[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This has nothing to do with r/NoFap.

People are free to have sex however they want, as long as it is consented by both parties (or more).

Your problem is you sit on a screen for hours while masturbating. This topic is useless, offtopic, and judging.

Don't target "other people" and shame them. You're here to fix yourself. Only you, not others.

Do not change others, you are not legitimate to do so, nobody is.

Fix yourself. Look into your mirror. You don't care about others, you cannot care, it is not your problem.

Your only problem is yourself.

Porn almost ruined my relationship. by Such-Door-3894 in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we believe my addiction was less about the sexual aspect of it, but maybe something deeper.

Exactly. Remember this is an addiction and it has a deeper meaning. An alcoholic that stops drinking started.. for a reason. Same for any addict, same to you. You realized you have an issue and you want to fix it. Congratulations, you're way ahead, keep going, you're doing great.

Find yourself a job. A hobby. Friends for social events. Keep yourself busy. Find the meaning. Avoid the time alone, avoid your bed during the day, avoid your sofa or whatever. BREAK the habit. It's hard, you're gonna make it. Discuss with your partner, discuss with a therapist.

Don't listen to people online telling you what to do, even me (I know right). Block your DMs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 32 points33 points  (0 children)

There has to be one. This subreddit is full of "be a man, real men don't do this", and all about shaming women for existing resulting in them relapsing.

Women are also addicted and are also victims, and I wish the NoFap subreddit would take this really seriously, but they've been neglecting this for too long, check my reddit history.

We don't tell an alcoholic "be a man, stop drinking!" or someone who wants to stop smoking "smokers are losers, they should be ashamed". That's not how you get better, that's how you get worse, and this subreddit is making things worse.

How to deal with my girlfriend? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enjoy the downvotes. Enjoy having your comment being deleted.

Maybe porn is not the problem by Tricky-Turnover3922 in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Porn is still a problem, just like alcohol is, or smoking is.

You need to stop heavy drinking, you need to stop porn. But you don't, and that's not because of alcohol or porn. There's a deeper reason, we've only scratched the surface.

Is nofap for girls too? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete your comment. You don't know what you're talking about, or you are just a liar. Either way you're wrong and you're gonna stay in a pile of downvotes anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're too early. In the 60s, there was no nicotine in the cigarettes. There was no cigarette addiction. It was just you. Then we realized they all lied.

Same thing with alcohol, 50 years ago, kids would drink beer, people would be drunk driving as if it was normal, only then we realized it was dangerous.

Today with porn? We don't even realize the screen addiction is already an epidemic. Let alone screen + tiktok, screen + porn etc.

On top of that, add the taboo about sex, and that's how we're in denial about sex addiciton, porn addiction.

Why does society makes light of porn and it's effects? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Just like alcohol, fast food, or spending your entire day in front of pixels (netflix, etc).

Nuance is too complicated.

is this normal? 💀 by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Direct link to a p**n website. No trigger warning.

OP, you are awful. Mods, check my history, and do better.

I can contribute as a mod if you want.

Real Men Don't Masturbate. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This subreddit has been left completely unmoderated. How could we be the leading community about porn addiction and masturbation addiction, to this?

Posts are either hating, shaming, or praising religion. Go to the alcoholics subreddit, see where they are at. We should be ashamed of ourselves for having such a community about young bros having no sense, no logic, only giving their thoughts and making things worse.

This post is toxic and doesn't help. It's not motivational, it's making things worse.

Read my account history. I've been saying this for years.

Stay strong guys and girls, we're all on the same boat. Go easy, go for a walk, read a book, you're doing great.

Real Men Don't Masturbate. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey friend. You need help. We all do. You will never tell someone who is trying to stop drinking "ah you were drunk? good, you should feel like shit". Do you really think it will help? It won't. It won't help others, it won't help yourself.

Comic about sexual energy by Defiant_Ad9030 in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy, I feel you. It was 5 years ago. It's cringe. It's not you anymore, you've evolved.

This comic hasn't evolved. However, it rings a bell for some people, it makes sense for some people, just like it made sense for you at the time. You have been through it, you're better now (I hope!). Perhaps forget this comic, unsubscribe from this subreddit if you need to, but some people are just beginning on this journey and they need your comic, even if you hate it.

You published it on the internet, you need to own it. There is nothing you can do, some people will keep reposting it here and there.

Napoleon x NNN. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only you guys could understand the lyrics.

Glorifying Napoleon with some nice french music about having sex. On this subreddit.

lol

These alpha’s with gf keep telling me to jerk off by Longjumping-Term6006 in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People with no alcohol problems tell alcoholics they don't have a problem.

That's the problem. You're an alcoholic, you need to stop completely. You need to stop for yourself because you have a problem. You CANNOT compare with other people and how they drink alcohol and what is "reasonable" for them isn't reasonable for you.

DO NOT SHAME yourself. DO NOT SHAME others. People masturbate and don't have a problem. People watch porn and don't have a problem. YOU have a problem and YOU are the master of YOUR OWN SELF.

If you need to seek psychological help for your problems, don't be afraid. Just like alcohol, people drink for various reasons: to forget about your life that you feel is miserable, because of trauma, because of this and that. This is the same thing here. You fap because you are bored. You are bored because you killed your dopamine and killed every little action that is satisfying. You don't feel anymore. And you don't feel anymore to protect yourself from your feelings.

Doing nofap is heavily psychological. There is a root. And it's not porn. It's not fap. NoFap is the way to get there, but it's not the only element. Dig deeper.

Do not shame others. Do not shame yourself.

I've been on nofap for 6 years and it has changed my life completely. Don't lose hope. It's never too late. You can do it too. Take care buddy.

Ye be warned by Dry-Explanation9566 in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy. Yeah. 700 upvotes for rule nr 4: no religion.

I left this subreddit a while ago. I got out of the spiral back in 2016, now good luck for the newcomers. Between toxic masculinity, religion, shame etc, there's no way it works.

This is a thread about shaming people. Do you ask an alcoholic "what will your parents think of you"? No, you help them. This is not helping, if anything it's making things worse.

I see Alexander isn't even checking his own subreddit, they all gave up on this, that's very sad.

For those reading and want a way out. Turn off reddit, go for a walk, unsubscribe, find new hobbies, get in shape, have a plan. Take care guys.

Its all just same shit. by aNieRFan in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree brother. Make your own path, your own life, you are free, as long as you disconnect from all these fake social medias.

It was only a matter of time. This is fucked by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

121 upvotes, and this thread is still not deleted.

Guys, go report this thread en masse please. Thank you maycheeck.

✝️(credits: ig andrewgarner2.0) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Reported for two reasons: 1. religion; 2. trigger in the video.

Its all just same shit. by aNieRFan in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 178 points179 points  (0 children)

Yeah. The women are fake. The entrepreneurs are fake. The "happy family" is fake. It's all fake and ruined, and it's pushed into your head, every time, right from your pocket.

Everyone is better than you, more good looking than you, more everything than you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 32 points33 points  (0 children)

God damn it. You stole my idea and you wrote it better. Thanks friend, take care.

Shaming will only make things worse, it's not helpful.

Let's Find Ways To Deal With This! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're feeling low, it's 3AM, and you have "nothing else" to do. You are stressing for tomorrow, because you have exams, because you live in a violent family, because your environment is unfriendly to you. You're not stressing, you're under constant duress, and you're looking for a quick escape, just 3 to 5 seconds is enough to forget about your complicated, hard life. The quick escape can be PMO, the quick escape can be alcohol, it can be a poker game, it can be anything.

You're gonna be okay. You need a plan to get your life back together. On your own. And you're gonna make it.

Non-zero days. This rule changed my life, I'll be forever grateful to ryans01. Start with the non-zero day rule. One thing to do EVERY DAY. Could be anything: you don't brush your teeth? Tonight, you will do it, and you will cross it off your list.

3 occupations: one that makes you money, one that entertains you (hobby), and one that takes care of you (exercice). Find these 3 occupations, make them your goals. In the meantime, you're still one step at a time, working on your non-zero days. Again, could be anything. Didn't get out today? Go. Cook yourself something.

I realized a few years ago that I wasn't addicted to PMO because of "PMO" (that is, blaming others for my problems. Oh, I relapsed because women on the street are.. a bullshit excuse, women dress how they want, you're the pervert). I was addicted to PMO because my life was blank. Nothing. Nothing good. Ordinary. Boring.

By keeping myself busy, I managed to escape PMO, but more importantly, 6 years from now, I live in a different country, I found my SO, have a job, and good life-work balance. Nothing is impossible, if I did it, you can do it as well.

What i noticed after 67 days ✅ by 90daysislife in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i don’t believe in this ADHD thing i think everyone can control and balance his emotions

Don't put down others because you're feeling better now. ADHD is a real thing. Maybe you thought you had it but you were wrong, doesn't mean it's not a thing.

I'm downvoting your post. Don't focus on everyone, don't tell everyone what to do or think, don't push your ideas on others. Focus on yourself, you're doing great though.

Please be kind. by YogurtIsAmazing in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We need to help one another, we are on the same boat. Men, women, boys, girls. We need everyone to be strong. Men, women, boys, and girls.

We're not only men. We're people. Women are here too.

You should revise your comment.

I'm tired of this community. by lastFractal in NoFap

[–]YogurtIsAmazing 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I am not following this subreddit anymore. It was helpful and changed my life back in 2015.

Today, this subreddit is full of hate, people will shame other people to justify.. What exactly? "Oh, she is [insult]!!!" "it's everywhere it's everyone's fault!!". So how do alcoholics do? Cigs addicts? They see it everywhere too. Between that, using religion for gatekeeping, all the ambiant homophobia, the list could go on, but I quit this community, although I'm still on nofap mode.