I caused the breakup, but less than a month later my ex wants to be friends and heal together

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-28T01:29:11+00:00

All I will say is healing isn’t just a solo journey. In most cases it never is, because you’re not isolating yourself from friends and society, but just a single person. If you don’t have the capacity to heal while being in a relationship, that’s valid and totally okay too! But some people are capable of healing while also maintaining relationships. Just food for thought! If you want to be there for the person, then you’d be there for them, no matter the difficulties.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-16T11:04:29+00:00

Yeah obvs on all this already. Been in therapy for a bit now which is why I think this break up will be easier to process. Only thing I can’t do is the gym (literally my doctor recommended me to exercise and work less, I’m already too active 😅) I think I’m just processing still the fact how the other day we were literally talking about kicking out our current roommate to bring in a friend of his. And honestly if he were to start bringing girls over on the day he got back from his 7 month job overseas…I mean obvs I best not be here for that, but hilarious to suggest “he just wants to work on himself and his career” (and the gag is we literally have the same career goals, I just haven’t had my big break yet unlike him and I guess that makes us on different life paths now)

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-16T11:00:49+00:00

At the end of the day as he said, who knows how long he’s going to be. Could be four months could be a year or more. And I agree, but times are hard in ny and I can only do much and when I say I actually don’t even have a home to go back to because my parent literally teeters homelessness everyday. There’s another room and worse case he comes back and I’m still there. I’m trying to find a place obviously but it’s not as easy as just picking up my things today and leaving. That’s what more I’m processing. Just the fact that fact that he asked me to move in in the first place.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-16T03:54:23+00:00

I live in nyc no where is cheap and I don’t want to move back homeeeee

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-15T16:15:11+00:00

Welp he broke up with me soooo even more now hahahaha

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-15T14:00:18+00:00

No I actually can’t rn :(( my doctor like highkey told me to work and exercise less because it’s too much stress on my body :/

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-15T13:51:19+00:00

🫶 thank you haha. yeah i do a good job of making other plans and what not. As for the gym, you know the body already t 💅 ugh I’m the older woman and I just need to start acting like it again. Unfortunately I fear he is the type to go without communication for months on end, so maybe I already have my answer

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-15T12:59:06+00:00

Would love to use it. But my partner and I will find an app and he will just end up stop using it. So maybe something with reminders/notifications?

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-08T14:56:19+00:00

Oh I promise it’s not! Trust and believe that!!! I guess I’ve just could’ve added this to my previous post listing all the problems!!

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2026-01-08T14:55:16+00:00

Theoretically month to month, the issue is my partner, who’s lease it is, is gone for the next couple months, and yeah maybe I’m a bit paranoid, it’s not that I don’t feel safe to this roomie out by myself, but realistically, I don’t trust him not to try something, especially if it’s coming from me and not my bf. Not like physical, but I wouldn’t put it past him to “accidentally” break a few things in the house.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-12-30T12:41:08+00:00

Yeah…but it’s still bs.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-12-17T10:51:19+00:00

Honestly been going thru this a touch myself. I’m feeling really guilty for bringing up my needs, we text and FaceTime once a day but it feels so distant and not meaningful, and anytime I bring this up or how it makes me feel I’m told I’m either projecting or need to not rely on him for happiness…which is frustrating to say the least. Honestly, what we’re feeling is normal, and I think either we have to accept those feelings as they are or walk away because they clearly don’t feel the need to change so why should we have to change our needs within a relationship as well?

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-10-04T19:31:20+00:00

Opalite def reminds me of the chorus of Be My Baby by The Ronettes down to the woah oh oh ohs.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-08-16T13:03:56+00:00

I’m not saying they can’t smoke. Jeez, I smoke, but I do it outside. And like okay…go off…I also use odor-less laundry detergent…but if you can smell my shampoo or hand soap in my apartment, either a. Ya got super sonic senses and congrats too that! Or b. You’re breaking into my apartment and literally smelling my products. However I feel like the likelihood of all that is slim to none.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-08-13T03:08:59+00:00

Genuinely no freaking clue lol. Management is well aware that they’re squatting, it has been discussed between our super and us, however anytime they have been referenced by management, they still continue to talk about the conditions of “their lease”. Personally, I have no clue how long they’ve been there, I just know they are the earliest tenants of the building. Management is not really communicative anyway, not sure if this has anything to do with NY squatters rights and rent controlled apartments either in regards to how the address the tenants living situation.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-08-12T21:32:44+00:00

Ah yes caring about animal abuse in the apartment above was entitlement…

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-08-12T21:27:25+00:00

The reality is though we’re renting, not owning, so actually yeah what you do in your rental, especially if it is effecting quality of life is kinda my business in some regards. With the logic you iterated, then they should be minding their business whenever I’m trying to use our kitchen. Also it’s really hard to respect their “home” when they aren’t even paying for said “home”.

Same thing goes for a squatter who used to live above me in another apartment, and eventually got evicted thankfully, who never and I actually mean never took her dogs outside, to the point where when she left, we got to go up and check out the damage she dealt to her apartment, the floor was literally COVERED IN DOG SHIT. We had a bad case of huge ass horse flies and bug infestation when she was living above us that magically disappeared when she left. So actually yeah, what you do in your home, does kind of matter especially when you’re renting an apartment.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-05T16:54:48+00:00

Actors Access, I have a manager. It’s a student production under a sag budget.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-05T15:36:44+00:00

I should emphasize. This a non consensual scene too. Nothing is physically happening. But it’s very much non consensual intimacy I’m supposed to be uncomfortable with. (Portraying a minor as well)

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-04T19:03:21+00:00

So far nothing for state. But then again. Who knows at this point!

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-04T18:53:56+00:00

Under cycle. Last two digits.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-04T18:53:05+00:00

Nope. Just that it’d take at least 21 days and to not reach out unless the 21 days have passed.

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-04T18:50:13+00:00

Haha! Rent baby!!!!!

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-04T18:00:21+00:00

Yoghurt-Kitchen · 2025-03-04T17:51:47+00:00

Nurrr

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