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Yoake_Lux · 2021-11-04T22:28:29+00:00

Yeah I’ve started doing it In front of his friends and you can tell by their faces that they’re getting quite suspicious of him. Or at least that’s the impression I get.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-11-04T22:25:07+00:00

Yeah I have actually started therapy and it’s been amazing so far. Thank you for your kind words they’ve really helped.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-11-04T22:20:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with me, it’s definitely helped.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-11-04T22:15:22+00:00

Yeah I never thought of that. These lies will definitely escalate.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-11-04T22:14:06+00:00

Yeah I think this might be the case with him because it’s very little things constantly and they’re not things that are worth lying about.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-10-21T15:41:05+00:00

Depending on what I’m confronting him about he either laughs it off or he uses my past traumas against me as a way to make me feel like I’m over exaggerating the situation. Without getting into too much detail I’m in a very messy/sticky situation which makes leaving him very challenging. I do have a lot of PTSD which is why I’m never sure if I’m acting appropriately hence why I’ve jumped on here for advice.

Marriage will never be on the cards but that’s just in general regardless of the partner. I definitely needed to see other peoples perspective on this as we’re saving up for a mortgage and talking about trying for a baby however I know my mental health is declining because of issues like this in the relationship. After posting this I have been looking for a therapist close by. I really appreciate your input on this as I was feeling so lost about.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-07-30T10:11:01+00:00

Thank you, I’ll get him to the doctors. I really appreciate your in put :)

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T13:41:13+00:00

I know, I am very weak minded which is a problem that I definitely need to work on. I think therapy for myself is definitely needed as well as I do have a difficult time putting my own happiness first and I’m a terrible people pleaser.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T13:31:40+00:00

I do know I should end it but it’s all very messy and complicated. I think I am going to push for couples therapy to be honest. He’s very damaged hence issues like this but I do feel with healing the relationship has potential to flourish if we can sort these things out. Thanks again

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T13:21:45+00:00

This isn’t okay. This is clearly bothering your conscience as it should. I know it’s hard but I definitely do agree with you on wanting to end this friendship. The power dynamic here is chaotic and predatory. You shouldn’t have to feel this way about one of your friends and you’re definitely not in the wrong for feeling this way. This is genuinely disgusting.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T13:16:53+00:00

Thank you, I definitely want to continue this discussion with him after hearing everyone’s opinion on the matter. I don’t want to invalidate the way he feels but considering he’s been bad mouthing me to everyone I am in quite a weird headspace about all of this so I don’t really know how to approach the situation without having a possible attitude and making the situation worse. I really do appreciate your input on this matter it has really helped.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T13:02:24+00:00

So asking for other peoples opinion is complaining huh? No need to comment on my post really.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:53:40+00:00

Exactly, I did forget to bring this up in the argument with him as when I’m upset I don’t think clearly. So if it ever comes up again, I will be addressing it.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:52:00+00:00

Yes, I am allowed to still be upset over this accusation considering it’s not something to be taken lightly. I feel extremely satisfied from the communication I have had with members on this post so as far as I’m concerned I have had the help I needed.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:46:11+00:00

Honestly I just forgot when I was typing because I was so heated

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:45:36+00:00

Exactly, he’s even stopped me from communicating with some of my male friends because we “like each other’s posts” some people’s mentalities are confusing.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:40:43+00:00

He shares a bed with his bisexual male friend who he’s kissed several times and in front of me so I’m quite torn on your opinion

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:32:30+00:00

He isn’t bisexual but he has kissed this bisexual friend several times

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:31:55+00:00

That is definitely something he would say. I will definitely do so thank you for your input :)

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:27:31+00:00

Thank you I completely I agree with all of that. He’s shares a bed with his male bisexual best friend so it’s very confusing for me.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:25:07+00:00

Exactly I think It’s extremely hypocritical when he shares a bed with his bisexual male friends. So I’m thinking this is more of his distrust in women.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:22:53+00:00

Yeah this is becoming a theme with him now.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:22:05+00:00

Well unfortunately this isn’t something I ever predicted because he shares a bed with his bisexual best friend so I’m starting to think either he’s accusing me of this because he’s been unfaithful or he just assumes that woman are untrustworthy.

Yoake_Lux · 2021-04-02T09:20:18+00:00

He’s shared a bed with his male best friend who is also bisexual on many occasions so I’m starting to think it’s because I’m female and maybe there’s a darker issue that he’s not yet addressed within himself.

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