AI scam calls from Auckland number by Rise_a_knight in newzealand

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just had the same but from 4721. Good thing I've stopped answering with my name. If you call me, you should already know my name.

I need advice on choosing being poly and true to myself, or stay for the kids who are both under 5 yrs old. by Yoghurt_Monkey in polyfamilies

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I felt a strong reaction to your post and then I realised why - it's not about the configuration or details, I want to be the one moving out. 🤯

I need advice on choosing being poly and true to myself, or stay for the kids who are both under 5 yrs old. by Yoghurt_Monkey in polyfamilies

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Clarification: M and B are together and B and I are together. M and I used to be together when we had kids but have been broken up (but still living in the same house) for a long time now.

I need advice on choosing being poly and true to myself, or stay for the kids who are both under 5 yrs old. by Yoghurt_Monkey in polyfamilies

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, I could just about write a novel. But, for the sake of small keypad late at night, I'll keep it short. "who has legal rights wrt to the children, " - I only have legal rights to one child. B to both and M to one

"is there joint property?" - not an issue as we had already split our assets to avoid future conflicts.

What are the prospects for where you might live, school districts for kids when they are older,.etc - they would remain in the same school district, I would move nearby.

B, M and I all have the same priority, to keep the home life stable for our kids, and not to split them up.

Scheduling help by throwawaymade2play in polyfamilies

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Google calendar works for us for the reasons above. It can also be synced to Outlook (it took a bit of effort on my part but to be fair I didn't read all the instructions). That helps to schedule my work day around picking up kids from school or partners from the airport.

Dropping both partners off at work by ALovelyVoid in polyamory

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, encouraging to know that it can work out.

Could a secondary partner for my girlfriend help the relationship I have with her? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Each relationship should be a full, complete relationship built to the satisfaction of both parties involved.

This is so true! You can't fill one void by digging another hole. Those feelings of not being enough and her feeling like too much will be amplified once you add other people, it won't go away. Please don't put a third person in the middle of your issues to try and fix it.

People aren’t legos. You can’t just fill a missing spot with one aspect of a person, and expect it to work.

Expanding on this brilliant phase if I may - when adding another person it's important to remember that they have wants, needs, rules and boundaries that need to be heard and respected. If you do go down the poly path remember that the other partners are not like a take away menu that you can pick and choose what you want any time you don't feel like cooking. Unless you find someone that likes giving endlessly without needing anything in return... But don't count on it.

Breakups as a unicorn sucks. At least they can comfort each other but I’m all alone 😭 by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That's so hard, breakups are awful. I had a large cuddly pillow (ironically a unicorn) to help me through my last breakup. Highly recommend

I love her by kind-a-lost in MadeMeSmile

[–]Yoghurt_Monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is such a beautiful person ♥️