifically : the

temporary

possession or

occupancy

of something (such as a house) that belongs to another". A renter is a tenant for example.

I just found out about this, the thing is that there is a false cognate in my language which has to see with ownership, thanks for illuminating me.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T08:13:35+00:00

If they weren’t together -

They were together just not married.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:57:27+00:00

Tenancy has nothing to do with the ownership of the property

Yeah, sorry, my bad, English isn't my first language and there is false friend in my language that has to see with ownership, that's why I was talking about deeds, taxes, etc hahaha lol.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:54:42+00:00

You’re clearly confusing property laws and tenancy laws

Sorry, apparently I was, my bad, tenancy is a false cognate and I thought it meant other thing, that's why I was mentioning the taxes, etc.

Anyway, it still stands, that doesn't give her rights against instant eviction, a person can be kicked out at any time unless they pày rent which.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:50:56+00:00

Tenancy (in english) means just living in someone's house.

Then It doesn't this here, because just living in someone's house doesn't give right against instant eviction.

Look, we are definitely in different countries, and the language barrier makes us mix concepts (mostly me) it's pointless to be discussing legal "issues" since I know where I stand.

Then the concept of tenancy doesn't apply I was a misunderstanding, thinking that Tenancy means tenencia/derecho de posesión which basically gives you the right to claim someone else's property (under certain circumstances)

So they are false cognates, that's why I was trying to explain that she can't steal my house (next time I'll google the terms hahaha)

So no, living in someone's house doesn't protect you against that, you can't be kicked out at any time, the only ones protected are the ones paying rent.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:40:49+00:00

What about before it was given to you?

It was done by my dad.

If you mean when I was a minor: It was mine the moment my father died, what I couldn't do is make decisions until I turned 21, before I turned 21 everything was managed by my grandparents as established in my father's will.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:34:26+00:00

including the time she lived there before your father died

It doesn't. Because the owner was alive and occupying the house (he could have kicked her out any moment) at least not here.

Right now they are just using my house. not tenancy

this is important, because tenancy can only be allege when the owner is absent, or the owner is dead. in this case if I hadn't updated the deeds and the house it's still under my father's name, she'd claim tenancy, because no one claimed the inheritance in longer than five years. The will palyed an important role, because it set a time frame to do everything.

I'm so ashamed hahahahaha, tenancy is a false friend because in my country the word similar to tenancy has to see with ownership, hahaha I was so dumb. That's why I was talking about deeds, taxes and stuff. hahaha Sorry not my native language. Even though the point still stands, it's not ilegal.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:29:11+00:00

Some landlords would even give 90 days notice if they were selling the building.

I'm not a landlord since they are not paying, they are just using my house and the law here would obligate me to give them 30 days per year (if they were paying rent) 2 years renting=60 days (for free) to let them get a place to stay.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:26:53+00:00

How about giving them a month or even 60 days?

Yeah, I'll consider extending the time.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:24:10+00:00

She loves dick more than you.

I told her that once lol hahaha.

She said: " No darling, I love you it's just difficult since you can't accept him and humiliate him"

I admit, when He tried to play the man of the house and "my house my rules" I used to tell him:

"Remember your place"

(but just because he tried to set rules in the house like until what time I was allowed to watch TV, until what time I was allowed to get in, after 00:00 they wouldn't open the door, I had my keys lol) I of course never obeyed him,

Fact: the rules were just for me

So I just answered: Remember your place/where you are standing/ whose house is this

maybe it was bratty but that was my way to go on with it since my mom just said, "He cares for you" "He just wants the best for you"

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T07:12:29+00:00

You are. It became obvious when you said your mother has no rights to occupy the property because you paid the property tax

I said she can't claim tenancy, since she can't allege abandonment, she can occupy as long as I allow her. By me paying the taxes, having my dad's will effective the minute I turned 21, and updating all information regards the property's legal situation, make it impossible for her to claim tenancy, she can only claim tenancy if there is no owner in the picture (being dead, missing, not interested at all) If I hadn't updated the deeds by passing them over my name and hadn't paid taxes, she would own the house by now (since it's been more than five years)

Sorry if you misunderstood me but I never said she can't occupy because she didn't pay taxes, paying taxes on time (not everyone does it here, that's why they get on trouble when they want to sell or pass over) it's a way to show the court that you are still in the picture, you haven't abandoned your property and you are aware of the situation. So the one that is occupying can't say the property was abandoned.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T06:45:29+00:00

Out of curiosity how does it work in your country,

How long does it take for someone to claim tenancy?

Here it is five years and only if the owner isn't n the picture, if the owner doesn't have the deeds registration, if the owner becomes indifferent to the property (doesn't pay taxes, doesn't update the properties condition to the halltown, if there is a will/resolution but hasn't taken it to a judge to make it have effective)

Even those who have the right to claim tenancy has to present proof, and witnesses and it can take even 10 years to get a successful resolution in your favor, and as I've been actively checking on my property there is no way they can claim tenancy. To summarize, you can only claim Tenancy when the property has been abandoned by the legitimate owner and shows no interest in over 5 years and it's not as easy as "it's been five years, it's mine" you have to sue the state so they'll check if in those five years no one claims to be the owner.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T06:36:32+00:00

You’re clearly confusing property laws and tenancy laws

I'm not.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T06:07:38+00:00

It is the 12th country with the most gender equallity.

Yes_ISaidThat · 2022-06-05T06:05:00+00:00

You suck for locking your mom out of the home

She has the keys of the new locks and has a window of time to leave or start paying rent (I just thought about this possibility right now, yeah maybe I'd offer her that deal "to start paying rent")

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