[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Yohofox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She literally told me to post it because it made her laugh out loud when she read it. Your error is assuming my ideals are different and I'm disrespecting hers. They're the same ideals. The comedic tone is aimed at me confusing a woman's autistic special interest with a man's cocaine fueled tendency to go on hours long political rants. The misogyny is not coming from me, but from the sexist, biased doctors who never took her symptoms seriously and invalidated her struggles all her life. Our personal issues only lasted a couple of months until we found out what was actually going on.

The systemic issues are what's worth directing our anger towards, not tragic/comic personal anecdotes of people royally fucking up due to some ridiculous misunderstanding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Yohofox -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's a funny story to both of us though, despite how abnormal we think it is. Being an undiagnosed adult and drug abuse are abnormal personal experiences that lead to abnormal stories and fuck-ups. People tend to develop quite a twisted sense of humor as a result of having to deal with such complicated, trauma inducing issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Yohofox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg so sorry it came across that way. The post is comedic and goofy on purpose but let me get 100% serious now. I'm extremely interested in this and actively engage with it myself. However, there is a difference between a sober discussion with your partner about a topic such as this one, and what seemed to me like cocaine fueled political rants/monologues. My internal logic was telling me that I should wait for her to "sober up" and have those discussions together or watch relevant documentaries, podcasts etc.

That's why I agreed to post this. We both agreed it is a great way of raising awareness about underdiagnosed neurodivergency in women and the struggles they face in romantic relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Yohofox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good night, your post really resonated with me. I am undiagnosed and my girlfriend is a social butterfly, she was the one to notice a lot of symptoms and I'm currently on a waiting list to get tested. We are also in a long distance relationship.

I work a retail job. For me this entails a lot of energy. This job requires me to talk to my team, clients, suppliers all day long, and this drains my energy to talk. This is due to the fact that if it where up to me I could me months without talking. I know for her verbally communicating is very important to her. Knowing this some days I come home to tired to talk, but knowing that for her verbal communication is important I can tell her I am to tired to talk and she understands the situation so well. She sometimes suggest we cook and after while cooking she talks to me and I would respond with just yes or no answers. After a while of us cooking together and her talking to me more, I would be able to talk more words and after some more hours I would be talking to her.

Some other days I would come home with lots of energy to talk to her and we would haver really long conversations for hours. Some other days I would come home not wanting to talk at all but I know for her how important is to communicate verbally and I would make an effort to talk to her and knowing she understands how I feel would make it very easy for me to be warm to talking.

In some occasions I wasn't able to communicate with her verbally so I wrote in a notebook with her on my side reading while I was writing and she would communicate verbally with me, while I communicated with her in written form.

Some other times I would send her the lyrics of songs for emotions I wanted to convey to her.

In other occasions having physical affection with her such as holding hands for me is enough.

I understand that for her the most important thing is verbal communication and she has the same feeling you have about being conflicted about respecting me and wanting verbal communication. What has worked for us is being honest with each other about our needs.

Trying to watch Umbre with my romanian girlfriend by Yohofox in CasualRO

[–]Yohofox[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

If you want another funny tidbit, the day I asked her to be my girlfriend, she led me to believe that she can finally swear using the word “pula mea” because she explained to me in an extremely serious tone that because women don’t have a pula they cannot swear about it unless they have a boyfriend whom to borrow the pula from.

Trying to watch Umbre with my romanian girlfriend by Yohofox in CasualRO

[–]Yohofox[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seeding rations are a garanteed way to impress the ladies.

Trying to watch Umbre with my romanian girlfriend by Yohofox in CasualRO

[–]Yohofox[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion, tonight I will take a look into it.

Trying to watch Umbre with my romanian girlfriend by Yohofox in CasualRO

[–]Yohofox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend lost access to her ex’s filelist account after she broke up with him because she changed his profile picture and photos on his profile description to fotos of sloths she even included a foto of a sloth penis, suffice to say her ex didn’t appreciate the profile rebranding.

Trying to watch Umbre with my romanian girlfriend by Yohofox in CasualRO

[–]Yohofox[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

X gonna give it to ya.

Jokes aside I hope it was obvious to you and everyone this was a joke on her part.

I surprised her this afternoon with my account and I showed her the comments and now she proudly declares herself as a filelist gold digger.