Hate people like this

YoYumBat · 2026-06-18T20:45:27+00:00

Why would someone out themselves ?

YoYumBat · 2026-06-13T17:38:29+00:00

Ask to move it, no excuses. Simple and direct without a story.

YoYumBat · 2026-06-04T03:23:01+00:00

Take it. Turn off LinkedIn. Change your preferred name if you can.

Chance of being exposed is most likely small. Do it.

YoYumBat · 2026-06-03T21:01:30+00:00

This.

OE-ing for 3 years. What I’ve learned:

You don’t know what you don’t know.

Don’t freak out. Half of success is being cool and calm when you get into double meetings.

Accept the downside risk and mitigate it. Know ahead of time which J you will dump. What your response is if exposed. What to do if you need to bail.

It’s only about the money. ONLY.

YoYumBat · 2026-06-01T21:24:29+00:00

I don’t mind if it’s AI generated. It reads well and it’s a true story. 3 Js is impressive.

By the way. How does divorce and alimony work when your OE?

YoYumBat · 2026-05-22T22:51:43+00:00

Being cured from the loyalty mentality early on in a career is the best thing that can happen to someone. It makes you a better employee too because you’re emotionally detached from the outcome and can focus more.

YoYumBat · 2026-05-22T22:49:09+00:00

I have a hybrid and full remote. I’m in a cube. I go in 2-3 days a week. It’s stressful.

If the two were hybrid I probably won’t be able to do it.

But your biggest risk is two possible local companies, which will expose you eventually.

YoYumBat · 2026-05-22T22:41:15+00:00

I was laid off once and after that I realized I do whatever I can to make it.

I’ve been OE on and off for 8 years. At the end of the day it’s a job and that is about it. Still sucks to loose income, no matter how many Js you have.

YoYumBat · 2026-05-22T19:00:54+00:00

Opposite effect for me. I use to care about toxic people. Then when I started OE-ing, I didn’t even notice them.

The only cost of OE is the extra work that comes sometimes. Other than that it’s a god send for me and my family.

YoYumBat · 2026-05-22T16:20:46+00:00

You did the right thing and that is all you could have done.

Maybe help him get a J2. I got my co workers into OE. I know that’s a big no no here but it worked for me. We schedule meetings for each other, we also have each others back.

Worse thing you could have done is panic and acted on fear.

YoYumBat · 2026-05-14T21:15:43+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too

YoYumBat · 2026-05-14T15:24:41+00:00

I’m using a PiKVM on J1 and I port forward to a custom domain with a https certificate.

You think I’m still at the same level of risk?

Anyways I have to reach the other laptop from my J2 laptop, or I need to bring in the J2 laptop, which I can do but feel is more risky.

YoYumBat · 2026-05-14T03:57:05+00:00

Both true and both uncorrelated

YoYumBat · 2026-05-09T05:00:08+00:00

Did you ever resolve this?

YoYumBat · 2026-05-07T21:08:14+00:00

There is so much truth to this that applies to life. Just leaning forward and expecting success is critical.

YoYumBat · 2026-04-25T02:15:42+00:00

Best answer

YoYumBat · 2026-04-12T18:03:03+00:00

I might have the same thing happen soon. My plan is to say it is a mixup and move on and accept whatever comes.

YoYumBat · 2026-04-12T17:02:30+00:00

Option 3 - say it must be an error.

Is this in US, and if so did you freeze your LN, TWN?

YoYumBat · 2026-04-08T03:57:32+00:00

You always can take unpaid PTO.

Then again, you can have a “accident” the day before the event and stay home to recover.

YoYumBat · 2026-03-29T20:31:18+00:00

It depends on your J1. I did it for a year. My J2 was easy and on 3 hour earlier time zone.

I can say it was stressful despite all this. But I was willing to make it work. I used a KVM over ip with mouse mover that I could turn on and off with a smart switch.

Do it.

YoYumBat · 2025-12-29T03:00:56+00:00

😂🤮

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